he lives with his mom who controls him she cant let go. hes 46+ and 90% of the time they always stick up for each other. im living with him. im always under stress. when hes not around she tells me what i should and shouldnt say to him. this is causing me great concern. anyone want to comment? i believe you should love your mom i have a mom our family are mind your own buisness people. she feels she always has to defend her son. is this picture strange or what?
2006-06-09 19:16:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am afraid that if you are asking the question then you probably already know the answer. My advice is to get out of the relationship. It doesn't sound like a good situation for you. Why is a 46 year old man living with his mother? Has he ever been in a long term relationship before? I imagine you will never win in this relationship since you are competing against his mother. RUN!
2006-06-09 19:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by dkrgrand 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are limits to everything.
It's ok to support your mother/son. You "have to" love your mother. It's ok to spend time with her, and even a night there every once in a while if, eg she is a widow and the son does not have a family.
I think I know what you mean however. It's like them two against you, right?
A man of 46 should have moved out of their parents' home ages ago and have identified himself as an independant individual. He's apparently a spoilt child grown up to become a spoilt adult. His mother probably thinks he is still 16 or something.
It's ok to say to someone that they don't want you to say something which is irritating, or abusive or whatever... but then, you can't dictate and you can't be despotic.
I'm getting the impression that he is "hiding under his mother's skirt" - it's a phrase they use in Greece which totally describes the situation.
I would not blame you for ditching him. If he makes you unhappy, there's no reason why you should stick around. I don't know what your age is. If he is 46, you are bound to be of some age and over. If time is running out for you (in terms of having children etc), I'd say better go now when it's soon. 8 months is not a long time.
2006-06-10 03:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Adoracion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pathetic that a 46 year old man allows his mom to run his life. Get out - get out now! Find yourself a man that is 46 - not 4 going on 6.
2006-06-10 02:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by casaudiotc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY! It is really up to him to solve this thing. He needs to stand up, grow some balls and tell his mom that he is a big boy now and he needs to start making his own decisions. Talk to him, tell him how you feel and tell him if he wants a relationship with you he needs to grow up and quit being a mamas boy at 46+ yrs old.
2006-06-10 02:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not strange BUT not doable 46 and still lives at home can we say "mommas boy "or maybe irresponsible
2006-06-10 02:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by frogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pathetic that you and him are grown and living with his mother. So yes, you need to get your own place and get from under his mother roof. If you want to leave him in the process then go ahead.
2006-06-10 02:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mommy always comes out like that angel in the end belive me i know from exsperience!! and what are you doing selling our self for less you are so better than that and how do i know that because you are a women. and as for men they only get away with what you let them get away with so if he really wants to be with you than he will move out with you and leave his mother for the visits that he should be having with her once and a while. be strong and never sell your self for less than what your worth okay hope everything works out!!!
2006-06-10 02:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by creation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i think he's not living on his own for a reason. really crappy, but i'd get out before you invest more time because his mom will always be #1 at this rate.
sorry, but i think you can do better.
2006-06-10 02:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely yes.
2006-06-10 02:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey get out u will never be Mom
2006-06-10 02:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋