Im just curious for some thoughts. my best friend who's been in a loving, steady relationship for about 4 years now is now in his early twenties (22 to be exact). His girlfriend is keen for a baby and he's moving along well in careers. He was asking me if I think it's too young for children - and I'm curious - what do you people think? is about 22 - 25 too young to have a family? His parents were very conservative and not so keen as they didn't even marry until 30 and had children not long after.
2006-06-30 23:55:37 · 23 answers · asked by its_me_8666 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Everyone has very good points so far!
Do you mind if I print these answers off and give them to him - I don't want to take credit for your thoughts and I want him to see a range of ideas too.
2006-07-01 00:13:26 · update #1
if you have the ability to support a family, yes, you may. but if you don't have the finance stability, you shouldn't even think about having a family. it takes a lot a raise a family.
2006-07-01 00:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can support the child, no 22 is not too old at all.
As long as the baby will be loved and taken care of that is all that matters.
I know a girl that is 17 and had her baby when she was 16. She is providing for her child and her son is loved and supported. I think the teens are too young, but if someone at 16 can do it fine, a real adult in his 20's with a career sounds like a great canidate for a father.
2006-07-01 09:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 18.. im the one thats too young. I think like 24 is about the right age. U dont wanna be too old or too young.. But whats 2 years? I think ur young if ur mind pattern is on a younger setting like 13-16 yr olds. If u going to wine and cry, and fuss, and pout about the child coming into the world, and not man up and do what u gotta do for that child than yes u are too young. Children shouldn't even be on ur mind. Becoming a grown man should be.
2006-07-01 08:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Quin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are better things to do in your 20's also it now takes a lot more preparation time and effort to get a decent job where you make enough to sustain a family and considering more and more people live to be 90 these days I'd wait until 30 to have a family
2006-07-01 07:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by I want to know more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have been in a long steady relationship for so long, why don't they think about getting married before having children? Call me old fashioned but I think it is still the right way to go when thinking about having kids. And then they can have them. And if they aren't ready to commit to each other that way, then maybe they aren't ready for kids.
2006-07-01 07:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by missleyden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well every person must resolve to bring a child to this crazy world. But, if he is in very thought relationship, maybe he is responsibility have a baby. I have my first Born at 24 and what proud I was.
2006-07-01 07:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalo urquiza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and am a mom to a 2 yr old , In my case I wish I would have waited until I am 26 to have one, just because your life changes sooo much after a child.
2006-07-01 07:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by wife/mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some people can manage that.. i'm 21 and don't want kids til i'm 30 and ready to have them.. plus i think i'll; be done partying by then:D Some people want to have kids and they should if they feel they are ready.. tell him to get a dog 1st lol.. no no don't tell him to do that lol. But yea kids are kids... you have to give up your life for that kid... Eek! :) the joy : ) but yea.. wish him the best!!!:) He'll do just fine... and he's been with her for 4 years ... that's awesome! At least it's not 4 months!:D
2006-07-01 07:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must just remember that it is a lifetime committment so he must think hard before taking this step. he must first concentrate on his career, make loads of money and ensure that once the kids come he will be able to give them the best of everything.
He must also ask himself if his girlfriend is the gal that he truly loves and wants to be with forever-there are too many children from broken homes as it is.
2006-07-01 09:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by lithaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the relationship... both need to want a child for it to work out, if he is career minded then maybe he isnt ready for a child. but early 20's isn't too young to have kids no
2006-07-01 07:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never ready for a child. But, if he thinks that she is the one that he loves and is going to spend the rest of his life with, then it would depend one the two of them. But, he needs to remember that what ever happens she will be a part of his life at least for 18 years.........
2006-07-01 11:33:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋