how can i not be shy?

Answer 1

practice bein in front of different people or things. lol.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being shy. The problem is when it interferes witth your day to day functioning. It is like a parasite that gobbles up your personality and voice . Many people say just force yourself into the situations but this proves they have never experienced acute shyness. Doing this can reinforce the phobia you felt for going into those situations I can't say for sure what works other than maybe acting, pretending you are someone else who is not shy or learning the lines off by heart or watching other people and doing what they do. Or doing something that makes you feel exhilerated, that makes your heart race, achieving something that sort of shakes your personality to the surface. I find after I have run I often feel much more confidant. There has to be some way to break free of the fear and hesitation so you can express yourself. And physical expression can bring intellectual expression to the surface.

Answer 3

Ignore what most peopole r saying, being shy is sooo hard for me!
Take this advice from an expert lol
Whatever you do, dont scare yourself by taking the biggest plunge!
Start with chatrooms, msn, fourms etc any forms of talking while using the computer, thats a great starter! Then after that, go to small group meetings in your local town. Then after that start making some serious friends if you havent already got some, its best not to befriend your own kind but the total oppisite! After a few years you will be fine, thats how ive turned out anyway hehe!

Answer 4

I used to be shy...and sometimes still am. I got over it for the most part because of a job that I had. I was in sales and part of my job was to approach people and ask them questions. It was very difficult for me, but everyone I know says it changed me and made me bolder and less scared. How can you do it? By forcing yourself to talk to people--if you're at the cash register, talk to the sales person, for example. If you're at restaurant, say a few words to the waiter/waitress. Nothing too lengthy...just a little friendly chit-chat. If you're out somewhere waiting in line, turn to the person behind you (or in front of you) and say something small to start up a little conversation (ie: wow, this line is never going to move!). Chances are they're bored and wouldn't mind talking to someone either. You're not flirting, you're just talking. If you don't know what to talk about, ask them questions--nothing too nosy, though. Such as, "I love your shoes...where did you get them?", or another appropriate question. The more you do this, the easier it gets--seriously. The hardest part is getting started.

Answer 5

Well, i think it's a long way. At least for me it was. Start by exercising ur self confidence, believe that we r all equals and different at the same time. if u accept others, they have to accept u, too. feel that u have the right to be yourself and ur thoughts must be respected. If u r in public, maybe giving some lecture, imagine the others in an embarassing situation. eg: imagine that that serious lady has her string's bra broken. and she is pretending it's all right just to staight the pose, hehehe. if u can realize that every onehas their own problems, although they look perfect, u start to see people differently. Have fun!

Answer 6

when you are several times humilated in front of the people you will never be shy again. believe me thats a soldiers experience. it is because of the fear that you may make mistakes or somebody may find strange thing about you. when u are humilated then you no longer take care for these things. anyhow, since its not possible to humilate ones own self infront of people, the only option is talk much and specialy try to speak those things infront of people which were not possible before, for you.

Answer 7

Get a part-time job working behind a bar. Force yourself. Start off by being a glass collector if needed. This has worked for numerous people. Go on give it a go. Don't listen to any Jesus freaks. This is a good practical way.

Answer 8

Being sky is who you are and your're not alone. alot of people are shy. As you get older you will learn to handle your shyness better and have a little more confidence in who you are and you'll always be shy but you can work at it.

Answer 9

pathfinder is right once again
don't worry about what others think of you
try to be around people that are not shy & maybe
they can help you raise your confidence level

my husband use to be very shy too, but once he starting
to see how I talk to almost anyone he learned that it's
not that bad & he gained the courage to start to
know others
hope this helps

Answer 10

All you can really do is fake it till you make it. You don't have to be super outgoing, just try to put on a smile, speak up when you talk, and walk with a straight back and chin up. Try thinking positive thoughts about yourself, and always trying to do what you think is right, so you won't have any reason to be down on yourself. These things will help you be more confident about yourself, and people are attracted to that, so they will come to you, so you don't have to come to them. As long as you just relax, you can overcome this fear.

Answer 11

Meet people who are the EXACT opposite of you!

That's what my husband did.

He is NOT so shy anymore... LOL

After 15 + yrs of being married to me. NOTHING surprises him!