2006-06-19 08:33:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
People tell young folks to say NO to sex as if it's an easy thing. Really, it is much easier said than done.
It's hardest if you have a partner you truly care about. You want to give them whatever it takes to be happy. You don't want to deprive them. You don't want to hurt their feelings. And least of all, you don't want them to leave you.
These are elements of what people feel when their partners PRESSURE them for sex. And it's tough pressure to resist, even if you truly know deep down that you DO NOT want sex.
But you have to realize a few points:
1. Having sex when you're not ready will make you anxious, miserable, and can cripple your ability to have a satisfying sex life later by loading your mind with a lot of emotional baggage.
2. A partner who will dump you for not having sex does NOT love you, does not care for your best interests, and is not worth having around.
3. As a teen, the consequences of having irresponsible sex are far more severe than for adults. Getting pregnant as a teen is extremely difficult to deal with. So is getting a STD, especially an incurable one.
Your friend needs to tell her bf this: "I am not ready to handle the responsibilities of having sex. I can't deal with having a baby, I can't deal with going to the doctor for checkups or birth control. But most of all, I can't deal with my emotions. I just can't do this right now, so please, if you love me, you need to respect my feeling and my wishes. I'll let you know if I'm ready someday, but right now, please don't make me do this."
I encourage you to cut and paste that for her and let her rehearse it for whenever she needs to say it.
2006-06-19 09:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Gumdrop Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she don't want him she should let him go
So he can find someone else
Are they could get married before having Sex
2006-06-26 10:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can tell her...if she is having any doubts she shouldn't have sex with him....she'll know when she is comfortable...she won't need to think twice...
and if the guys breaks up with her over her not wanting to have sex with him...hes an a#$ and she made the right choice
2006-06-19 17:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by livingandloving 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? I mean if she is 13 then heck no, she shouldn't be having sex that young. Obviously she is not ready if she doesn't know what to do. She will know when the time is right for her. If she has been with him 2 years I'm sure he is willing to wait a little longer for her.
2006-06-19 15:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. NO! is the best answer. If she says yes she'll only end up heartbroken and depressed in the long run.
2006-06-19 15:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by E.F. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very easy...she says NO..its her choice and if he thinks anything of her and her morals then he will not press it or she should stick with her ideals and drop him..there are plenty of fellows out there that will share her beliefs....
2006-06-19 16:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by FloNightingGale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the boyfriend to wait, if he cant wait til she is ready, then he is not for her, he just cares about himself, it is not her duty because he is horny, she has to stick with what she wants and why, this is her life, her body, there are plenty of men out there who would love to have a women who is a virgin,
2006-06-19 15:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by freeheartsagitarias 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her 2 wait
2006-06-19 15:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to have sex, she should. if she doesn't, then she shouldn't.
2006-06-19 16:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by suckmeoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the hurry,tell him he needs to respect her feelings.
2006-06-19 15:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by doctor_giggles_2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋