What is the best way to overcome bitterness and be healed?

Question

Like everyone in life I have gone through hardships and hurt.

My problem is that I take things VERY personal and to heart like God is singling me out for rebuke and punsihment at times.

I do love the Lord but He needs to be first in my life I do have bitterness because of not being able to have the things I have always wanted, yet I work very hard and am honest.

What is the best way to let go and let God and what are some godly pratcial saying s you have as well as Bible verses that can encourage me and help me to walk in Victory?

What is the best way also to overcome jealously, coventatness and anger, when life turns out not the way I wanted it or thought it would be?

Encourager4God

Answer 1

In my dealings with people I have found that most that share thoughts such as yours are really down on themselves.
It is difficult sometimes to accept that GOD loves you and wants what is best for you.
Thoughts of How could anyone love me.
I'm so undeserving and useless creep in.
Those thought are form Satan and are meant to destroy, which they are.
Realize who you are.
Let go of the past.
And realize that everything you want May not be what GOD wants for you.

Answer 2

Bitterness and anger are things that hurt the person feeling them more than the object of the feelings. There is a process for getting over them.

1. Admit to yourself that you are angry. You have to feel that anger so that you can move past it.

2. Admit to yourself that your feelings are OK. Feelings just exist, there are no right or wrong feelings. It's what you do with them that determines the morality of the situation.

3. Give yourself time. Healing doesn't happen overnight.

4. Learn to draw the boundary between what you are responsible for and what others are responsible for. You have no control over another's behavior. People are going to be selfish, cruel and insensitive at times, more way more than others! It's human nature. All you can do is own your own behavior and make good choices. When someone sins against you, work through steps 1 through 3, and if appropriate, talk to the person. Own YOUR feelings and ASK them if they would consider changing their behavior that is causing your anger.

Example: "John, I have a problem. I'm feeling angry about the way you told me I was stupid yesterday when we were arguing. Do you think you could keep those kinds of comments to yourself in the future?"

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you are a very religious person and I admire you for that..that keeps you righteous, aware you from right and wrong acts.. but the tendencies are you're being too cautious. it hides your emotions towards something.

what I believe is, if your good at anyone,(doesn't necessarily mean that you haven't hurt them),gets along with them, sometimes just being with them....these simple things means service to God itself.

The best way to let go? I don't know really know. it is just normal that you feel those feelings(jealousy ,etc.) when its what the situation calls for as long as that doesn't last long as it should be.

Things sometimes come and go in a different way no matter how well planned.whats important is how you handle it...

Just think that YOU CAN DO IT! there are some other people who survives their problem much bigger that what you have right now..

Answer 4

I can't help you with the God thing. My version of God is warm and loving, and wouldn't single anyone out for rebuke and punishment and make your life miserable.

I think life is what you make of it, and you need to start by realizing that very few people live the fairy tales we're told as children. Life is tough and just plain unfair, and too often the selfish get further in life than the good because they simply don't care about who they hurt. You seem to care. To get past your bitterness about it, you can seek therapy to work out your issues. If you are religious, I'm told that prayer can do wonders.

Answer 5

Dear in Christ I am sure these verses give you answer and strength to live as Christ lived. may these Words which are alive,powerful and sharper than any double edged sword lead you, guide you, in JESUS name Amen
Galatians 5:10 I have confidence in you, in the Lord, that you will have no other mind; but he who troubles you shall bear his judgment, whoever he is.
Galatians 5:16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, F19 fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, F20 drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

Answer 6

Realize that there are people who have experienced the same sort of problems you've gone through.

Understand that the world can be a very bad place sometimes and innocent people get hurt.

Stop believing that you're being tested or punished. Your negative thinking is detrimental.

Don't expect divine beings to come to your rescue. You have 'God' within yourself. Learn to love yourself and be responsible for yourself.

Stop being a wimp. Take charge of your life.

Give yourself the gift of happiness. Only you can. Only YOU can.

Answer 7

The cure to bitterness is knowledge. Knowing a lot of things about life will help you understand what is really in store. When you know what to expect, you'll know how to handle even the more complicated ones even under pressure. This, in turn will increase you self confidence and self esteem knowing that you are actually capable of dealing with anyhting in life. And that optimism within you will finally manage to dominate that bitterness in you.

Answer 8

Hello Encourager. I recently realized that I was beginning to become bitter about the way my life has gone. Bitterness is undesirable because it is cyclic in that it perpetrates misery. No one wants to be around bitter people. So by being bitter, we unintentionally set ourselves up for more rejection, disappointment and bitterness. When I noticed signs of bitterness in myself, it frightened me. So, I started searching the Word for help. What I found was: This is not about you. This is about God's will and the work that you do for Him. Do not give up. Do not become bitter. Stand firm. Fight the good fight until the end. The reward comes. I believe that because I sought the
Lord's help with my trouble, He healed me of my bitterness and allowed me to continue with His comfort and assurance that He would be with me and I would survive. Like you, I am a nurturer and care giver. Sometimes we get burned out. We have to nurture ourselves too. We can do this in different ways. First of all with the Word, daily. Second, by taking care of our health and pampering ourselves a little. Life in this world is harsh. We and others have free will that God does not take away. He watches to see what we will do with it. Sometimes we make bad choices. Sometimes others make bad choices that affect us. Once again, we have a free will to respond to those outcomes as we choose.
I wish that I had known as a young woman, to ask the Lord before any choice of action. Unfortunately I didn't learn until I was about 39 years old. But I'm living more in His will now than mine and life is getting better. I can't have the things that are lost with the past, but I can live a fuller more satisfying life now. Natalie Grant, a Christian singer, has a song on her "Believe" CD called "Held". It is a beautiful reminder of the fact that we were not promised a life without pain and suffering. Look at what they did to Jesus, and He was perfect and good. The PROMISE is that WE WILL BE HELD as we go through this life. My heart goes out to you and my prayers. I hope that you find your escape from bitterness to joy as I have. But remember, it is a constant fight. We tend to turn back to the "self" and Satan loves to use that to steal away our joy. I noticed another question that you posed. It was about being childless. That is not one of my disappointments. However, as a teacher, I see many lonely, suffering children, who need a caring adult in their life, a mentor. They are everywhere, in every neighborhood. This is one of my heartaches. Perhaps you can share the love in your heart to fill the need of a child or children and at once fill your need. I know that it is not the same as having a biological child. As followers of Christ, we are called by the Holy Spirit to make lemonade when life gives us lemons. Or we become sour pusses. In love and probably too many words I leave you.

Answer 9

I know we all have problematic situations in our lives and nurse hurt. Simply go before the Lord with the problem and leave it with him to sort out in his time as we are often powerless to do any thing about some situations in our own lives and he has the answer to every problem. As a child of God he doesn't want you to try and solve problems which are beyond your capacity to do so and he invites us all to leave our problems with him to solve. I have been born again for 38 years and there are plenty of issues which I know I can't solve but I don't let it worry me as he has said that we are to be anxious in nothing so I often go before him and leave matters with him to handle as after all, who better to give the problem to?? He knows best and he is ever there to take control if we let him. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Accept that you are not perfect. None of us are. You want forgiveness when you screw up and hurt people....forgive them. Bitterness will only cut your life short and make you feel bad. Remember this when you start to hold a grudge. Also eat healthy. This may sound strange to you but your diet can effect the way you feel....drink your water and breathe deep.

Answer 11

Have you ever heard the saying" If you want to make God laugh tell Him YOUR plans. god has a plan for each and every one of us. We need to relax and try to figure out what it is that He wants us to do.Jealously,coveting and anger are three things you need to seek forgiveness for.The Ten Commandments tells os not to covet. I do not remember which one my bad, sorrry. I do that it is there. If you really want the things you are working for try geting rid of the bitterness first, then maybe God will Bless with you som,e of the things you desire.