I've been dating my new bf for a few months now. he's a great guy. actually he's everything my ex bf wasn't. the only problem is that i really don't enjoy having sex with him, the way I did with my ex, and it really seems to be a big problem. I can't talk to him about it, 'cuz I don't wanna hurt his feelings, and I really love him. I really don't know what to do.
2006-07-01 05:28:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with lcamel2000, back off from the sex. That isn't what makes a relationship. Sex is only a complement to a commited relationship not what makes the relationship work. Find other ways to show love towards him. A man's biggest need is respect, which is something you aren't giving him by thinking about your ex. Build memories with the new guy and do other physical things with him. You need to give yourself time to replace your memories of your ex with your new bf.
2006-07-01 07:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by briannaclifford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one reason why it is not good to have sex with anyone but the person you marry. Too many memories, and comparisons, and even, for some, guilt. Maybe you are not even OVER your ex. Maybe you need to spice it up with the new man. Too late to turn back the clock, but, I might suggest that you hold off sleeping with a man, till you LOVE him. Love changes everything, and makes the sex so much better.
2006-07-01 07:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is many type to hav a great sex, tell ur bf new way to hav good sex or find a style of sex which make u both feel better.
2006-07-01 05:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rajan Forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all i can say is that deep in side u still have feelings for your ex. I personally know that everyone is different in there own way, so since your boyfriend can't please u that much then, u should spice up your sex life, do something u haven't done with him before.
2006-07-01 09:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by finey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you love him or you are just trying to get over your ex. sometimes people go to extremes of thinking they 'love' someone when they really don't. if you can't get your ex out of your head then this must not be the guy you really 'love' soon you will find someone who means everything to you and will make you forget about him completely. until then good luck.
2006-07-01 05:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by bambi..♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's more to the relationship besides sex, seems like thats all you ex was about, everyone is not the same, once you get in to the relationship from the heart you can teach, explain about anything and how you know it's not you
2006-07-01 05:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by RAMONA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose what is more important to you, sex or love. Don't look back it will only bring a problems. Teach him what to do. He is probably waiting for it, then u might expect him to be better.
2006-07-01 05:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, it's still a new relationship. You have to get used to one another.....Sex gets better in time with practice...... He is in your life now, forget the past and go on and don't compare him to your x. Enjoy the newness while it lasts......
2006-07-01 08:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you still care about your ex but he is your ex so stop your thinking about your ex so much and then may be he'll leave your thoughts. but just by reading this i really think that you still like and care for your ex. but he's your ex for a reason, good reason or bad reason?
2006-07-01 05:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by juicyfruitishandsome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for u to do would be to break it to him gently coz its only fair that you enjoy your sex... so you should talk to him... and just be nice about it... You can get loads of med help and yoga works really well too...
2006-07-01 05:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lilvai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋