2006-07-01 06:12:24 · 17 answers · asked by raginpixie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known my current boyfriend for well over a year as good friends and it just recently (about 2.5 months ago) turned into a courting (read:Christian) relationship. About 2 weeks in, he said I love you first after much thought and consideration. I had always been deeply attracted to him but was very glad to have taken the time to be his friend first because it made my saying it back to him very pure and true. I have always had problems in the past with guys I date saying it within a week or two when we weren't friends ahead of time. I always felt this was premature and largely based of superficial things. This feels different though. But I'm still wary especially because my boyfriend is younger than myself, He's 20, I'm 22. I just don't want to get ahead of myself and mess things up. I love him...we're not sexual and we're not planning to become sexual...what's a good pace?
2006-07-01 18:05:49 · update #1
Love is something that takes time, a lot more than a week or two. It's an emotion that is extremely hard to understand, but it's normal to think you're in love with someone because you probably have feelings you've never had before.
Tell them that you are developing very strong feelings for them and that you care a lot about them and could possibly fall in love with them if all goes the way you think it is going to. I would hold off on saying the "I love you"s for now until you have gotten to know and trust this person better. Give it a couple months and if you still feel the same way, then I think it's safe to say you love them.
2006-07-01 06:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by blahblahgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When one is in love then no time is ever too soon. Stand atop a building and scream it as loud as you can so that the whole world knows how you feel. The only problem though is how do we really know when we are in love. How can you be sure? Love is a chemical that is secreted by the brain. I forgot what the name is but I'm sure it starts with an s. In any event when someone stimulates this chemical to be released then you love them because you are literally addicted to it. While the effects fade after 3 or 4 years usually that is replaced by deep emotional attachment. So, how soon is too soon to say you are in love? Is it possible to fall in love in a week or two? Yes of course it is. Just be sure you are in love first. Love has been tossed around more frequently than a 2 dollar hooker at a police convention because many of the population have such a limited vocabulary. They either like or love something. All the simple models have only two settings.
2006-07-01 13:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? ??? ??????? ????????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DONT YOU LET YR OWN HEART TELL YOU THAT?
YOur heart and soul knows more than this, and it will tell you the right time always.
Of course love is possible withint a week, even a day! I know what Im talking about. I had the deepest love and relation with a Swede pilot in the Army for 6yrs. It only took 3hrs and I was in love with him and so was he with me.
However, I tend to thoink that love that lasts forever is not made in a whim or at least without any efforts and time. Time tells if people will b apart or not. It puts all relations to the test.
Its very possible to fall in love and stay i love with a person in a matter of a few hours. LOVE KNOWS NO TIME NOR LIMIT.
And its also possible that you fall in love but not so deeply and end up with a relation that will fail. You neverknow.
But what you, like I, know is that love is not something that comes in schedules. Your heart knows if you love that guy or not. If you cannot stop thinking about him, and you find no fault on him, and all the time you are together you feel butterflies and you just "know it"
yo ubetter know that you are in love ...by now.
or not.
Depends on many "feelings" you get. Not jusst lust as many ppl seem to focus on. But emotionally attached to true love, yr spirit will tell you.
I say "I love you" so many times and to people that I trully feel love for them. And not in a matter of sex content at all, but in my heart when I feel so good because of a person, itss perfectly normal to say "te quiero" "i lov eyou"
Today's society fills up a garbage can full of limits and fears on what true love is all about. That's the reason why so much society break downs, people fear and are ignorant or dont want to learn and investigate on love.
Love is a wonderful thing. Without it this world would be so ooooo dark! So why put so many time limits? LET IT BE!
2006-07-09 07:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it's possible in a week or two, you shouldn't acknowledge it for at least a month. That word can change relationships in a bad way, hold off on it so you don't look like a psycho because you already have these feelings. I believe in love at first site and all the above but don't tell this person that you love them it's too early.
2006-07-01 13:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A week or two? What are you, high? Wait until the initial lust wears off to know whether or not you're actually in love. Most relationships are great for the first few weeks, then they start to level off some. I'd wait a while until you knew for sure before saying "I love you." Those are strong words to be throwing around if you don't' mean them...
2006-07-01 13:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes love is possible even after 2 weeks, but throwing the i love u so soon may be a shocker to the other person u might wanna wait until u know for sure that the other feel the same. my husband told me those words on our first date and i didn't until couple months, he propose after 2 weeks, we been happily married for 5 yrs with 2 great kids and our love is still strong.
2006-07-01 13:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by ms_tat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is definately possible. But hold off on telling him until you know for sure how he feels. Or just wait until he says it. My husband told me he loved me after about 2 weeks. It took me a month or two to say it back. I liked to play hard to get.
2006-07-01 13:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Brina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time to grow between two people and can not happen in a matter of days. Infatuation can happen in seconds and can last a long time before it turns into Love or just dies out.
2006-07-01 13:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say that L word until you really now. It took me awhile to tell my current boyfriend that I love him. I don't think love is possible within a week or two.
2006-07-01 13:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jillypooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can love someone after two weeks but you should wait a while to figure out who they really are before getting really serious
2006-07-01 13:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋