Why is love associated with looking good? Does anyone but me get incredibly depressed when they think that people like Paris Hilton can get guys to fall obsessively in love with her, but a person with the most amazing personality in the world can be consistently ignored? Why will women constantly refuse a good guy in exchange for some loud, good-looking show-off? Does anyone have the answer?
2006-07-01 10:16:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you go out with the most ugliest guy you saw but was nice?
2006-07-01 10:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally, look at myself in the mirror, and if I "ME" "I PERSONALLY" like what I see, then others should too. I have been all shapes and sizes and I have had men attracted to me at all those times.. (when I thought I didn't look that good at ALL).. so..
My self-worth is not dependent on someone else's opinion. If people thought more this way, then there would be no issues with self esteem and love associated with looking good.
Paris Hilton is a ditz.. and guys fall madly obsessively in love with her cause she is the heir to a HUGE fortune...
2006-07-01 17:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its partly built into us: we are programmed to respond to good looks as our basic caveman/women instincts think that means the person is healthy and will therefore be good to 'mate' with.
But we aren't in caves any more so it's a good idea to try and get to know someone a bit before we make a judgement! But then again, if you don't have a spark of chemistry with someone then the relationship is going to go nowhere.
2006-07-01 17:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are shallow becaues of two reasons,. first they are taught to be so. and two they choose to be so.,
Magazines have been the worst infulence on how we should precieve ourselves. We need to demand average size people in adds etc.
Some people in our culture are influenced by their parents who do things like, planstic surgery, teeth whitened. Fuss over a few extra pounds., Shop for name brands etc. What do these kids learn? learn to be self obsorbed. If kids had parents that talk about beauty inside and about being honorable and respectiful of others, if they reached out to the poor, valued elders and histrory, did things for those less fortunate.....imagine how those kids would become?>?? Imagine instead of a Christmas ski trip to Vail, a family give a full day making and serving food to the homeless. Instead of always renting DVD's a family might read a classic out loud in the evenings. Imagine a family who taught their kids that inner beauty is more important than outward beauty.
Our gardens become what we plant and what we nuture.
2006-07-01 17:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does the same thing at one point in time we are all shallow and obsessed with looks everyone wants the hot gal or guy on there shoulder all of it is just a show off so that they will feel good bout themselves but in reality everyone will learn that its the guy or gal that is not so attractive that will treat you right and stick by your side
2006-07-01 17:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of people don't feel very good about themselves and they think that a hot boy/girl will somehow make them a better person. I don't associate love with good looks, only the way my hearts beats twice as fast when she is around.
2006-07-01 17:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is a sickness... It's definitely important to be attracted to your mate, but yeah it's not normal to settle for a jerk just because they look good. Sometimes the cute guy might be giving her what she needs on a social level as well. Many times looks come with confidence, and with confidence more stimulating conversation and "ahem"... etc. It's too bad when it gets your hopes up, then you gotta run screamin to save your dignity!
2006-07-01 19:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is not associated with looking good....people dont fall in love with looks. They are PHYSICALLY attracted by the looks but thats about as far as it goes. Love comes from inside, you fall in love with a person...not the way they look. People who go for looks..will never be truly happy....
2006-07-01 17:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by LovableLibra84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an anthropologist by training I see this as a holdover from evolution. As humans attempting to reproduce ourselves we are hard wired to seek a mate that can provide for the specific needs of our children. Thus, men will always seek women that appear healthy and fertile (this ideal changes with the times, of course) and women will always seek men that can provide for their children. Usually it is those that are more sophisticated that can see past these most apparant things.
2006-07-01 17:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lord_Tyveris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In theory looks are what draws you to speak with someone. But I have to say, I've actually never dated one of the guys who I felt an immediate attraction to... because they are often shallow or obsessed with themselves. I've typically dated men who were friends first and who I developed an attraction towards.
2006-07-01 17:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly because many people are shallow and stupid. Blame Hollywood, the media and the liberals. However, if you had the choice of hiring two equally qualified applicants and one looked like The Hunchback of Notre Dame and one looked like me, which would you hire?
2006-07-01 17:22:41 · answer #11 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋