my daughter wakes the baby up with her loud mouth?

Question

i keep telling my 8 year old daughter to be quiet when the baby is asleep but everyday, it never fails, she wakes him. did any other mothers experince this with their kids? my older sister say they do this on purpose to test you but i don't think my daughter means it as she is awesome other than this. when the baby gets woken up by her, it is hard to get him back for his nap, i literally have to let him cry it out.

my son is 5 months old

and she is not trying be get more attention from me, she either yells at the cat for fighting or something that she can not find

Answer 1

When she wakes him up, tell her to go take care of him. She can rock him back to sleep and see that her actions have consequences (in the form of screaming baby in her lap).

Answer 2

I don't agree with the person who said spank her since you stated that other than this your daughter is awsome. Obviously she is is good child.
Children sometimes have short term memory at this age. The best thing you could probably do is to make the baby's naptime a special time for her. Make a shoebox with items that your daughter would like. When it is naptime for the baby your daughter can pick out an object she would like to play with at that time. It can be markers, stickers, playdough, a special video...use your imagination.
Punishing her for something she does by accident can cause more harm then good since there is such an age difference between the children. It could make her resent you or the baby.
Maybe you could take her to the library and let her check out books with her "very own" library card. She can only read the books during the baby's nap. This way she not only gets to read more, but you also get very quiet time. She will begin to believe that reading is a privilege.
You can also try a sticker chart. Every day that she doesn't wake up the baby she recieves a sticker. When she gets "X" amount of stickers she gets some one-on-one time with mommy. Can be to go to the store, bake cookies, or even just play a game.
I am sure that things will work out for you and good luck with your two precious children.

Answer 3

Is he a light sleeper or just not accustomed to sleeping through noises. You should never tip toe or be quiet just because the baby is sleeping. They need to get use to the noises in the house that includeds loud siblings as well. Its too hard when you have more than one child to make the older ones be quiet and change what they usually do. He is still young enough to get use to sleeping through noises. After a while he should be able to get himself back to sleep but, you may discourage that if you make your presents known to him when he wakes. Don't go to him soon as he wakes. Let him cry and comfort himself. If you try to make it quiet for him you'll have quite a task at hand. I have three older children and a 1 yr old belive me it works. I had to use this method with the others as well.

Answer 4

Its good for the baby to be around noise when they are trying to sleep. If they fall asleep now with no noise it could cause alote of problems when they are trying to sleep when they are older. Of course alote of noise is not that great either. Just try explaining to your daughter that she needs to be a little less noisey when her sibling is sleeping and If she can't than she has to go to her room. Its never okay to spank a child like other people are saying. You will only make your daughter afraid of you, and trust me that is not a good thing.

Answer 5

I have an 8 year old grandson that does the same thing. I don't think he means to, he is just LOUD in the mornings. He is always waking my other grandson. I tell him to settle down and he does for a little bit and then before you know it he is loud again. We have tried everything but nothing seems to work. We are at our wits end too. I wish I had an answer for you but unfortunately, I am in the same boat.

Answer 6

My God, we have the same problem. My 8 yr old daughter always wakes my 10 month old up and I think she does it on purpose. The only way I keep her from doing it is letting her play on Trollz.com, or play outside. Good luck!

Answer 7

Hi I myself have a daughter who was constantly doing the same thing. I have 3 daughters and the middle one has a loud voice box it seems because she still talks pretty loud.I seriously think that your little one doesn't seem to remember very long that the baby is sleeping and she hasn't learned how to whisper.I'm not saying this out of disrespect so please don't take it that way.I just know that my middle daughter really didn't know how to whisper I relized.I had to sit down with my middle child and teach her how to whisper and it was funny to tell you the truth but she eventually learned.

Answer 8

If this is 2 extreme ignore me.
If U R still getting up at night with the lil fella, wake loudmouth up say she has 2 keep U company until he goes back 2 sleep.
She'll soon go off the habit of waking him up during the day.
Fight like with like.

Answer 9

your first mistake, dont make your child be quiet. I have 3 kids and have never had a problem with this because our child doctor told us let the kids be noisey and the baby wil learn to sleep through it. It takes about 2 weeks and its very trying but it works. now all 3 of my kids are good sleepers and can sleep through people talking. we have a few lous mouth friends that tend to some over after the kids bedtimes and they can even sleep through this now.

Answer 10

hang a sign in the area where she tends to be too loud to remind her to use her inside voice. She might also need to go outside during baby bros. nap time.

If she can't get it.....when the baby naps....big sis is on quiet time too. it should only take a few days of her having to be quite during nap time and she will remember to keep it down.

Answer 11

kids love babies my kids actually wake up my niece so they can put her back to sleep when the baby is asleep your daughter is 8 send her outside if it is night time give her some sparklers maybe she is loud when the baby is asleep as a way to get attention