I have been dating a great woman for over a month. We had been online friends for a few months and a month ago we decided to take the relationship further. I have recently found out that I have cancer again. I have been battling a form of sarcoma since I have been 18 months old. I am now 18 years old. I care for this woman very much yet I feel so bad about being sick and we do live far apart being she is in California and I am in Virginia. I just hate knowing that she worries so much about me and that I am going to be so sick and in many ways I don't know what tommorow will be for me. I mean with the cancer I never know if this will be the time that the Chemo won't work. Before I have kept girls at bay just so that I wouldn't have to leave them or have them worry so much about me. I know we are falling hard for each other but is it fair to her with me being so sick??
2006-07-01 10:22:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She does know that I have cancer.
2006-07-01 13:07:24 · update #1
well This is a tough one,
I would tell her your feelings towards her and let her know what you have in mind. Tell her what you feel and do what your heart says to do. Tell her exactly what you just said to me. Ask her if it is fair for her to be worrying and all. But make sure you let her know how you feel and your intentions. Then ask her if you would want to keep it on the down low because of this issue. and make sure you always keep the conversation line open with her. Just do what you know is right. If there is a chance you will get sicker then tell her and prepare her for this: and watch out for online relationships, I have heard good stories about it and also heard bad stories about it. But just be careful and don't give your heart to her unless you know you are 100% ready!
I will pray for your healing dear one,
God Love's you! He's always here for you to reach to when you need him ~ keep on keeping on...
God bless you brother,
2006-07-01 10:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shaya G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no clear cut answer for that type of question, only the heart can answer that. But having the distance between you does not help with your cancer. I think it is very unfair for you to carry this relationship any farther without first mieeting this lady face to face. Get to really know her and then make the decision.
2006-07-01 17:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by lilsassy_61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be upfront and honest with her. Let her know what is going on. Perhaps fate brought you two together, and there is a reason she is now part of your life at this particular time. She may be the one to help you through this :-) Give it a chance. People enter our lives for all sorts of reasons - maybe she is supposed to play a major role in yours.
2006-07-01 17:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by CP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really cares for you then she will WANT TO help you through this time. Trust me. She probably isn't thinking that it's not fair at this moment.
I will be praying for you if that's ok. My church is always praying for people with cancer.
Hope this time if the cancer goes away it goes away forever!!
2006-07-01 17:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by nobody is home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her, he support will help you overcome the cancer this time. She would want to be there for you.
My mom recently died from breast cancer, so you will be in my thoughts.
2006-07-01 17:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by pooh2849424 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is not fair, boy. i bet she'll stand next to you thru all dat chemotherapy and whatever u'll hav to do to get better if she truly cares about u. cherise the time u guyz'll have together, is all.
2006-07-01 17:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by michie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to your gf.
2006-07-01 17:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋