My student has a crush on me what should I do?

Question

He even is checked to see if I went on vacation...I told him not to worry about this.

I am not a teacher in America. I have stop the contact with him now but i must return to his school in 1 week..
The student likes to be around me..I don't know how to say...maybe he just likes me alot?

Answer 1

when you talk about student a student can be anyone from age 1 to age 101... ages please yours - his. If he's an adolescent - this is normal most guys get crushes on their hot teachers - I know I had my heart broken by several educational hotties. If he is a minor just keep it friendly and professional. Avoid any and all physical contact and choose your words carefully.

Answer 2

Yea, talk to other teachers and to the child's parents. Most likely it's just a school-age crush, but you don't want anything bad to happen. How old is this child? Maybe you can tell the class all about your (made up) husband. Maybe he'll realize that he can't have you, and move on to a girl in his class. There's nothing wrong with children having crushes... unless we're talking about high schoolers, then maybe you'll need to step into your teacher role and teach the darn class, don't treat him any different then the other students.

Answer 3

Its not uncommon for students to have crushes on their teachers. Especially boys.

Do a few things. First of all, i wouldnt bring it up, not if he's in or beyond highschool, since aknowledging the attraction only incourages him.

Second, i would tell your colegues that you have a issue with this child, and that its making you uncomfortable because its inappropriate. You dont want to crush the boys feelings, but you also dont know how best to discourage them.

Chances are he probably seeks you out for extra attention, such as asking you ample questions or coming to you for help. I would tell him out right that he needs to do the work on his own. Perhaps set the class up with a buddy system, try to pick the pairs yourself, and be sure to pair him with someone who wont feed his behavior. Then you can refer him back to his buddy for problem solving more often, so he will not be coming to you all the time.

If it comes down to it, and he's still fighting for your attention, you need to address the situation in class, or in front of the principal, or dean.

explain to him that you are not a fool, and you realize he has a crush on you, and that his behavior towards you hasnt been acceptable and if he cannot fix himself greater action will need to be taken. Either dropping the class or intervention from the school on some other level.

These days this sort of thing isnt to be triffled with. For the sake of both of your safety and reputations.

Answer 4

Just be sure you don't get in a room with a closed door and always have another student, preferably a girl or two, with you when you talk to him. Keep your conversation very professional and never go for any personal inferences, questions or suggestions. If he gets too forward have a male teacher he respects, like a coach, talk to him and just tell him that "teachers are legally like parents," "en loco parentis," "in stead of parents" and that's how it is. Eventually he will burn it out and go for some little "hottie" his age.

Answer 5

Don't cross the line, whatever you do. I would not even talk to him about it especially not alone. Just do not ever put yourself in a situation where things can be manifested in his mind and cause chaos in your life. 9 out of 10 times whatever he says will be seen as the truth even if you are innocent it is just how our CJ system is. Try making it seem as if you don't enen notice it. Don't react to it. Maybe it will pass. Good luck. Do you have anyone in human resources at the school you can talk to privatly. This is so stressfull on you seek proffessional help if possible.

Answer 6

lol

are you sure he has a crush on you? maybe he is just wierd and you are making him anxious because he can sense that you think he has a crush on you?

ive been in that situation before. i didnt want nothing to do with this teacher but things just all seemed to go awfully wrong and akward. ...i dont like looking people in the eye and so she caught a lot of glances from me where i looked away as soon as she turned her head. ..like every single time i went to the bathroom or library after class i somehow ALWAYS managed to time it where I would be walking right behind her. ....and I really opened myself up emotionaly in my papers because that is how i like to write. ...the point is it was hugely akward and im sure she thought i had some kind of crush on her but i already had my eyes and heart set firmly on my g/f.

He could just be a little wierd and he is aware of how akward the situation is which is causing him to act wierder and giving you the wrong impression.

Answer 7

I don't think it's unusual for a student to have a crush on a teacher. What is unusual is for the teacher to be flattered. Please don't get in to the trap of giving this student any special attention or encourage him in any way. Don't share any personal information. This is called ethics....and if you happen to do something unethical, you will lose your job and have that on your employment record for the rest of your life. And that's not to mention the emotional trauma you would cause his family. Please encourage him to get friends his own age, and eventually he will leave you alone. Don't worry about his "worrying"...just let it go.

Answer 8

Talk to your immediate supervisor and lay it all on the line for him/her. Ask him/her to quietly supervise any classes you have with this student.
Treat the student as you do all other students.
Do not give out any personal information to any of your students (they pass it among themselves).
If the situation persists or escalates, have SOMEONE ELSE contact the student's parents for a conference. DO NOT attempt any private conversation with either the student or the parents.

Answer 9

I would definately stay clear of the situation and do absolutely nothing to bring on more unwanted attractions from this student. You should also probably tell someone so that if he gets his feelings hurt he can not hurt you by trying to retaliate. You have to be careful with kids because if they get their feelings hurt then they can turn around and be nasty little things and lie so that you end up getting in trouble. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Do you have a thing for this student? You should tell your boss so he/she knows you have nothing to do with it and you are concerned. It may be an idea to tell his/her parents also. I know its cruel but it will benifit you both. You won't be streeing and the student can concentrate in class and get a good education

P.s. Don't take this seriously or even be flattered...the student is a child