Me and my boyfriend have been fighting because my family doesn't like him. He is white and i am black and thats what most of it is about. Also my boyfriend got mad because i talk to one guy friend on im and he says its wrong but I just talk about him all the time. He doesn't belevie me and said i am going to lose something good. I don't know what to do because i really love him and i don't want to lose him. Can someone please help me?
2006-07-01 03:40:33 · 9 answers · asked by shygirl_funny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well , if I know all the facts as presented , if your family is racily to your BF there is a slim chance that will ever change you need to do what makes you happy . don't dump your family entirely I would begin to distance myself from them and tell them why. If this guy make you happy stay with him , work it out, curb the time you spend with your ims and work on the relationship . although your family will be there for you you still need a good lasting relationship with someone you care about . and if my feelings are right this BF must really care alot about you to be battling a family and hanging in there regardless of all the negative things that he must face each time he is around you Yes he really loves you because of all the looks and the mean things people say about interracial relationships..." The Internet is the best thing since sliced bread" but whats even more important than that clicking keyboard and that colorful screen is a HAND TO HOLD AND LIPS TO KISS AND AN EAR TO LISTEN, AS WELL AS A BODY TO CUDDLE UP WITH...... in short tell your family to butt out cut the IMs and look into you BF's eyes and tell him you love him and that we can work it out.... I think he cares about you more than you would ever imagine
2006-07-03 10:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by chickenfarmer77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen,if he says you're going to lose someting good then you need to let him go sweetie. i know it may seem hard but family knows what's best.But, if they don't like him just because, he's white then that's wrong. i see your point but family will always be there no matter what. Men will always be here and you never know you might even find someone that's as special.If he really love you then, he will understand.If he trusted you then he should know that the im pal is just a friend and it's nothing serious. That's a sign that there's no trust. and once trust is edited out a relationship it's no good it dosen't have meaning anymore.I hope this helps you understand the truth!
2006-07-01 03:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sexytaurusaka305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your convos for a while or talk to the guy friend in front of your boyfriend for a while if it's bothering him... and if there really is nothing inappropriate going on between you two, he'll see that and let it go. As for the family, you should never dump them, but keep trying to patiently let them get accustomed to your interracial relationship... It seems that younger people are so open to many different types of love, and yet our families and older people don't understand... I don't get why there is still racism and prejudice around... My high school was very mixed with different people and we all had a blast together.
2006-07-01 03:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st your parents sadly seem a little racist from what your saying here (no offence intended).
as for your boyfriend well tell him it's his choice if he wants to leave you because you have both man and women as friends, ask him does he have other girls he is just friends with? I'm sure he does.
you have to address the issue with your family not liking him. if it's just his skin colour they object to. then you have to tell them you love this guy and he makes you happy (if in fact he does). you then need to explain to your family that there attitude is upsetting you. ask them what they want for you from your relationship, if they want you to be happy and well looked after and this guy your seeing is making you happy and is looking after you and treating you well (he may not be doing as good a job as he can if he is being stupid about your chat on IM) tell your family there wish has come true for you in the guy your with.
as for your guy and the IM have you got the IM recording and saving your online conversations? if yes then open the archive and let your bf read what you have been saying.
this should stop him being so mad as you put it i prefer to think he is a little jealous.
good luck and i hope this helps a little.
2006-07-01 03:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken9090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships that are intetraracal always will have problems you have to put your family first , in time they will come around to your b/f as long as he's good to you and open to your family , as for the online guy friend you mit want to stop that find an online girl to talk to and diffently talk to b/f about why he's so uneasy about you talking to other guys online
2006-07-01 03:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your parents need to get into the year 2006, its not the 1950's. secondly show your bf some of those im not all unless you want to. then he would believe its not like that you are cheating on him, he cant tell you to stop talking to a friend.
2006-07-01 03:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the boyfriend, not your family. He sounds too controlling and your family will always love you.
2006-07-01 03:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to ur family tell them how much you love your bf
2006-07-01 03:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by girly wirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love ur bf. . . stop talking to this other guy. . . and if u really really love ur bf. . . dump ur family
2006-07-01 03:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋