There is this really nice guy at my church and he asked me out. I liked him so I, of corse, said yes. When I told my mom she realized he was black, and I'm white. Because of his color she made me break up with him, and she won't even let me talk to him on the phone! She thretined to change churches if I didn't break up with him. All because he's black! Is it just me, or is there something wrong whith that? I really like him and he is so sweet. What should I do? I know he liked me too.
2006-07-01 06:52:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dvz is a moron. Humans are not birds. But using his reasoning:
Have you heard of Chinese marrying Blacks or Black marrying whites or American Indians marrying whites or different breeds of dogs inter-breeding?
Your parents were raised when racism was more overt. You may not be able to change them, but don't let them change you either.
You can try discussing the absurdity of it with them and show examples of why THIS boy does not fit their stereotype.
You can still speak with the boy at church; tell him how your parents feel and tell him that your are underage and still live by their rules. When you are of age you can date whomever you want.
2006-07-06 01:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her how you really feel about this boy, ask her why she thinks white people should like white people and black people should like black people. Tell her that it's not her choice who you love, it's yours.Ask her what difference the color of a person's skin makes. Always stand up for what you believe in!
STAY STRONG.
2006-07-01 07:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut to the rescue! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you. Your parents grew up in a different time, when interracial dating was not acceptable. Unfortunately there's not much you can do to change that about them, only hope that one day they'll see things differently. But good for you for not picking up that same mentality!!
2006-07-01 06:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by ladyrn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get ur parents help. talk to them and say wats the big deal. Try to find something that will show her how bad rasists are. its not fair to him for u to break up with him but u need to tell him that u like him. Just be honest if he really likes u hell stay. but it mite be tuff at first liking someone thats family is hard enough but liking someone thats family hates u is just so difficult
2006-07-01 06:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by beach babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 of my brothers are married to white females. they've been with them since high school. you have to be careful. It depends on were you live, how old you are. You have to respect your family wishes as long as you live in there house. What you are doing may morally be right but we live in a crazy society and your parents may be trying to protect you or themselves from the dangers, and stress that come with interracial dating.
2006-07-01 06:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by leodjoneluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parrents are just old fashioned like that baby doll! I would have no problem if one of my sons went out with a white girl!
2006-07-01 06:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing with my parents.i told them if their hate for black folks overrides their love for me then we wont have much of a relationship, when i move out.you need to tell them, if i want to date blcak men i will, you can only control me for so long, and in the end you will lose. i sound like you live with your parents, if you want this man, sneek around and lie, cause they are no better, they are racist.
2006-07-01 06:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl, YOUR PARENTS ARE NOT RACIST.
Have you ever even heard of a Blue bird nesting with a Black bird ?
How about a Red Bird nesting with a Sparrow ?
How about a Robin nesting with a Blue Bird..
They are ALL BIRDS, BUT THEY DO NOT INTER TWINE.
Use your head....
2006-07-01 07:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are your parents and you should respect their decision. All their decisions might not agree with you. But as long as they are your parents and you are under their roof, you should do as they say. After you grow up and on your own you can date who you like and they have no say.
2006-07-01 07:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk to your pastor. Sometimes its hard for adults to pay attention to what their children have to say, but they should be able to listen to what a pastor has to say.
2006-07-01 07:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by prncsb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋