I have his pass code to his cell phone and I checked his voice mial and there was 8 msg from some girl, he siad she is just his friend but on those msg she siad all kind of sexule stuff that she wants him to do to her, the same stuff he wanted me to say. Now he is begging me to take him back and I want to so bad but I no that would be me lowering myself....WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-07-01 07:26:59 · 30 answers · asked by martini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T, I REPEAT, DON'T DO IT HONEY!!!!!!!!! THIS SCUMMY BASTARD IS TRYING TO PLAY YOU LIKE A WALLEYE ON THE LINE, AND IS SEEING IF YOUR GOING TO NIBBLE AT THE SYMPATHY BAIT HE IS TOSSING OUT!!!!!!
If he knows you are that emotionally dependent upon him, then he feels he has the power, and will manipulate you until you no longer serve a purpose. Have more self-respect then that!! You don't need his company in order to be fulfilled. Break it off with him, allow yourself time to heal, and then find a guy who will respect you for the great girl you are, and not treat you like ****!!
You sound like too good a girl to have to put up with the line this jackass is sending your way. There is a reason why this girl has been calling him and leaving those messages. Also, ask yourself this question; Why didn't he erase these messages if this girl did not mean anything to him????? I know this is going to hurt, but you need to look at this thing honestly hon. Do this, read your question as someone who is considering answering it. If you were going to give advice to a girl who is going through the situation you just described, what would you honestly tell her? And, please, do not use the excuse of, "But you don't understand, this guy's different!" That's just lying to yourself!! And if you cannot respect yourself enough to be honest, then you are heading for a world of hurt!!
2006-07-01 07:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by rhino 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
If he did it once, he will do it again.
If you can't see yourself getting over the hurt and are able to trust him then move on with your life, I am sure there is someone out there that will treat you the way you should be treated and that is with repect.
However I believe that once a cheater always a cheater.
A friend doesn't leave nasty msg on a phone, If I were you I would have called her and asked her if she knew he was in a relationship and then still dumped him.
good luck
2006-07-01 07:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRLFRIEND! Do not give into that crap! First of all, if there was so much lack of trust in the relationship that you would have to be checking his voicemail, then that should have been your first clue that there was a problem! If you have proof- and you do- that he has cheated on you, then lift yourself above that bs and move onto something that will truely make you happy! taking him back only shows him that you're not going anywhere no matter what he does to you! Get some self respect!
2006-07-01 07:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST is what builds relationships. If hes cheating thats bad news. But you dont trust him you checked his phone thats not trust
You broke the backbone of the relationship will you ever be able to look in his eyes and trust him? Especially after thsi. i couldnt go back witha girlt hat did things with another guy. If he was happy withy ou he wouldnt need those things he wouldnt need ot even talk sexual with another girl.
Giving him another chance is just going to cause you to hurt more. He might just get better at hiding it. and he is prolly going to through the guilt on your for checking hs phone. it is a bad thing to do but when he turns it and blames it on you it will never be a good relationship.
2006-07-01 07:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by BIFFERD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure there is no possibility of a misunderstanding. If it all checks out, and this may be hard to hear, it's time to move on. Past experience tells me that once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-07-01 07:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by GAB & R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back,
You need to know in the beginning of a relationship if you are willing to change for a person. If that person is willing to change for you also. Communication is very important. Sometimes you do things he wants and he does things you want. Or be set in your ways and be up front about you not going to change from who you are.
2006-07-01 07:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by tc_an_american 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta tough situation.well al u can do is say tht u will see him for some days and it every thing isd all right ie that if e is not cheating on uu for another gal u can hav him back and in the meanwhile ask all his close friends abt that girl and try to find smthing abt tht girl.best of luck.
2006-07-01 07:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying, I believe this guy is cheating on you. Don't mean to sound harsh here, but you do not need to stay in this destructive relationship. All it will do is bring you down and make your self esteem lower. Drop this loser, there are many other fish in the sea girlfriend!!
2006-07-01 07:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy8722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and have a serious conversation about how you feel about each other and then if you see that he really loves you and he's sorry for what he did ...take him back girl
forgiveness is a very sweet thing to do
2006-07-02 04:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him pray, beg, bow, apologizze and cry in an attept to get you back. Then dump it on him that he can't get you back (after the gifts of course), then date his best friend (if his best friend is a guy and an option).If he hurt u, punish him. *laughs evil laugh*
2006-07-01 07:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Narcissa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋