Chris and I had been dating on and off for about a year and 1/2. I broke up with him twice, because he was just too good to be true. So, we tried to make it work a third time. I had to move to Texas from Maryland, and about a month afterwards, he made-out with my now former best friend, Beth, a total of three times. He told me the day after through an instant message. Since then, I have been comtimplating everthing from rushing into another relationship, to going back with him, to never talking to him again.
2006-07-01 05:44:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can answer your question, by telling you my own story. The same happened to me with my boyfriend, we dated for 2 years and a half, and he cheated on me over & over, and the more i forgave him, the more he did it. each time, he had his stories, about the way he loved me, and I was wrong and all that stuff. but let me tell you this the only one who's gonna get hurt at the end is you. this is like an addiction to some people, sometimes they can't even help it. just remember there are more than a million guys out there, who deserve you, truly love you, and won't cheat on you. get your self confident back and dump him before it's too late.
2006-07-01 06:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend made out with a friend of mine one night when they were both very drunk about three months into our relationship. My friend and he met up with me to tell me what happened. Because, like you, I loved him at that point, I forgave him. However, it's now almost 7 months into the relationship and I still find it very difficult to trust him. I thought I would be able to trust him again and I do try to but for me, something in the back of my mind always doubts him - it's so hard, and even impossible to have a relationship without trust. If distance is all it takes for him to be unfaithful, you might want to consider breaking up with him. Do you think he is capable of doing this again? With time, do you believe you can regain your trust in him? Oh - and another question is, does he love you back? If so, question WHY he cheated - talk to him and ask yourself if he is genuinely sorry and regrets what he did (why did he tell you through an instant message?).
Give him another chance if you feel he is going to change, not because you love him. I know it's easier said than done, but if you give him another chance simply because you love him, you'll end up hurting even more. You need to be able to regain your trust in him (and it takes two).
2006-07-01 06:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by pooka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you young ladies would realise that you are all very lucky that you 'caught' your boyfriends before you got married to them. If they cheat at this stage, what do you think they will be doing in say 5, or 10, 15 or 20 years time. Kick their ar*ses out of it and have nothing more to do with them if they misbehave they way they do. Love him? Ask your self the question - how could someone love me if they treat me the way they do by cheating. Have nothing more to do with him and get yourself a decent boyfriend who will treat you with the respect you deserve........
2006-07-01 05:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You break up with a guy twice because he is just too good to be true... I don't see why he bothered with you the third time. Maybe you can explain what too good to be true means and why that made you break up with him...
2006-07-01 05:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get back with him? Years from now you will be with badgage with him and asking questions on the Yahoo board "why is my man unfaithful to me?" You see the sign, Dump him, there are other men out there.
2006-07-01 05:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him again , if he cheated on you 1time so he can cheat on you 100times .
It happen to me, me and my boyfriend just broke up before 1month , i still love him , and will love him my whole life . Because first love never can forget . But i am trying to get a life .
I think you should find someone who loves you ?
good luck
2006-07-01 05:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tithi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never speak to him again...any creep that would make the Mac Daddy moves on your best friend doesn't deserve another chance or your attention:)
2006-07-01 05:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by WORD UP G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Another chance,.... r u serious? I tell u what dont, dump him,...but give him a hard time for sex. Then,..screw 2 of his buddys (or a dude he HATES!!!) Then dump him,....after u clue him in on who's been hittin the cooch. I promise u,....u wont ever look back.
2006-07-01 06:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he made out with your best friend that should've been it. sucks to say but 'once a cheated always a cheater.' they may say they have changed and you might want to believe me but trust me its always the same [s]hit. there is better guys out there. good luck. if you do decide to talk to him though make sure to just keep it as friends. its better than to risk getting hurt again.
2006-07-01 05:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by bambi..♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to prepare yourself for more grief in the future, then forget all about him. Truly he doesn't care about you or he would not have done that...nor would you have broken up with him twice. Time to move on.
2006-07-01 06:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by esker71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋