We have been in a relationship for about four years now, and the relationship is gotten so comfortable to the point that their is no more excitement. What can I do to kick things up a bit, to save my relationship?
2006-07-01 05:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by Vahe B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IT IS SO NICE TO SEE A GUY TRYING TO SAVE HIS RELATIONSHIP!!! What works for me. I have been in my relationship for 8 years and me and my baby went threw the same thing. He had the same concerns. So he decided to take it back to the beginning. WITH SOMETHING NEW!!! If possible get a hotel for a night do not let her know what you are doing. Go and get the room go to a flower shop and by loose rose pedals. You see where I am going with this. Go to the dollar store and by two whine glasses and if you do not drink or if she doesn't get sparkling cidar. Put that in the room. While at the dollar store pick up some candles. Make sure that the room you decide to purchase has two important things a big bed and a tub that is big enough for the both of you. O make sure you get some sweet smelling lotion. Set up the room the why that you want it and let it rip. You can also do it at home. But if you have kids this may become impossible. If you decide to do it at the hotel right her a note saying that you are requesting a date with her. Suggest your favorite outfit on her. Dress up yourself. Go out and eat. While you guys are out eating tell her the things that you told her in the beginning to get her and some new things that you appreciate about her. Buy her one red rose. And after that go to the hotel or house leave her in the car so that you can go inside and prepare the room light the candles and run the bath water put a little of the rose pedals in the tub one candle in the bathroom blind fold her and lead her into the love pit. Hope that this help you cause it sure helped us and it has not stop since he does it every two months. I even does it for him. Try rubbing lotions on her feet when she gets out of the shower or tub. One sure fire way is that a woman can not resist the soft kiss on the lower part of her neck and center of her back.. HAVE FUN!!!
2006-07-01 06:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by princess4u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would love to say a ROMANTIC dinner would help but after 4 years you have probably already done that.
So it depends on where your lookin to uhmm "spice up" your relationship.
Planning a weekend away seems so "CLICHE" so I wont bother with that one either...
So I'm gonna go with a ROMANTIC approach, Do you know what your partners maybe say FAVE underwear are on you? or a favorite outfit you have?
Try taking a POLAROID and putting it in her PURSE or BRIEFCASE with a NOTE that Say's something sexy on it. IF it's the undies the note could read something like "When you get home from work I'll be in the bedroom with ONLY these on MEET me there" or if it's an outfit like a suit or what not the note could read "Imagine what I have on underneath" or "How would you like to strip me out of this?"
Encourage her to do the same.
IF this seems well a little to "OUT THERE" for you. Try a scavenger hunt leaving notes for her all around the apt leading to say a SENSUOUS bubble bath or a bed filled with rose petal's.
Remember to be creative and again incourage her to do the same. Good luck
2006-07-01 05:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you have children get a sitter buy a bottle of wine get four roses have some candles lit sit on the sofa tell each other how much that your still in love .or you could call from work and make a date to go out to dinner .you could also go for a nice long drive in the country if thats possible I don't know where you live and tell each other how you feel about each other. do things like this often that should spice things up.
2006-07-01 06:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by onepepperbeckman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me if you are wanting to spice up a relationship it is on its way to being over.
It seems to be that if you are so comfortable with each other that you have become just good friends.
Would you sleep with your brother or sister ? No. So that's what your relationship has possibly become.
Get out of it now for both your sakes whilst it is ahead and before the bitterness and accusations start coming in and possibly finding yourself pregnant.
2006-07-01 05:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by diana h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is interesting. I once had a relationship which lasted for FIVE years! Perhaps you might find my suggestions useful.
Get involved in more activities together. (Painting, travelling, extreme sports, etc).
Get involved alone in activities that interest YOU.
Try role-playing in bed. :)
Surprise her with the things that she's always wanted to do/have.
Talk to her about the sweet moments both of you had throughout the relationship.
Cook for her.
There are lots more but I have limited time. So try them out and tell me about the results!
Good luck!
2006-07-01 05:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to dinner, make dinner for her, or maybe even spice up the bedroom. Try out a fantasy. Go on a romantic vacation. Or on a cruise ship. Take her to a spa.
2006-07-01 05:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just do random things like call her in the middle of the day or some time and ask her on a date or take her some where exciting just do random things like that
oh and wat do you mean by save your relationship
if you have been in a relationship that long you shouldnt realy need to save any thing
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2006-07-01 05:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by trouille123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, try going back to the things that you did to get her attention when you two first started out. Like, if you gave her flowers on your first date, then go get the same types of flowers and give them to her. Get creative. We remember stuff like that.
2006-07-01 05:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise her with an expensive romantic dinner at the finest restaurant.
2006-07-01 05:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Benideti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some new things like maybe take her on a vacation to somewhere new. talk to her bout her hopes and dreams if its in your power make 1 of them come true. if you think you know her well enough propose (if you're ready too of course) try anything spontaneous if you think she'll like it!!!
2006-07-01 05:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by savvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋