I am 8mths pregnant and my boyfriend and i broke up and i just found out he is seeing someone else its only been 2 weeks anyway what steps should i take before and after the child is born. I am giving the baby my last name not his and he already says hes taking me to court for custody just out of spite to control me..what steps do i take?
2006-07-01 09:41:04 · 11 answers · asked by lilonebug 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would contact a socail worker depending on your situation you may already have one. Depends alot on the state you live in. Most states the mother automatically gets custody and if not then the parent the child lives with most has custody. As long as you are a fit mother, meaning no drug or any other type of problem like that you have nothing to worry about honey. Call the local legal Aide on Wed. Thay are probably all closed for the 4th mon and Tues. Unless you can afford your own lawyer in that case alot of family law lawyers give free consults so you could find out your options. I wouldn't worry too much tho honey sounds like he is just a spiteful jerk just stay calm for your baby it will all work out.
2006-07-01 09:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have something to worry about. It used to be that the child was placed with the mother unless she is unfit. Take it from someone who went through a tremendous custody case, that this is no longer the case. Fathers are getting more and more rights. Doubtful that he could gain full custody but split custody is a very real issue you have to face. You need legal counsel immediately. There is an advantage to filing first for some reason. Get the ball rolling. If you can't afford legal representation, call social services who has referals for everything. Document everything also, his contact, behavior, everything. I wish you luck. Depending on the kind of person he is, it will be a long haul.
2006-07-01 16:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by twincerelymel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from personal experience that if you are not married then he has no legal rights to your baby until DNA tests are done and its proven that he is the father. It might vary from state to state, but that's how it is in Ohio and Kentucky. So whatever you do, don't get DNA tests done. Don't go after him for child support either because it will require a DNA test. And its not likely that he will order a DNA test because it is very expensive and he will have to pay the cost. I wish I had known that before I got a DNA test done on my ex. Now I have to share custody with him and he fights me over every little thing just for spite! I have lots of experience in this subject, so if you have any more questions IM me or e-mail me at lady_dragonfly_27@yahoo.com. I would be happy to help. Like I said I wish I had known!!!!
2006-07-07 15:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by lady_dragonfly_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the local FAMILY COURT or Department of health and human services Immediately! They will help you get the ball rolling for child support etc... It is in this process that custody is rendered to which parent etc. You need to get this started before baby is born if he is already threatening you you need to have back up just in case! The hospital will automatically give the baby your last name if you want his last name there has to be an affadavit of paternity filed at the hospital along with the birth certificate...hope this helps. just remember to take steps now b4 baby to ensure his/her safety...the # 1 priority...
2006-07-01 16:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look the child don't belong to any one until it is filed by the court.... you must file first you need to start your paper work before the child is born..go to the D.A. OFFICE have a paternity test done child support 866-480-6081 in order for the father to take the child he has to prove you unfit make sure you are in stable conditions ....when the child is born and the father is not present to sigh birth certificate it will say father unknown a father must sigh his last name if he wont's to be on the certificate ...remember the D.A. DO NT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE VISITATION'S they will only tell about support ...you must keep a log date book day to day on your child to help you for the future if and when you go to court in the book log in all phone calls or threats and expenses that you need to do to raise you child ..... proof good luck..
2006-07-01 17:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i assume that you arent married to him...therefore you have legal custody because you're a unwed mother. But he would have the right to visitation unless you told the court that you like totally feared for your life and your babys life.
2006-07-01 18:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get to court before he does, like now...
and you can tell the hospital staff you don't want him near your room, if that's how you feel. they have to respect your wishes...don't matter who the father is, if you don't want him there, he's not allowed there...
and you know what, if you really wanna be a biotch, go ahead and get a restraining order for you and the baby...just say you're scared for the baby...
2006-07-01 16:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by alfjr24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would make sure it is his, like 99.9% that it is his. We all know how women are. Then get a job that is better than his if you already don't have one. Then save up for a lawyer.
2006-07-01 16:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really nothing. He can not touch you. But you need legal representation anyway.
Find some legal help to explain to HIM he's got nothing on you. This should not go to court.
2006-07-01 16:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reconcile with him.
You'll have to live with him the rest of your life anyway, you might as well get something out of it.
lol
2006-07-01 16:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by god1oak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋