If you were molested by a male neigbor could it mess up your head so bad that you may possible be gay even if you don't want to be? or is it just physoical thing that may need counciling?
2006-07-01 10:14:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
No. No one can make you gay. You are born gay or straight. Nothing anyone can do can make you that way. And there are all levels between gay and straight. Bisexuality is the most common sexual arousal there is. Almost all people, when properly tested, will exhibit some sexual arousal to members of the same sex.
If you are gay, you were before your neighbor abused you.
Sincerely,
Terry
2006-07-01 10:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it can turn you gay but you can really badly get messed up from a number of things even you don't know you are feeling. Guilt, is a major one just because it is human nature to feel like it is your fault. Did you ever tell anyone? It might be scary but you have to get this guy in some kind of trouble. Counciling is a MUST! It is ALWAYS important to let your feelings out and not keep them bottled up. This is a serious event that should be promptly taken care of because as time goes on, things like this don't easily heal. This happened to someone in my family many many years ago before it was a media issue, and by a family member, and to this day this person still has nightmares. Definitly get yourself checked out because this can lead to BAD mental issues if you don't see a counciler. Hope this helps.
2006-07-01 17:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being molested does not have anything to do with being a homosexual or a heterosexual. the most important issue you need to deal with is that you were molested. this is a very traumatic event in a child's life. i don't know how old you are, but being a survivor of childhood rape myself, I know what has helped me heal and continue a recovery that has kept me going. what I suggest is this; one on one therapy, group therapy and the book courage to heal and the workbook that you work on with your therapist. just make sure you are comfortable with the therapist of your choice and that you feel safe and you can trust them. once you get a therapist; they will point you in the right direction as far as groups are concerned. you will be allright!!! remember this always you survived a trauma that brings lots of victims down to thier rock bottom !!!!!!!!!!! the fact that you asked this question isd proof of your strength. please don't worry about whether you'll be gay or not; it does'nt matter!!!! you are a human being!!!! take care of yourself and please feel free to e-mail me. justicejamie888@yahoo.com
2006-07-01 18:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by justicejamie888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be that you're not gay you just are confused because the neighbor molested you get a shrink or talk about it with some one you trust if you can't afford a shrink hope the perv goes to jail for life
2006-07-01 17:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by pretty girl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the ONLY thing contributing to your being gay...then you definitely need counseling. It's definitely possible (and probable) that the abuse you suffered has confused your feelings about sex and sexuality. I would definitely suggest counseling.
2006-07-01 17:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by tictickchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋