I have 4 kids; 8, 7, 4, 4
2006-06-09 17:19:43 · 20 answers · asked by woptie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not unless the others where somehow involved -- either by enabling it or encouraging it.
2006-06-09 17:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by letmesurpriseu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances. There are times when children are put up to something by the rest of the troops and in such cases, it can be a good thing to make all of them lose their privileges. Also, with a large family, it can be helpful in the children learning to police one another if they all know that if one's misbehaving the rest will pay for that persons actions as well.
Sometimes you just can't help but punish all of them, regardless of the circumstances. For instance, last summer our 11 year old ended up grounded. We had a family camping trip planned and decided that we should cancel the trip due to his behavior. Sure we could have gotten a sitter (family or a close friend) but then that person would have had to suffer because of his behavior or may not have enforced the punishment.
2006-06-10 00:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the others were invoved, or encouraging or enabling the one yes. If they tried to cover up for their sibling after the fact, then Yes.
If they tried to stop the wrongdoer, and took appropriate action to make sure you knew, then No. If they didn't know what their sibling was up to, then No.
Some kids LIKE to get everyone in trouble by doing something wrong, and it is a bad precedent to set.
You may want to discuss with the others about whether they'd WANT to also forgo the privledge to show compassion and family unity. Encourage them to discuss why or why not, and accept their honest answers without getting angry at them. I mean tell them why you agree or disagree, but accept that they have their own opinions.
2006-06-10 03:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by shrubs_like_pretzles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think all the rest should lose the privilege. Punish the one that broke the rule, because to punish them all when one broke the rule will only reinforce that child's reasoning that if he/she breaks the rule it won't matter because nobody will get to do anything and sometime kids will do so purposely to get everyone in trouble. But if he/she is the only one being punished, hopefully they will think twice about breaking the rules because they will be punished and miss out on what is going on. It will make the other kids resentful. Explain to the one that broke the rules why he is being punished, also please take care to make the punishment age appropriate.
2006-06-10 00:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cherokee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, only the one breaking the rules should lose the priv. The rest would grow up and resent the way you treated them when they did nothing wrong. It's never right in schools either when a class is punished for 1 kids behavior.
2006-06-10 00:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have to take a hard look at what is going on and find out which child is causing most the trouble and which one is causing the other kids to get into trouble. We all have a trouble maker in the family and sometimes we end up punishing the wrong child just to find out later we were wrong all a long.
The child that done wrong needs to be punished.
2006-06-10 00:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the rules agreed upon. But it seems unfair if the others did good, don't it?
Why not negotiate and let the kids decide their privileges, losing those privileges and the appropriate punishment. That way they understand what they did wrong and the consequences of those misdeeds.
2006-06-10 00:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Eiznot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Also, make sure you give the child a change to correct the behavior...give them a warning and explain clearly what the penalty for the infraction would be. Make sure the punishment doesn't last long and that they have a chance to correct their mistake. You want to reinforce good behavior, not dampen their spirits. Good luck
2006-06-10 00:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger Sling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you have explained the situation to all your children beforehand. It teaches family unity and encourages children to develop a sense of responsibility for those around them. The lesson that one's behavior affects not only oneself but all of society is an important one. A blanket loss of privileges will also encourage positive peer pressure within your family. Children who learn how to assume responsibility and how to utilize positive peer pressure at a young age tend to become highly effective leaders when they grow up.
2006-06-10 01:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by Q&AGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if they were all involved, otherwise where is the motivation for the others to stay good. If they are going to get in trouble anyway might as well join in.
2006-06-10 01:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes,because it makes all of them work together to try not to break the rules
2006-06-10 00:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋