my "group" consists of me, 2 girls, and 2 guys. my best friend, is dating one of the guys. he just moved to texas, but they are still dating. and the other guy hangs around with the girlfriend alot more than usual since the boyfriend moved away. she knows that i have always liked him and once we made a promise that we would never date someone who the other person had a crush on. but lately she talks to him all the time, even tho she has a boyfriend, and she has told me that she would totally date him. what should i do?? they hang out all the time and never invite me anymore and she is still dating that other guy, and she is constantly flirting with my crush. last week she was supposed to find out if he liked me, but she flirted with him the whole night and "forgot" to ask.
is she being a jerk and cheating on her bf and betraying our friendship, or am i just overreacting? she refuses to break up with her b/f coz she "loves" him.
sorry if this sounds like a soap opera...
2006-07-01 07:39:49 · 9 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i try to get him alone to talk to him, but she is ALWAYS with him.
2006-07-01 07:45:05 · update #1
make a move first and you will have no problems
2006-07-01 07:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by swim cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm girl but, From my experience i have come to the conclusion that most girls are shady. Your friend probably doesn't even like this guy like u do. Maybe she doesn't wanna see u happy or is jealous. I dont think she is a very good friend.
i had a problem like this with one of friends, she's flirted and has even gone so far as to sleep with guys that i've liked. I love her but i dont trust her around men. Her past boyfriends have always been her friends ex-boyfriends. Maybe she wants what others have, i have no clue, because i would never do that to people i love. There is an unspoken rule with me "Don't step on my toes". to me its just sloppy seconds.
Tell her how you feel, you have to be a ********* about it but if thats what it takes for her to realize that she's not being a friend, do what u gotta do. Ask her who's more important "you or him". It sucks when a boy ruins a friendship. But if talking to her doesn't help, tell her that u cant be as close because if she does things like this now it will get worse cuz she'll think its ok.
Hopefully this makes sense and helps.
2006-07-01 07:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by flo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl, the answer came right out of the horses mouth. Your friend said she would totally date him. Who's to say even though she already has a boyfriend she isnt two timing him? Of course she's not going to ask him if he likes you. You arent in 1st grade anymore passing notes: I like you do you like me Yes or NO? If youre a woman make your interest be known to the guy. Are you afraid of rejection if he doesnt return your affection? Dont be, for that shows he's not the one that is meant to be with you. Just another stepping stone to the real man that awaits your affection and wanting to return it back.
2006-07-01 07:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by pgbrady614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its demanding to declare for convinced, by using the reality that his habit is unusual, notwithstanding it actually seems as if he desires to ask you out yet isn't certain of how you'll reply. for sure, he became once fishing for an answer even as he stated he "incredibly missed having a lady chum." He became once hoping for a good reaction from you want, "i'd be your lady chum." for sure, the guy has insecurities if he will take that technique. that you will be able to preserve putting out with this guy and see the position it is going, yet in case you want to be his lady chum, feels like you'll manage to might want to strengthen his self assurance fairly.
2016-11-30 02:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by mitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, nice friend you got there...if you can even call her a friend! She is not worth your time if she stabs you in the back like that. Unless she breaks up with her boyfriend and really really proves to you that she has strong feelings for your longtime crush, then she doesn't really like him or you much. Talk to her about it, before anyone of you gets hurt, and think about whether she is the kind of friend that is worth keeping.
2006-07-01 07:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by DianaS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously he's not that into you, so forget about him and try to resolve your friendship. Remind her that she is taken and also of the pact you guys made. Then let her know that it would really hurt her feelings and to please back off from him. If she doesn't, then she's not a true friend.
2006-07-01 07:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out yourself or confront your friend. Crushes are not a good enough reason too lose a good friendship over.
2006-07-01 07:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had a crush for three years...you're way past due to step up to the plate. Either make your move with him, or lose him and deal with it. You can't stand aside and wait for things to come to you, you have to go after them.
The meek shall inherit nothing.
2006-07-01 07:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is going to do something like that to you, then she's not a friend. If she is going to do something like that to her boyfriend, who she clames to love, she doesn't really LOVE him, and she is using him so she won't be single. I hate ppl like that!
2006-07-01 07:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋