really got along well.. then I blew it by telling him that I like to tease guys on these chat lines without thinking.. then I received this letter from him today:
I have to tell you i had a good time but there are to many things that are different beetween us! When you told me about sending guys all these emails and leading them on just for a laugh it didn't sit well with me. I was a very shy kid in school and was teased by 2 girls for the longest time and when i heard how you were leading these guys on it brought that right back. I could have said yes to spending time with you and having sex but i would have just been leading you on like your doing to these poor guys! I hope you find what it is your looking for!
What do you guys/gals all think of this?? Pls be honest with me and no sarcasms pls.. cuz I feel bad as it is...
PS - as for the guy that I was teasing on here... I was only chatting with him and didn't show him my pic.. I refused to meet him!
2006-06-30 13:15:39 · 18 answers · asked by KathyB 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 38.. and he's going to be 48 next Month.
2006-06-30 13:26:33 · update #1
I did send him a letter explaining that my intentions were not to hurt anyone.. but also that I was only chatting it up with this guy for months before I met this guy (which was only last sat.. and we saw each other on Sunday..)
2006-06-30 13:27:47 · update #2
I did email and apologize as I think I stated earlier.. also, I did tell him that I did delete them chatrooms and nicknames that I had... but no response yet. I figure that two weeks should give him time to warm up and to think about what I said to him and hopefully, he will come back.
2006-06-30 13:37:13 · update #3
suppose there is any hope in cases like this? lol
2006-06-30 18:44:21 · update #4
I just received another email from him stating that there is alot of chemistry between us, he really likes me.. i am cute, funny and intelligent.. BUT our personalities differ too much as I am VERY outgoing and he's not! lol
2006-07-01 05:49:37 · update #5
Sorry you lost this one. He writes like a real gentleman. Chalk this one up for experience. The next good one that comes along you will not make the same mistake twice. No one is perfect. All of us make mistakes.
2006-06-30 13:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only thing I can think of to do is tell him yes, you were wrong, and you can see his point and won't do it again (and then don't. I don't really understand the point of flirting online when you have a perfectly good guy at home anyways). Say we've all made mistakes and done stupid things. He's right, he could have led you on, but he didn't. Tell him thank you for that, and you've learned your lesson. Ask him if there is anything you can do to move past this.
If he does, however, still break up with you over that, he's being pretty immature, too. That is a petty thing to break up with someone over. I got teased in high school from football players, but I ended up marrying one. Time for him to grow up and move on as well.
2006-06-30 13:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear it appears you are involved with a real nice older guy who isn't really into playing games. It sounds to me like this guy may be ready to embark on a serious relationship that may lead down the road to marriage and the thought of you playing sexually seductive mind games with some guy on the internet was a bit of a turnoff. Another question he may be asking himself is what if your little internet games evolve into real life sexual encounters, as they often do, which raises issues of whether or not he can trust you. But fear not, for all hope may not be lost. The fact that you guys have your differences is not necessarily a bad thing. Can you imagine how boring the world would be if everyone were alike. In a relationship it is good to have some differences in order to balance the relationship. By you being the outgoing type you can enable him to loosen up and have fun sometimes, while on the other hand when you are too playful or not as serious as you should be he can help enable you to stay focused and be responsible. I think this incident exposed an area in your relationship that you can build on. If you guys love one another and vow to be honest and straight foward I don't see any reason you can't make it . My advice to you is to have fun, take the time to work on your friendship and continue to maintain an open line of communication. I hope my advice helps. Peace out. The Caveman will be pulling for you.
2006-07-01 06:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I were given married to an 18 12 months previous lady even as i became 23. there became no longer something incorrect with it on the time. She regarded mature and with it. She acted instantly laced and perfect. She all started college, graduated, after that were given a minimum-salary job because the job marketplace sucks. It seems that she became no longer mature adequate to really take care of the duty of marriage besides the undeniable fact that. the way she positioned it, she under no circumstances were given the prospect to "play" and "riot" because we were given married so youthful. even as she grew to change into 24 she began putting out in bars in the course of the day particularly of operating and performing like she wasn't married. This eventually led to dishonest, and STDs (that's how i got here across out about it). for sure, we are divorced now. So, 18 and 23 is fantastic. merely ascertain that each and absolutely everyone is mature adequate in case you recommend on getting married. the in person-friendly words project with the age hollow is how a lot of your existence you're waiting for and characteristic set in stone. imagine about what your objectives were at 18, then imagine about your objectives now. be careful. human beings can replace plenty… pretty between 18 and 30
2016-10-14 00:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well on a personal level i think that he is right although there some men in the world that likes the teasing stuff from gurls but real men that are interested in a relationship and a partnership arent into stuff like that they just want a wholesome woman who they can relate to not some gurl who's just trying to excit a man for lust or just sex believe me you are never going to find a real and i do mean a real man with that kind of attitude and focus trust me gurls like that are only good for a one night stand not love and i know that by heart because i used to be that gurl but i woke up real quick if i wanted a real man who loves me and would do anything for me so take these words into consideration thanks love always
2006-06-30 13:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Donnie's Babymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really like this guy huh? Enough to be open with your flaws? Enough to stop what he specifically didn't want from you? Then what are you waiting for? Go get the guy. You can't give up just for this. Tell him you could change and are willing to do that for him. Unless if you don't mean it. I believe he is old and well educated enough to be lenient. Have faith anf trust your heart. Good luck!
2006-06-30 13:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by phoenix_jackson2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have blown it. Your only chance is and I know this is hard for a lot of people is show him you are interested bu going off line for awhile. Spend time with him. True on line friends will understand why you are not on line, after you let him know. Is he more important then the chance to flirt or surf online.
2006-06-30 13:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by shakeragroad_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He completely explained exactly what his problem is: low self-esteem, no self-confidence, past hurts and lack of forgiveness. Guys do NOT take it well (if they truly care about you) that other guys have EVER done or will ever DO something to you or to turn you on. If you blew it, that is too bad and a sad loss. BUT one of the deal breakers for ME in a relationship is a lack of confidence. If YOU don't believe you're the bomb (meaning ALL THAT...GOOD...a good catch, etc.) then I am not convinced either!
Let it go. If it was meant to be...he'll resurface when his ego is repaired. You sound like you're having fun and he'd bring you down if you're not ready to cease all other relationships with guys, online or otherwise.
2006-06-30 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to have a real relationship with someone you go to school or church with. You never can tell if your chatting with the friendly neighborhood serial killer. I'd leave chat rooms alone.
You do get points tho, for not giving out your personal information, that's very important for your safety.
2006-06-30 13:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by kristycordeaux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be many reasons..one fo them coudl be that he is jelous? that u are talkin to all these other guys..and now he has competition and he's the type that can't handle competition..so he has to end it..other reason is..he likes you but he thinks ur the player type..u might cheat on him or something..so he doesn't want to go any further b4 he gets hurt..cus it seems like u flirt with a lot of guys and he's the type that wants a relationship.
so it could be jelousy or he thinks ur that type that likes to party and flirt with guy and not committed to one guy.. or he just likes another girl and needed a reason to end it with you : )
2006-06-30 13:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, ur used to teasing men and thinking it's funny. sometimes u lose out on good things when u play around.
2006-06-30 13:21:24 · answer #11 · answered by hotgurl 04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋