Ladies, Give me your take on finding a good woman.?

Question

I had a girlfriend for five years during that time she had my child which died during birth afrt that she joined the Army, moved to Germany and got pregnant by a German.(Now that's not the sh**ty part) This woman had seen two prior to her staying in Germany and Iater found out she was banging him then at bootcamp. I could not understand I was the best man I could be to her. When I found out I could almost hear my heart breaking. Now that I am single I am almost ready to enter the dating scene again. Even though I have alot to offer i.e. ( college grad, decent job, an apartment outside the ghetto) I am having trouble finding a woman and all the pointers i have been getting from my guy friends have been useless. So, Ladies give me some real good practical advice on finding a decent that will really work and help me navigate this new world of singleness.

Answer 1

About your ex, it's probably she was very immature and not ready to settle down, but still wanted to "play the field" a little bit, experimenting with other men and dating situations. She doesn't sound like she was ready to be in a stable relationship (i.e. joining the army, moving, etc.).

But, about you: "decent" women are all around you, but may not be your type, look, etc. The whole point in dating is to try your luck with different people, finding out more about yourself and what you like in women and don't like. By dating more, you'll be able to stop wasting your time with losers, and narrow out the scope of women you'd like to date based off of your expectations in a woman. First off, women love confidence, but not arrogance; there is a distinct difference. We don't like manufactured lines, but men that ask us ALL about us: it's never about you anyway (sounds harsh, but it's true). Ask us about our lives, what led us to where we are now, our families, ANYTHING that makes us talk about ourselves. You can tell a lot about a woman by just hearing how she relates to siblings, friends, etc. That way, you can tell if she's "decent" or not. Listening is a prime skill you need for women. Listen for any contradictions, all-or-none statements (i.e. I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend), or just plain bogus arguments. A third thing would be to ask your lady friends about what advice they can give you too, since they personally know you. Hope I've helped!

Answer 2

I really agree with the person who said to wait before sharing your sad story. There will be an appropriate time to tell it, but not right away. You want to come off as happy and ready for a new relationship. I can't stress enough that women are attracted to smiles and friendliness. And although attraction is important, if you tend to only like a certain look or body type, try to "think outside the box" and you may be pleasantly surprised. Good luck!

Answer 3

Start by healing. Sweetie, you're still broken up over this past relationship....you aren't ready to love again. Women can smell that a mile away. Please do not deny to yourself that you're over it and ready to date again; because you wouldn't have included any of your history in your question otherwise.

Start by taking good care of yourself. Read, run, reflect. (Work your mind, body, and spirit.) Once you are living well on your own, you will be ready to share your life again.

And whatever you do, DO NOT repeat your heartbreak story to another woman until you've been dating at least 6 months. By that time you should be settled into the relationship long enough to hash out the past and look towards the future.

Try reading "It's called a break-up because it's broken". (Do not let your guy friend see it.)

Answer 4

First off, you must not allow yourself to be jaded by that experience. Secondly, you must forgive and forget... no woman will want to hear a single word about how another woman did you wrong...that will drive away any good woman. Then try to be happy with yourself, women want to be happy...if you are already happy then they feel secure they will be happy with you. My suggestions for finding a woman are simply to smile alot and if you see a woman that looks nice to you then smile at her. If she smiles back step towards her, if she turns away leave her alone...if not approach her. Say something like how are you, or I just couldn't resist such a pretty smile. Women love to be complimented and are frequently won over by nothing more than the belief that you find them beautiful. Remember to listen...listening includes making eye contact, facing your body towards her, and repeating info that you think she thinks is important. Women will do all the talking if you let them...listen and you will get much farther than talking, cuz you might tell them something they don't want to hear. Once you have a good woman remember these things always everyday should be like you are trying for her love. Best wishes

Answer 5

Be friendly. If you're standing in line somewhere, start up a conversation with the person next to you. By being friendly and looking confident and happy, you will attract people to you. By talking with different people on a daily basis, you will learn how to spot a friendly decent person in return and hopefully find someone who will want to continue that friendship into something more. Good luck.

Answer 6

first of all dont let color age or any of those outside effect your decision .look outside of where you have been looking try diffent places. take some time get to know a person as a friend first.it is like a car you cant just buy the first thing you see you have to check it out first. wait on the sex because it changes things. if all else fails call me .

Answer 7

just be urself. if u say that u have a lot to offer to a woman then let them come to u by being urself. if ur homiez aint givin good advice then don;t take any from them. trust me if ur as good of a guy as u say u r then they will come to u. sounds good? holla at ur gurl
much lub and good luck

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Answer 8

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