I'm mad but I'm not mad at the person who gave it to me. I had strong feelings for them..but I'm mad that they didn't warn me beforehand. I'm not sure if I can talk to them or not anymore. Part of me still wants to but part of me is saying HE GAVE YOU AN STD KICK HIM TO THE CURB. what do you guys think? and have any of you had similiar experiences?
2006-06-29 03:59:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Yes, kick him hard.
2006-06-29 13:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not going to get into detail, but my boyfriend gave me an STD and we are still happily together. Granted I was a bad gf, and for the first 2 weeks, when I was suffering from it, I threw it in his face a lot. But I love him, so I stayed with him. HPV to also tell you is not horribly detrimental, granted if you show symptoms it can suck, because it comes in the form of genital warts, and it can be detrimental to your health such as cervical cancer, so beyond anything to let you know befor I go back to the topic, you need to always stay on top of your pap smears, like normally I think they say go see the gyno, ever 6 months, HPV is becoming widely known, there is actually a campaign for it right know called "tell someone" because it is becoming to common and it is causing a lot of cervical cancer in women. Now did your boyfriend know that he had it, if he knew he had it then he possibly didn't tell you because he was worried about losing you, however, that needs to peek your interest on if he would becime scared of losing you with something else and just lie to you or just not tell you at all. You have to make your own decision, but don't stay with him because you think it would be difficult to find someone else with the problem you have now, it would be easy, but be sure to be honest with any future partner you have, if anything I would start by talking to your bf and let him know why you are upset, how you are upset, and what you expect of him if you two choose to stay together. I would also suggest get tested for all other std's and make him go and do the same just to be safe. Good Luck!!
2006-06-29 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he know he had it? Most men don't realize they have HPV and often spread it to women unknowingly.
I know how you feel, I had many mixed emotions when I found out I had HPV. I was angry, upset, regretful, you name it.
I personally feel it is no reason to kick him to the curb though. He probably didn't even know he had it. I didn't stay with the person I got it from, not because he gave me the virus though, just because we didn't work out.
I've read that 75-80% of the world has HPV, and for the most part it doesn't do anything. You just have to be careful with the few kinds that cause cervical cancer. Get your yearly paps done and stay healthy!
2006-06-29 11:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. I stayed with mine because I felt it was partially my fault and because he didn't know (there weren't any symptoms and his testing came out negative). I read some of the answers and I feel that if he didn't know, he should be more responsible and so should you. Stay on top of your pap smears, do your research (new stuff comes out all the time..there is suppose to be a vaccine against 2 strands..and a creme that prevents some STD infection in the works), and be safe.
2006-06-29 15:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...actually....my husband gave this to me...and I ended up having a hysterectomy because the cells became cancerous...I hope this doesn't happen to you.....But..with that being said......this virus can lay dormant for years..and its possible..that this person didn't even know about it. My husband was married and divorced before we met....and it turns out he got it from her and years later...passed it to me.....It isn't a death sentence....you can still live a normal life.....no one person experiences it the same...and while one may have alot of outbreaks..the other person may never get one......I have been on a medication now for almost a year.....this isn't as looked down upon as you may feel right now....my doctor told me that one 2 out of 5 women actually have this....so just think about it....walk down the street and count 5 different women..and know..the at least 2 of them are in the same place you are....Its really ok.......Just be safe.....talk to your doctor.....and just live......Good Luck.....
2006-06-29 11:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person probably didn't even know they had it. Also some responsibility falls on you, why weren't you having protected sex in the first place. The only person you can really trust is yourself always practice safe sex. HPV isn't all that bad, but it could have been HIV
2006-06-29 12:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all try to talk to this "person" tell them that they need to practice safe sex and get tested every month if they know they are going to be sexually active. tell this "person" to tell there other partners that he/she has hpv.
and also tell your other partners the same.
tell this "person" to stop actin like them dumbass ppl on them stupid HPV comercials. why the hell would u be happy about that.
2006-06-29 11:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋