she thinks i drink too much, but stopped for her, i`ve even started going to the gym and am almost back to my regular fit self.
i`ve even stopped hanging around with my drinking buddies, but its like she still doesnt have time for me anymore, how do i prove to her i have changed?
2006-06-09 21:10:45 · 14 answers · asked by alboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try asking her out on a date for a meal if she says yes meet her with some chocolates or flowers when u get to the restuarant make sure u drink soft drinks no alcohol to prove that you have changed. then after the meal talk to her and explain the way you feel and explain that you have changed to just let you prove it to her and then as soon as ur back in her good books make sure u dont go straight back to drink after just keep being good and staying away from drink and treat her like a lady should be treated ;)
2006-06-09 21:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if she really truly care about you , she would notice that you have change . Seems to me that this girl that you are talking about doesn't care about you , she care about herself. You don't need to have someone there to tell you to keep up the good work that you are doing. Look deep with in yourself and see it yourself. Its nice to have someone there to support you to keep you on your toes and sometimes it bad , like this situation now. Your depress and you want this person to notice you and she isn't. By her doing that this may lead back to drinking.
This what you do Sweet. List neg from pos about drinking. List long term goals and short terms goals . Each time you accomplished a goal across it out. Keep these golds back pocket. Look at the everyday. Each Day you wake up is new day and every new day is day that You as yourself is a winner , Keep talking yourself that.
Good Luck
Jane
2006-06-09 21:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing for a woman I lived with. She wanted me to do this and that, stop doing this and that etc....
I couldn't have any friends except for the people at work.
It was years of hell, I even paid her mortgage and her truck payment. Needless to say the more I changed for her, the less happy I became. I put up with it for 7 years total. The last 3 years
she became just a roommate, so I left her.
2006-06-09 21:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by alysonhell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her, if that doesn't work, you have to show her.
Keep working out and she'll see your body changing. Then, hopefully, she'll come around.
If not, you'll be ready for the next girl.
If you want her to listen without walking away or ignoring you, a small note is always a good way to go....people usually read them. Plus, it shows effort. For a little extra gesture, you can put it on her car with a rose (or other flower).
You sound like you're really trying, so good luck and I hope you get her.
2006-06-09 21:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Toybear_mav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love/like her soooo much that you stopped drinking for her and that you would do [almost] anything for her. Ask her if it has something to do with her job or her friends, she might be overworked and needs to hang with her friends a while and tell them her feelings instead of being on a date where you can only talk about "cool" stuff. Try asking her on a date when shes free and tell her you will take her to [almost] anything.
2006-06-09 21:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by sim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ASK you to make all those changes for her? Maybe she didn't really want you to change and now that you did, she hit the road. And if she was "this really great girl" she would like you for WHO YOU ARE, not someone she wanted to transform. You have to be yourself, whoever you are, it's very hard to be happy when you change yourself for someone other than yourself!! When you find someone who likes you for who you are and accepts you--quirks and all, then you have found a really great girl--a "keeper"!
2006-06-09 21:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by charnee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "flogging a dead horse" springs to mind here...... some women are just bloody impossible to convince.
2006-06-09 21:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not interested. if i had some like you id be happy to be your girlfriend. people like you are hard to come by who are willing to give up habits for a girl. but she does'nt know whats she's missin out on.
2006-06-09 21:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louer than words so keep doing what you are doing and follow them don't give up.good luck
2006-06-09 21:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by sasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go around her with another girl . give her some compition hell it works for me , and i know that she isnt going to turn that down . It worked for my man and i regret it now but it worked for him
2006-06-09 21:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋