From what I have been taught?

Question

God doesn't give you more than you can handle, right?

Well I believe that everyone who believes that may be able to help me with this then!

I have mental health problems that I have had to deal with since I was 17. In 1996, I miscarried a baby. In 2000, I miscarried another baby. In 2002, my 9 year old daughter died in her sleep from a heart condition. In 2004 I miscarried another baby. In 2004 I had a preterm infant who has some serious eating problems still today. Now in 2006, my 6 year old son is in a mental health hospital and they are not sure when or if he will ever come home.

So my question is -- if it is true that God doesn't give you more then you can handle, how much does he think 1 person can handle?! I hate everything going on in my life and my life is really hard.

If you can help me figure this out - I will give you my sincere thanks, and 10 points!!

Answer 1

Yes your life is gonna be hard, we all have our up and downs but God would never give you more than you can handle, So he beleives you can overecome all this and you must trust in Him to be carried through all of it

Answer 2

I know the feeling of being overwhelmed very well. I have had no easy life either hun. I was left to die by my bio mom at the age of 6 months, adopted at 7 months only to go through 2 full blood transfusions and to be thrown into a house with an abusive father. Then at 14 I was taken into foster care and was in 15 different foster homes, 2 mental hospitials and 3 group homes within 5 years. with several horrible things happening to me during that time. at 19 I was raped by a drunk man....ended up miscarring a baby I didnt want in the first place.....but the damn thought of what happened STILL haunts me. at 20 I became homeless. and my adoptive parents disowned me because I found out that my "father" used to be a woman and was afraid I would tell my nephew. Through out this whole thing.....I survived. I am married to the greatest man in the world. We struggle, but thats a part of life. I have never done any hardcore drugs, my only bad habits are that I smoke a pack a day and drive too fast sometimes. I truely believe that everything happenes for a reason. When you feel like you have hit rock bottom, look up at the sky or look at another living object and take a deep breath and realize that there is ALWAYS someone out there that is worse off than you. and how lucky you are just to be able to see these things. you just might have a chance to help that person someday because of the experiences and hardships that you have had. And when you do help them and see that what you have done is right , it will make everything else seem worth it.

however I am very sorry to hear about your misfortunes and I will pray for you and your family. I hope your day gets better,
Good day and god bless

Answer 3

First of all, let me say that I will pray for you and your family. I am not a Bible scholar, but I think reading the book of James can give you some answers and help for your troubles. Remember that anything evil given to you is not from God. God allows things to happen in our lives and no, he doesn't give us more than we can handle. I think that verse may be in James or I Cor. 10. I'm not sure which. Pray to God on a regular basis about your life. Ask Him for strength and wisdom. Have other people pray for you and with you. Never lose sight of the fact that God loves you and will help you. All you have to do is ask Him. Keep Him number 1 in your life. I know that He will help. Have faith that he will help. Try to remain positive. Focus on some good things in your life. This can help as well.

Answer 4

Wow. If I were with you, I'd give you a hug. But I'm not, so I'll try to answer your question.

"How much we can handle" is a relative term. Seeing as you haven't blown out your brains or jumped off a building, you could be described as "handling" it. I'm not sure where in the bible it mentions that God never gives you more than you can handle, but I think that phrase is something we can't fully understand on earth. I know a lot of people who've had really crappy lives, but I think in the end, we can move on. I'm not saying to forget the pain, I personally know you can't do that, but I think "handling" a situation is having the courage to take another step and live another day.

<3 ollie

Answer 5

The statement that God only gives you what you can handle comes from those who believe that God controls all of our actions and that we are predestined. I personally don't agree with that. God may create an opportunity here and there, but much of what happens in our lives is just the result of the natural way of things. If we are predestined, there is no point to the final judgment since God has chosen what will happen to us anyway. I am sorry to hear of your troubles and pray that God will grant you strength to handle them.

Answer 6

forget about being given anything. start fresh.

here's what i think about your situation, and my advice.

remember, while there's no guarantee that there is an afterlife, you have THIS life, here and now.
this is not to say that life, no matter who you are, is easy.
so, in light of that, while your situation is difficult, its not impossible. i can tell you that my aunt recently lost a son because his doctor prescribed the wrong medication, a foolish mistake. she still grieves for him, every day. but she doesn't focus her energy on his death. she had focused on my sister and i, her nieces. she treats us like her children. even though her loss was very hard, she still found something that was right in her life. she looked critically at her life and saw that while there was a lot of suffering, she still has something.
now my advice. don't pray for someone to make your life easy, they won't, instead look inside yourself. you need to figure out a few hard questions. the first one being, were you meant to have children who share your dna? from the looks of it, not really. but that's not the end. if you really want children, you should consider other options, like adoption. there are many healthy children out there who need mothers. for me, what makes a mom a mom is not that i came from her belly but that she loves me.
another question you need to ask is, what do my mental problems stem from? you mention that you've had them since childhood. to have a healthy relationship with your kids you need to know what made you the way you are (neuron misfire, trauma, disease, ect), and how to control it.
life is hard, and i'm not going to hide from you that there is no quick fix, no prayer, no deity that will make everything go away. the sooner you realize that life is what YOU make it, the sooner you can deal with it and move on.
don't hate your life, its all you have now at this moment. this and your son. your best bet is to find someone strong to lean on - and the only person who has only your best interests at heart is yourself. remember that.
i hope you can move through the problems in your life. if you feel that i can be of more help, contact me.

Answer 7

I am so sorry. yes Jehovah God does not give you more than you can handle. it may seem unfair but life is unfair. I lost a baby in my ninth month 38 years ago. I have three children. my oldest is OK, my daughter 28 is mentally handicapped and my 25 year old has a mild form of c.p. my late husband had m.s. I just pray each day to Jehovah God and Jesus Christ. read Revelation 21 verses three and four. this keeps me going. remember we have Adam and Eve to blame for our troubles and now the devil is down here causing troubles for us. people have no right to tell you not to have children. that is wrong to feel that way. remember Jehovah and Jesus are with you.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry to hear about ur miscarriages, ur 9 yr old and ur 6 yr old. I don't believe this coz people commit suicide when they can no longer cope and people are tortured in awful ways. I feel like I'm going through a problem I can't cope with and the scary thing is it could get worse. Also why would God make people suffer like this and especially make innocent people suffer like babies to make someone else suffer?

Answer 9

Lets see if this helps u. Magnet attracts only iron, similarly people are like magnets. They attract situation according to their inner nature. If I am teased by others, I can go on blaming others but their is something in me that is the cause of being teased. We are using a lot of energy in a very negative manner, All the communication u have is pure energy creating your future.

"I have mental health problems that I have had to deal with since I was 17." "I hate everything going on in my life and my life is really hard". Can you change your magnet, can u stop thinking what had happened and create a fresh future in your language. Like DR. DINO says, "forget all that". Remembering all that is like re+creating future from ur past. Can u start counting ur blessings, be thankful for all that happened, and create a fresh future. Not from the past, but a future from the future. Write down what u expect to happen in the future for u AS IF IT HAS HAPPENED (Future present tense). As if u are standing in 2007 July 01 and be as specific u can be and write it down. Like - today 01 July 2007, I have bought my favorite Ferrari, yellow color, alloy wheels. Write it down and keep it, u will see a miracle. Not just about 2007, do it for the next day, create and create, be possessed with positivity. It takes a drop of color to dirty the water, but we have to pur in a lot of water to bring the purity of water back. U r success.

Answer 10

I am so sorry for your loss. We will never know why bad things happen to good people. I am sure that you are a good person doing the best you can do. I wish I could give you the answer you seek in this message. Only God has the answers you are looking for.
My heart goes out to you and your family. The best I can do is to pray for you, and to advise you to trust in God. God does love you. Talk to God. Tell Him you can't carry any more burdens. Take your burdens to the altar and leave them there.
God bless you.

Answer 11

Jesus said in John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

The thief is satan he stole your kids and trying to steal you mental soundness.You should find a bible teaching church. If you don't have one you can watch this one over the net http://www.creflodollarministries.org/ until then ( you can only listen if you have dial up) on Sun. 7:30 A.M. & 11:00 A.M. Wed. & Fri. 7:00 P.M. EST. Just click on the icon that says "Experience Live" on the right side of the screen. The pastor is real and they only teach the bible so you should enjoy it. The enemy was attacking me in my mind as well and this ministry helped to overcome that.