my husband was out of town at the time,i told my husband what happened when he returned,he was and is very understanding and thankful that i told him what had happened. i do not remember any part of that eve. what should we do?
2006-07-01 01:41:50 · 23 answers · asked by tom90712 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's sexual assault, and can be taken to court. You can sue the person who did that, or just leave it alone. I'd say do what you think is best, what you feel is right.
2006-07-01 01:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Doantek Vauntetto 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Be kind but when you feel someone is taking advantage of your kindness, nip it in the bud, just say "now you're trying to take advantage of my good nature, and that ain't gonna happen." Be definite about it. If they start to argue or disagree with your statement, just shrug and walk away because that's how you felt and so stick with it. Most people who use other people are real real good at justifying their demands and transferring the guilt or blame onto you--just don't allow that to happen. It may mean you will sometimes have to show your prickly, steely side but so be it. And if you are consistent every time, people will begin to understand that you have your limits and to not try to push you beyond that. You can still be kind most of the time, just know where your own limits are and stick to them, don't let others push you around.
2016-03-26 23:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the lesson to be learned here is that you lose control and/or functionability when you drink too much. Control and limit your drinking so that this can never happen again in the future and let your partner know that this is your promise to prevent it from ever happening again.
I'm curious as to how you're so sure this happened since you have no memory of that evening. It's rather immature and childish to to retaliate and go for revenge. Walk away and let it be.
2006-07-01 01:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to move on with your life. Retaliation will not help. It always makes things worse. I'm glad your husband was so understanding. Try not to put yourself in that situation again , because now you know you can't trust that friend. I use the word loosely.
2006-07-01 02:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget....and never be any where close to alone with him again. You say you can't remember the night so you may not be able to tell exactly what happened. It is always best to forgive a wrong doer and forget, but never allow yourself into that possition again. Oh, yeah and kiss your hubby for being so understanding. Best wishes
2006-07-01 01:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to police now. That's rape plain and simple. Get therapy and see a doctor about STD's. But take this seriously. If he took advantage of you while you were under the influence then you need to take immediate legal action to prevent that guy from doing it to another woman.
2006-07-01 01:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by IckleMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you doing getting drunk with your husbands best friend while he was out of town? It may not be your fault but you should try to avoid these situations. There are alot of creeps
2006-07-01 01:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by The Oregon Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel it's right thing to do?....It's your choice.
i would say go to the police, ask to learn what you can do and then do what you can to punnish this person... It's really awful to take advantage of your best friend's wife sexually (it's the same thing with rape) so you should make sure that this person will be punished.
2006-07-01 01:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by smaragda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have told your husband what happened. What did he do about it? did he confront his friend? or does he want to just forget it and say let bygones be bygones? keep clear of that friend. get on with your life. if you are sure then you can file a case on him for rape. take your husband into your confidence and then file a case. criminals should be taught a lesson. rape is a criminal offence
2006-07-01 01:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something before its too late. dont let abuse happen to you. dont be a victim or you'll regret it forever. take action. speak to the authroities about what you can do about it. it might not be much unless you have some evidence, but you might beable to get a restraining order, at least your husband better stop haning out with him or dump your husband.
2006-07-01 01:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by mekkawasdanamedatdaygaveme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋