Ok, I'm 18, still a virgin, and was homeschooled all my life, so I'm clueless on alot about sex and relationships. In fact, everything I know about sex I've either found out in Webster's dictionary or here on YAHOO answers. I'm wondering...
How come some people say sex feels so good, while a few others say their experience was that it was painful?
I moved recently so I haven't seen my boyfriend in a while, and he said that the first thing he's gonna do when he sees me again is kiss me. I've never kissed anyone, so how do I not mess up and ruin it? How do you know when your partner wants sex? And how do you know when to STOP?!?! How do you know if he really loves you, or is just using you for pleasure?
2006-07-01 05:41:14 · 5 answers · asked by ashleythequestionasker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you've got a good start on answering the last question ... you and your boyfriend appear to have been together for awhile and haven't really done anything sexual.
I think the younger a woman has her first sexual encounter, the more likely it is to be painful. The older she is, the more likely it is to be pleasurable.
For one thing, younger girls are more likely to just be targets for some guy just wanting to get his rocks off. They tend not to care too much about arousing the girl and getting her ready. Thus ... pain for the girl.
I'm glad you're not in a big hurry to lose your virginity. Too many young women rush into it and soon find themselves pregnant and without a boyfriend. You're the smart one.
You and your boyfriend can learn about sex together ... one small step at a time. Don't rush it!
In the meantime, if you get horny with those hormones rushing around ... go ahead and masturbate. It will help "teach" your body how to respond once you and your BF arrive at a point you are ready to begin exploring.
Unlike guys ... women's bodies need to be taught. Guys are simply ready NOW! lol
"Teaching" yourself and your body about your responses will also help you learn how to stop. You won't be so curious about "what comes next?" that you continue without thinking about it or lose control. That's important to learn.
Finally, don't even start to explore unless you or he has a condom in hand! Don't be one of those girls who gets pregnant the first time!
Good luck, honey! And remember ... there's nothing wrong with you for being a virgin or not knowing how to "do it" right now ... it just means you have a chance to learn about it with someone who is special and will care about you and your pleasure.
2006-07-01 05:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's situation with relationships and sex is individual and different. It's an answer you have to find within your self, no one else can give it to you.
As to whether or not he loves you or is just using you... again, your heart will tell you.
Sex is a scary thing when you first have it. It's meant as a way to share love or as a way to experience pleasure. But, it's a big deal. Just remember to ask yourself if YOU are ready, not if he is. Don't let his opinion sway you in either direction because only you can know if you're ready to handle such an emotional commitment and rollcoaster.
As far as the kissing thing... you will learn and adapt to his kissing style and I promise, you won't be bad at it. But, if you haven't even kissed anyone yet, I think sex is something that should be far out into your future. Experiment with the little things first, and when you're ready, you'll know.
2006-07-01 05:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by blahblahgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is that it really is trouble-free to end college and be pregnant. no one ever pronounced that being pregnant is a incapacity. i position self assurance on your difficulty yet even extra i trust for the youngster that you made because in case you werent waiting to be a mom you should have used a conteaceptive of a few kind to ward off it. i'm thoroughly adverse to abortion in circumstances like this, pretty because your going to have a impressive existence once college is over and somewhat one would make all of it the better. 27 is an exceedingly good age to change right into a mom... no longer too previous, no longer too youthful! you're probable no extra then 6 weeks alongside meaning you may want to nonetheless end college and then have the toddler! only a concept!
2016-10-14 00:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he will be willing to wait for sex till YOU are ready for it. Talk to him. Be honest about your feelings and what you want. Don't be afraid to ask direct questions. If he is uncomfortable answering, then that's a problem. Couples in love share their feelings willingly.
Just be yourself with that kiss. Try to stay calm and just let it happen. Don't try too hard. It will come naturally. You'll see.
2006-07-01 05:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell........for now ...just enjoy being 18 and where you are . you'll never get this back ever. don't mess it with trying things now. wait for deeper commitment .
2006-07-01 05:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋