2006-06-29 05:51:15 · 26 answers · asked by BeerFace McPoopenStein 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
I'm the host. In the invite I said I'll be cooking the burgers and hot dogs but if anyone wants to bring a dessert or side dish, it'd be appreciated. I just dont want to be a bad host and ask
2006-06-29 05:59:36 · update #1
yes
2006-06-29 05:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by daisie 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You said you are the one hosting the BBQ and on the invites you said to bring a side dish, right?
Proper etiquette is, if you are throwing the party, you shouldn't be asking anyone to bring anything except themselves. Unless you are a college kid, throwing a kegger, it's in poor taste. If you are throwing a Pot Luck party, that might be the exception. But, I would still frown against asking anyone to bring side dishes, dessert, beer, wine, etc.
Now, as the guest of the party, ALWAYS ask the host if you can bring something specific. Dessert, side dish, your famous dish, etc. THEN, the host can say yes or no, depending on what they are lacking. If the host says nothing, you should still bring something. Flowers, wine, beer, whatever little thing you think the host would like.
Back to being the Host... When you receive the gifts, I feel it is in good taste to open them up to everyone if it's food or beverage. And, always send a thank you note!
2006-06-29 08:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hosting a 4th of July Party also. On the invitation it says, Bring a dish, If you wish. I have been doing that every year. Everyone does and the food is always excellent. I do all the meats, a salad, Jello shots, paper goods and extras. People love to bring stuff. If someone doesn't bring something, that's ok too. There is always plenty. And whatever is left, I let everyone take stuff home with them. Everyone loves it.
2006-06-30 08:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is perfectly fine and standard practice in my experience...both when I host and when I'm a guest. I always ask my host(s) if there's something I can bring, and most of my guests do the same. I say "most" because it depends on how "close" my guest and I are. If you're worried no one is actually bringing something, I suggest you call a few of your guests that you're closest to and just say you're trying to balance the meal and wondered what they were bringing. Sometimes using e-vite helps because all the guests see what the other is bringing. If these guests bring nothing, get new friends. Just kidding!
2006-06-29 12:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that always throws a great party and ALWAYS asks for a side dish for the BBQ - I don't think there is anything wrong with that, especially if you are having close friends over- besides, if people are invited somewhere, they should ask what they can bring.
2006-06-29 07:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fortune Favors the Brave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if asked. It is common to bring a beverage (a nice bottle of wine) or a gift for the hostess. But the food is provided, unless specified in the invitation.
Otherwise, everyone would bring the potato salad.
2006-06-29 05:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common courtesy to bring a gift for the host/hostess in the form of a bottle of wine, schnapps, or specialty dessert (in case your hosts do not drink).
Ask your host/hostess when you RSVP if they would like you to bring something additional and ask specifically what they would like you to bring (salad, side dish, soda, dessert).
2006-06-29 05:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask, but I would say "you can bring your favorite side dish" I know there is quite a few side dishes that are perfect for the BBQ
2006-06-29 06:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the way you and the different visitors experience about what constitutes a meal. think the different 10 visitors also presented purely 2 luggage of chips as their "part dishes" -- would maximum each individual experience free with BBQ and 20 luggage of chips as a meal? Or would you be peeved that "somebody else" did not imagine to make potato salad, corn on the cob, chili, macaroni salad, cole slaw, etc.?
2016-11-29 23:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by swistak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, or dessert or beer. But you could always check with the host to see if they'd like anything in particular.
2006-06-29 05:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely common practice, besides IT IS FUN to have everyone pitch it -- why should you do all the work (unless you want to). I love going to a BBQ where everyone brings something, you get soooooo many nummy tastes!!!
2006-06-29 07:52:28 · answer #11 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋