How Do I Diplomatically Terminate This Freak?

Question

This guy. Not interested in him in the very least, and never gave the impression I was. I thought he seemed cool as an acquaintance, so I have let him call and email me a couple of times. I should tell you that he gives off raging gay vibes, so I didn't think I had anything to worry about. However, this idiot apparently has a little crush on me, and a Jekyl & Hyde personality. He sends nice emails, but then calls and says disgusting things. I tactfully tell him that I am offended, and he laughs and says it was just a joke. I have taken the blunt approach and told him in no uncertain terms to "F" off, and he acts like I'm the one being a b*tch. He whines and calls me "baby", which I find repulsive and creepy. I have decided to ignore him, but of course, he sends nasty little emails. I don't want to give him him the impression that he matters enough to offend me. So my question at this point is, who can I hire to whack him, and how much.

(J/K about that last part.)

Oh yes, I am saving his emails and starting a Freak Log in case I get a stalker situation on my hands. This is what I get for being so GD nice to people.

Answer 1

The opposite of love is not hate. It's indiference. So be indiferent to him. That'll show him what you feel about him. And just in case, keep saving his e-mails.

Answer 2

If you gave him your number and your e-mail, he thinks he has a chance with you, gay vibe or not. Either he has low self-esteem and feels that by you turning him down he is worthless, or he is a stalker type. I would tell him straight out what you want out of the friendship or if you want to end your association with him altogether. Don't use words like "relationship" because he might think that you are toying with him and want to continue things. Just be honest and tell him what you REALLY feel. Don't stay too long, just tell it like it is and leave. If he STILL continues, I would get a restraining order. The less you talk to him after the confrontation the better. And you can block his email I think. Hope this helps...

Answer 3

Get someone you trust most to be a witness when you warn him first politely to leave you alone. Its better if the person is a policeman or someone working in the government sector if you can find one.

Right in the present of this witness the you have acted this deed then if the idiot continue to disturb you. Get the law on him and you have a witness to support your prosecution. If (hope not) anything bodily harm happens to you at least the witness can vouched to your innocents upon his allegations.

Play safe be prepared and never ever give up to protect yourself from fools as as this animal.

Stay Alert and good luck. I'll pray God to protect you.

Answer 4

The first thing you could do to help yourself would be to add his email address(es) to your spam filter. If he calls, don't answer the phone. Block him on messengers. This sounds clearly like the kind of guy that you don't want to give any illusion to, and a complete cut-off would probably help.

Remember, there is a large difference between acquaintance and friend. Friends listen when you say you're upset about something.

Answer 5

rofl, well theres several options, you can go clingy on him to drive him away, but he sounds the moron to get it...

or you can take up another man and rub it in nicely, but then mean like if he cant get it.

Or you can go my least favorite which happens the most often. When he calls make it short and say youll call back, but dont.
When you see him as hes leaving tell him to call you and dont ever answer and have an excuse like im sorry i was so tired.... you get the point. Theres a bunch of crap that you can do, bless this dumbasses heart but **** man you gotta know a frickin glimit ehh?

Answer 6

You need to block his emails and block his phone numbers. If he takes it to the next step and contacts you directly after you have done these things, you then need to get the police involved. So many girls really don't realize the danger of someone who seems "normal" but is really crazy just under the surface. All it takes to set him off could be really minor and then its too late. Please be careful and don't put yourself into any situations that will leave you vulnerable and unprotected. Good luck and take care of yourself hon.

Answer 7

Definitely major creep vibes. Trust your instincts. Change your email, and phone. Make sure other people are aware of the situation. Since you have told him to f-off and he hasn't I don't know what to tell you. Tell him to leave you alone, and if he doesn't tell him you'll persue a restraining order. Be careful, take care of yourself and don't dismiss your gut instincts and red flags.

Answer 8

I don't see a problem.

Tell him you do not want to communicate anymore.

Block his emails, or mark them as spam.

If he calls on the phone, do not answer (if you have caller ID), or if you answer and it is him, simply disconnect the call.

That should make pretty quick work of it, unless he is a real psycho, in which case report him to the police for harassment, and to the phone company for abusive calls.

Answer 9

Ignore him. Do not answer his emails (but log and save them as you rightfully said). Block him wherever you are able to. If he continues to phone, either hang up immediately or report him to your carrier (phone service). I have 2 chicks who are stalking me so I understand you. Why can't people take a hint!?

Answer 10

Hmmm. Tough situation. Just continue to be frank and firm, but not offensive. If he doesn't get the hint he never will. Ignorance can be helpful. Maybe he needs to hear it from other people as well.