My girlfriend's brother really don't like me. He kinda knows me, and what he knows ain't that good. Like, he knows that I have sexual experience (3rd), he knows I never study for school, and occasionally drink/smoke.
We don't really talk, but recently got into a huge fight. I called her at 11:30 on friday... and she was sleeping. He was, I guess, spying on her, and IM'd me about it. He said "Stop wasting my sister's time, let her sleep." And we got into a fight about how he thinks "I'm a ****ing loser because I don't really love her and nothing is gonna happen."
Basically, my gf is kinda a "good girl." She's never kissed, or even had a boyfriend. She studies a lot, and never drinks or smokes. Then, we also live kinda far apart... like 40 minutes. However, my mom works right by her house and could bring me before work.
So, he's on my case about this, and won't approve of the relationship. My gf told him to "shut the **** up and mind his own business," but he just won't. Any ideas?
2006-06-09 17:21:56 · 12 answers · asked by omega 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says that we're a bad match, and I'm just a bad influence, and I'm just ruining her...
And ages: We're both about 16, and the brother is one grade lower, 15.
2006-06-09 17:22:59 · update #1
@ Sexydevilgirl
Yeah, I know that's what it prolly seems to people, but no, it's the first time I've actually felt something more than "I wanna get in your pants." I just feel really good around her, and I like being with her... I don't know how to say it...
2006-06-09 17:40:36 · update #2
Yeah, he's a brother, if you want him to back off basically you'd have to stop dating her... otherwise he's just doing what brothers are supposed to do; protect his sister from other guys ;-) doesn't matter if you're a good or bad influence, it's his brotherly duty to make it difficult for you...
2006-06-09 17:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by tripforyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think her brother is right, partly...
1st thing, you should study for school, cause smoking and drinking won't take you anywhere on the long term.
2nd thing, if you love her, respect the way she is. If she studies a lot, that is not bad! I told you before, that you found a treasure.
;-)
So, what to do with a treasure. I would take care of it!
And also, start working on myself cause fighting her brother is not the best way to win, not in this case. It is again like getting nowhere, just as with smoking or drinking!
You have no other REAL option here than trying to be a better person. But again, love can make people achieve wonders, soo... make peace with the brother, sit down and study and go for her when you feel you are ready.
I am sure she will not forget about you so easily if she already took all that courage to stand up for you and defend you in front of her brother...
:-)
2006-06-12 11:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your girlfriend is the right one for you(for now anyway), keep on striving. Don't pick fights with her brother anymore, or you'll ruin his impression of you even further. Instead, take things slowly for now and don't see her that often but im as much as possible whenever you can to her. when things cool down, give way to her brother and no fights but stay firm on that fact that you're staying. Period.
2006-06-10 00:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its already obvious that he doesn't like you, and although people might try to tell you this, i highly doubt hes jealous. I think hes just trying to protect his sister from "evil" people. try to find the source of his knowledge about you and cut it off. if that doesn't work, try to show the little pest some of your good points. go to her house and if you think the little bro is spying, then actually study for a bit to confuse him. every time he sees you try to do something he'd never expect you to do, and then he might think he was wrong and lay off a little bit. if that doesn't work than try to make an effort to get her to come to your house more often, like when ur moms on her way home take her with you and she would go home on the bus;she old enough.
2006-06-10 00:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Snicker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its not surprising that her brother thinks that...its maybe bcoz u and your girl are polar opposites. Its ok if you're not a virgin (but i wish you werent a smoker or drinker, that could've gotten things a lil better)
You're sure you're not playing around with her, right? i mean (no offence) but you seem to be that typical "bad boy" type and she's this sweet little angel. I hope you arent fooling around with her. u could tell her brother that you really do like her and you could ask him to give you a chance. tell him not to judge you completely on your habits (although thats difficult) and tell him that you are serious about her
2006-06-10 00:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And he may be right. Maybe you can stop smoking and drinking anfd start studying more. maybe he will like you and she will to. DO not corrupt her and allow her to study and be a good girl.
2006-06-10 00:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Who dat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold a sharp knife or object to his throat and tell him to back off or you will have fun carving out his skull while he is alive.
2006-06-10 00:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of mess my dear, otherwise it will be ruining act for both.
2006-06-10 00:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not her brother and i do not like you
he is right
you are a loser
and you will bring her down ( like knock her up )
happens with guys like you
2006-06-10 00:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore it he will go away after a while
2006-06-10 00:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by mattman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋