2006-06-15 12:57:53 · 33 answers · asked by tiffer19862005 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
That is all up to you...I have been with my fiancee for 9 yrs and he is HIV pos and we are getting married next year. You can have a perfectly good sexual relationship with him but you have to take precautions and use protection. I know a number of couple that have one partner that is HIV pos. and live normal lives. It all comes down to how you really feel about the person. The relationship will take more work but in my opinion I couldn't have found a better guy. good luck with your decision.
2006-06-15 13:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ladiebugg 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the simple thing to do would to be just leave him...BUT If you love him there are ways that you can work thru this..
I actually know someone that is HIV positive and her husband doesnt have it and they have been together for over 5 years and she has had HIV for almost 9 years..it just depends on whether or not you are willing to put in all the extra effort to make the relationship work, because this is a unique situation....
And to all of the people that say yes..chances are you have been with someone that has/had an STD and some of you may as well have some kind of disease...and if you did and you loved someone..would you want them to leave you...would you want to be alone the rest of your life??
I can't even really say what I would do..I would probably be the coward and leave the person, but true love is hard to find..just depends...but if this is someone that you just met and aren't really into..I wouldn't really consider it..
Hope that helps...
2006-06-16 15:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tamara J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why? Does he beat, rape or abuse you? Would you leave him if he had a bad heart? No you would get information on his condition and work around it!! If he's a great guy who cares if he has HIV? I expected a question like this 15 years ago but now people are SO informed about aids. If he is a great guy it would be shallow of you to leave him. If he's a prick or you don't like him anyway then yes leave him. But leave him for a reason other than the condition he has.
Take caution while you are intimite with him. Ask you doctor for advice on what not to do and what to do. Love is about sacrifices. Yours is more than most can handle but if you love him hang onto him!!
2006-06-15 13:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple Answer:
If you love him, no.
But don't be stupid...be tested, and be tested often.
Talk to your doctor about HIV safety and learn the dos and don'ts. You are worth safety. It is a strain and it is a very big safety issue, and it was probibly the biggest mistake of his life if he contracted it sexually and the biggest curse of his life if it was contracted medically.
I feel for you both.
2006-06-15 13:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your relationship should be based on more than activities that can get you HIV pos. I also think it's admireable that you're questioning to your decision and not just leaving, it tells me that you really like him.however you do have to know about your dos & don'ts
2006-06-15 13:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by reah d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your decision and should be only your decision. If you want to spend the rest of your life with him, knowing that someday you may possibly become infected with HIV and eventually die from AIDS then great.
But if you can't see yourself being with him because of the fear that you might someday get HIV and die from AIDS, then it's probably in your best interest to leave him.
2006-06-16 03:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you are asking this question... pretty much answers it for you. No brainer... leave and NEVER look back... your health and well-being is of greater importance than being with someone with whom you can never have a completely normal relationship. YES, u should leave for your safety!!!
2006-06-16 16:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by fire911medic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud leave for ur own safety... if u really love him and cant live without him then u shud always have protected sexs... but sometimes mistakes happens as well so u need to be very careful... if u really care about urself thou u need to get outta that relationship fast....
2006-06-15 13:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's to say your negative , id say if you have hiv testing for a full year and they all came back neg . then your negitive . if you have to ask other peoples advice on yahoo answers because your not sure you love him that much to stay with him , then id say he's better off without you .
2006-06-15 16:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say do you love him and do you have kids?If you love him and you have no kids then you can I guess have protected s*x.But if you have kids then I would say leave because you want to live a long time and watch your kids grow up.And if you have to ask if you should leave him then you don`t love him enough anyway.I hope that helps.I hope that you don`t think that i`m instinctive.Sorry.
2006-06-15 13:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by *~*dragonFly*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋