the thing is tht i hav a gud frnd who proposed me earlier saying tht he loves me.a day later he said it was all a joke abt he loving me and said tht he is attracted to me.i said tht its ok if u dont wanna make me ur gf.now abt a month later he comes to me and says tht he really loves me and wannts me to e his gf and tht he is even ready to marry me.i told him tht i will accept his proposal but i will not be serious with him.have i dont the right thing?
2006-07-01 07:40:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i like him but am not really serious abt him
2006-07-01 07:44:37 · update #1
i have known him frm the past year and i talk to him almost everyday .he is always there for me wheni have any problems
2006-07-01 07:52:46 · update #2
Yes-- you should tell him that it is a no go. Marriage is a huge commitment and both parties have to be in Love with each other with not second guessing. It sounds to me that you may be friends but maybe not the best to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Work on being better friends a lot more first, then down the road when the both of you have a clearer understanding of what marriage and family is all about maybe you can talk about bigger things. It is definitely not there now or even close.
2006-07-01 07:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by azguitar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you havent done the right thing in accepting his proposal. Neither has your friend done the right thing by asking you and then taking his words back saying it was just a joke. Marriage is no joking matter. First of all the good thing is that you are friends. Now the second thing is that both of you need to sit and talk about the level of where your friendship stands. For it sounds like youre not even on the same page. Sounds more like what he stated, that he's attracted to you. Seems like hormones are talking on his end. He doesnt know how to tell you he wants to be intimate with you. A struggling of doing whats right and whats wrong may be at play with him, what's where the proposal probably came in. But he's not ready for marriage. If you want to step beyond that line of friendship and make it friends with benefits thats your choice. But just don't let yourself be used for sex.
2006-07-01 07:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by pgbrady614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
no i dont think so! marriage is serious and shouldnt be played with, afterall you are talking about your whole life!
When you are married you have to always give a piece of yourself, either to your husband, or your future children, you will come last! Marriage can be very satisfying but you have to plan your life very carefully, ask your self these questions,
1. is this person my bestfriend?
2. do we share religious beliefs as in the same?
3. do we share the same thoughts about having children and what to teach the children and how best to disapline?
4. do we have a great intimate relationship?
all these are just some of the things that can come up in a marriage. you should let your friend know that you are flattered but why not try dating first, and really getting to know one another, it will be better in the long run! for both of you!
2006-07-01 07:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by rayjenne24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not the love of your life then someone else is, you can't string him along. because when the real love of ur life comes along your good friend will get hurt or u will feel stuck by obligation and u will miss out on true love. it might hurt him if u say u just wanna b friends but it would hurt him worse if you did lead him along only to drop him 4 someone else. But if ur miserable cause ur stuck he'll be miserable too, if he really is ur good friend he'll understand.
2006-07-01 07:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Narcissa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy doesn't really know what he wants. Let him go and figure it out. And accepting his proposal was not the right thing to do, you're just adding to the confusion.
2006-07-01 07:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me girl? This guy has already told you once he loves you and then said he was joking and now suddenly he loves you again? I mean I don't know this guy but he seems to me a little untrustworthy. But if you think what you did was right who am I to tell you it's not. But be careful darlin', don't want you to get hurt.
2006-07-01 07:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Giving a proposal to a lady is not something you do in jest, and it sounds like your friend gets his jollies out of pulling your chain. Remember the old saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". If he is serious about making a lifelong commitment to you, he needs to prove it, especially after pulling such a heartcrushing prank on you before.
2006-07-01 07:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have done the right thing, I mean you can't really get into a relationship without it gettting serouse. On top of that he said that he liked you alot, and he is just mainly happy that you said yes, but then again he must be really hurt that you don't like him as much as he is liking you.
2006-07-01 07:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take it slow, and wait until he quits making a joke out of it as if he's ashamed or something. Make sure not to ruin your good friendship with a mistake. Do you have feelings for him too, or just as a friend?
2006-07-01 07:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy8722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't say if you are in love with him. Second I would want to know if he is IN love with me or just loves me. There is a difference. Third I would request that he go with me to couples counseling to see if he is really ready to become committed.
2006-07-01 07:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by truckermama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋