Why do so many guys seem to assume that if you kiss them you're willing to sleep with them and get really arsey when you won't and start calling you a ****-tease?
Seriously, just because you kiss someone, why would you necessarily assume that you're going to get sex?
2006-07-01 02:18:03 · 20 answers · asked by Jen 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I didn't say ALL guys, I said why do SO MANY guys.......I'm well aware of the fact that there are some genuine and nice guys out there, I just don't seem to have met many of them so far.
2006-07-01 02:22:26 · update #1
I DO like the guys I kiss, but that doesn't mean I want to jump into bed with them. I have no intention of having sex until I'm married and it really bugs me when guys try to take things further and you've already made it perfectly clear that you don't want to go further than kissing.
2006-07-01 02:26:37 · update #2
You're dating immature punks. You need a real man not some guy. Seriously, most guys are influence by peer pressure. Guys that have low self esteem think that this is the only shot to prove their manhood. Unfortunately guys feel that sex make the date complete. This is also one sided, ie What signals are you sending,what provocative clothing are you wearing, what kind of kiss (long, short,smooch) these are key factors, and men interpret these signals differently. In a benevolent way you need to make your intentions clear without intimidating him.
FYI: Guys will window shop,,always leave him with the impression that his time will come.
2006-07-01 03:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by joe m 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You got into a game and now you don't want to play. 9 out of 10 guys you kiss are going to feel that way; unless you touch bases with all of them.
Only kiss a guy you feel is good enough to possibly go further in the relationship at some point and let that one know that things go at a pace; that you don't jump from a kiss directly to bed.
Sounds like you're having a lot of risky fun. All of your own doing.
2006-07-01 09:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they are right and sometimes they are wrong, is it right for you to assume that every guy should automatically know what your intentions/reason behind every kiss, unless you want to be wasting 10min before and after every kiss/action just accept that guys will make assumption(guys aren't mind readers, women are better at mind reading so if your fed up with guys then turn to girls), but it's more wish full thinking then assumption, put yourself in a guys shoes, your useless at reading minds so all you can do is try to read signals, you get a kiss from a girl and a few flirting signals, we can either assume that she wants to sleep with us and go for it and if we're right we've scored but if we're wrong then we've made a bad impression and probably lost all respect and any future chance of anything happening, but if we assume that she doesn't mean anything other than being friendly and we're right then we've got a friend for life but if we're wrong then we've made a bad impression and probably lost all respect and any future chance of anything happening, so both assumptions have the same negative but as for the positives if we choose the friend for life we will probably never get laid(unfortunately for me i always choose friend for life so I've got no chance of ever getting laid), and that's why most guys choose the getting laid scenario because if they're wrong there's plenty more fish in the sea
2006-07-01 10:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the kiss, is it passionate or just a peck, do you wrap yourself around them or are you at a slight distance. if you are not sexually interested in these guys than perhaps a hug would do and save you kisses for someone that you want to have sex with. Once you get a guys motor reved he's gonna wanna drive you hard !
2006-07-01 09:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by DarkStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because kissing passionately is a form of intimacy, most men feel that this is leading to sexual intercourse. If you do not want that type of misunderstanding, refrain from being overly intimate and be honest with the man by telling them that for the time being, you want the relationship to remain platonic. Don't give mixed signals!
2006-07-01 09:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Randy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because a kiss is usually what comes before getting intimate, its not usually just done in jest, when we like a girl we want to get intimate and we see the kiss as the first step. that doesn't mean that it has to be right away, it can take a day, a week, two years, but thats the logic behind that for you
2006-07-01 09:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Hans B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When will you women learn, men are pigs and want sex even if you talk to them. If a guy sees a woman.....he wants sex. Kissing you is just a start to the process. Most guys anyways.....I'm not like that. I have a girlfriend...but still want sex whenever I can and if kisses get it for me..YEAH!
2006-07-01 09:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by eaj174 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether men (or women) will actually act or vocalize their thoughts and wishes it is natural for both sexes to anticipate (once the physical aspect of the relationship has started), that it will follow a natural flow of progression. However, if there isn't mutual respect for each other's wishes on how fast that progression occurs than I would move on.
2006-07-01 09:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Trixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys assume that even if you look at them your going to have sex with them. They call you a tease so you feel bad and give into there sexual advances. There is hope though when they get older they crave it a lot less...
2006-07-01 09:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by summer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kissing is a count down to a launch. Once started there are actions that are HARD to shut off. The less experienced you are at dealing with it, the longer the anger and frustration last, while making us feel pretty uncomfortable.
2006-07-01 09:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by ardlesstraveled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋