I am just curious and want to hear everyone's opinion. Do you think that a State Trooper's wife should try EXTRA hard not to break the law? (speeding, no seat belt, etc.) What are your opinions of Trooper's wives in general?
2006-07-01 02:17:35 · 14 answers · asked by Troopers_Gurl 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
To answer some of your statements I do not want to BREAK the law, in fact I have never been arrested or anything. I'm 22 years old and my hubby has been a Trooper for three years (we've been married for 1 yr) I am asking this because he always tells me that I have to be extra careful (than I already am...) because of what people might think. I was curious to hear what people really did think about it. Yes I am more likely to get away with stuff, especially if someone knows my hubby, but I am not the type of person who would try to 'flash' my ''power'' around. In fact my hubby told me that if I EVER get pulled over NOT to mention that I'm a Trooper's wife. I do think that Police Officer's wives have to deal with a lot more than most. We are constantly having to give our hubby's the confidence they need, while we worry about their safety. I LUV the police force!!
2006-07-01 02:29:45 · update #1
Essentially, yes. If someone saw you break the laws, such as not wearing a seatbelt, or speeding, then it would reflect on your husband. He, as I am, is there to uphold the law. For his wife to be breaking them, would make him look unprofessional.
And if you do get pulled over, don't mention that you are the wife of a trooper. It will make no difference.
But on a side note, I know what you have to deal with. Every time I go to work my wife kisses me like its the last time she will see me. That must be hard. And if it wasn't for the loved ones that we come home to, the Police Forces worldwide would have crumbled by now. Cops are human.
2006-07-01 02:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by SurfCop 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Yes. I, personally, don't pay attention if police officer's wives are breaking the law. And I don't ever hear anyone talk / gossip about an officer's wife running a stop sign and getting by with it. What I hear the gossip and talk about is whose wife is sleeping with whose husband. Or what a ***** so and so's wife is or how crazy she is and how she calls him all the time at work. Or how this guy won't leave the city limits because his wife thinks he's having an affair. Or how she is putting them into debt by trying to keep up with the Jones' and living way beyond their means. Or how she doesn't understand him and complains all the time.
But then again, most of the people I talk to are police officers or troopers, since I am an officer.
Bottom line is just as others stated; we are all held to a higher standard. Officers and their wives or husbands. And if the public is talking about a wife, you can guarantee the rest of the rank and other departments are too. And you DON'T want him to be embarrassed by your actions EVER.
You seem like a consciencious person, just stay that way. If you hang out with a bunch of troopers wives, just know, they and their husbands will be talking if you ever screw up. Be nice and friendly, but keep that guard.
Other troopers don't really care if you get out of a ticket, as long as it isn't a recurring event. They will start to tease him about it and then he'll be upset with you.
As far as my opinions of troopers wives. They are just people to me. I know a LOT of them personally and a lot I've heard about. Some are good as gold. Some are the biggest b!tches I've ever met. I don't think that has anything to do with being a trooper's wife; I think it's their personallity. I only associate with the nice people.
Good luck to you and your husband!
2006-07-01 10:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by MissCan'tBeWrong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in some ways there is a higher standard. It's as if those with or related to a badge are to be held perfect. That isn't what many think (I don't) but many do. I do think that - this might be a backwards way of looking at it - but I've worked for a tow truck company (and with that, officers) and dispatching - and I think when you see the kinds of things seen as "part of the job" it makes you more careful. Speeding to get somewhere early rather than a couple minutes late isn't as big of a deal - being prompt is important but IMO better to arrive a couple minutes late than not at all. I figure with having officers as friends over the years it does no good to say that when I get pulled over because what isn't said (but I'm sure thought!!) is that I should know better...and it's true. Your husband has a thankless job and you have one just as difficult.
2006-07-01 12:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jan H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a firefighter, and as A fire chief`s wife, I feel that I am held to a higher standard of things.When you are in the public, eye or married to someone who is, people DO notice what you are doing .It`s not just that, but I feel like it reflects on your job how you ( and your spouse) carry them self in public.
If you do things such a speed, and not wearing your seat belt,and happen not to get caught people are going to say "well, she gets special treatment just because her husband is a state trooper".
Another reason I say this is my father in law has been a state trooper, a city police, and a sheriffs deputy.He has always told my husband and I that when you work with the public like that, that the do watch you and do judge you.You yourself now how people are prone to gossip and judge others.
As far is what is my opinion on Sate troopers wives is this: My Mother-in_law is on of the best people I know, she is a good citizen, and people look up to her and my Father-in-Law .
So, all in all , I think you are held to a higher standard.
2006-07-01 09:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Heather D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The public hold law enforcement officers and preachers family to a somewhat higher standard.
If a police officer ( who has not been a officer in 10 years) commit a crime, the news will always say Prior police officer did this or that, you don'[t hear about someone who was a prior plumber, or a prior grocrey clerk.
It is not right was all all just regular people.
2006-07-01 10:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hold you in high regard (I rate nurses higher) and therefore I don't think that you should be extra careful.
It's your husband who is the trooper and therefore he is the one who should watch his speed, etc.
Mind you if he does get caught speeding and shows the officer his badge then he'll probably get off with it anyway.
To me, you are the wife of a trooper, in the same way that your neighbor might be the wife of trash man, doctor, bar tender, whatever.
2006-07-01 09:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by old_man_blanco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard a few stories from my ex-cop ,ex-bf about his ex-wife and some of their really close friends who are still cops, and honey ,THEY AIN"T NO SAINTS! They are human like everybody else, and they do things like everybody else...(even more than I ever dared!) .In fact, the wives were the ones that got the "party" started.
2006-07-01 09:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think you should not, I'm trying to become a police officer and i wouldn't want my wife help to a higher standard just cause of of what i do for a living
2006-07-01 09:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by superman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only step out with another police officer.
2006-07-01 10:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. This way you know you're more likely to get away with it. That's not fair, but that is what happens.
2006-07-01 09:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by threesoares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋