Today was my boyfriends B-day! Well he has to work early in the morning but is off the following day.(Sunday) So, he decided to call his friend to see if he wanted to hang out and play some cards and drink a few beers on Saturday night. So after he invites HIM, he hears him ask his girlfriend if she wants to go over there and hang out with us tomorrow. Now, I have an extreme dislike for this girl. (Maiinly due to the way she treats our friend and how she acts drunk, not to mention sober) Now, I can't be rude but how do we tell him NO about her. We wouldn't be mad if he didn't come but we just don't want her to ruin our night. What do we say to him?
2006-06-09 16:54:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They aren't married and don't live together. She's still young and immature. So what if they are a couple. I wouldn't be mad if my boyfriend said well Sorry but they only invited me. And by the way our friend knows that I don't like her. She was just sitting next to him in the car when we asked. He was on his cell. It's not like I asked him in front of her.
2006-06-09 17:02:05 · update #1
Ok my boyfirend hates this girl more than I do. And your right it's his Birthday. I am not immature 1/2 gumwrapper. So please try to leave a real anwer and not call people names. Did I mention that before he and the girl got together that she hit on my boyfriend when she knew that he was with me.? There now there are most of the facts. And no I wouldn't be mad if I didn't go somewhere with my boyfriend. We are 2 different people with different friends. I managed to live through the times that I wasn't invited to hang out with him and his friends. I just went and did something on my own.
2006-06-10 04:25:26 · update #2
Some of these people are obviously too stupid to understand the question....which is perfectly clear to me. You are saying that you AND your boyfriend don't like this girl. Well, your boyfriend shouldn't have to spend HIS birthday with someone HE doesn't like.
Since, you say that this girl knows that you guys don't like her(and that would mean the friend knows that, too) I would cancel plans anytime he invites her without your permission. Maybe, he will get the hint. That way you don't have to come out and say it but still get your point across.
If she(and he, obviously) knows you don't like her, then he shouldn't have been so rude as to invite her to hang out with your boyfriend on his birthday. So, be just as rude and cancel.
Why would she want to hang out with people that don't like her, anyway? That doesn't even make sense.
2006-06-10 07:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by huhwhat 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You know darn well your boy friend should not ask his friend to choose between him and his girlfriend.
You wouldn't be mad if he didn't come! Right! Not we! You have it written wrong. You are showing no consideration for your boyfriend. A streak of jealousy is showing through.
Grow up and learn to deal with these types of situations before they come up, or else your hissy's will come back to haunt you.
PS Your original added "additional details" indicate the wrong person is being charged as immature. The newly added "additional details"
now also clearly reflect that your stubborness inhibits you to only want an answer that you want to hear, and collectively from the repliers you are not getting that.
Seriously, look inside yourself, you even might discover the crux of your perceived problem is your unbecoming possessive like attitude as displayed by these words.
"she hit on my boyfriend when she knew that he was with me."
Actually, I am beginning to pity your BF.
(I cut to the chase with just the facts ma'am)
2006-06-10 00:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by ½«gumwrapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just hate that!!!!!!! I have been there.
You don't tell him not to bring her. If you do he may get anger. Now that they are a couple if he goes to hang out she's going to be with him.
What you really need to do is to try to find a way to get them apart. Apart meaning broke up! lol
Start bring in a bunch of female friends or single girls over to your home and then invite him over. If you are lucky he'll find another girl you like better.
Good Luck maybe their relationship won't last long and you'll be free from his freaky girlfriend....
2006-06-10 00:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let everybody hang out together- including the girl you don't like. Concentrate on having a good time and celebrating your boyfriends birthday. Try to find something about this girl that you like. She can't be all bad. Try to understand her.
2006-06-10 05:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can do anything on this occasion, you just have to make the best of it. But I would sit your friend down and let him know that you would like to see him on his own sometimes and see how he reacts. You don't have to say anything nasty about his girlfriend, but perhaps say that you don't feel all that comfortable around her. Hopefully, he'll understand, but if he doesn't then you might just have to accept that if you guys want to see him, then you'll have to put up with his girlfriend too. Good luck.
2006-06-10 00:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to let the friend know how u feel about the girl , as for the way she treats the friend evedendently its ok or your friend would not of asked her over , but u do need to let him know how u feel about the girl actually your b friend does , but be prepared because the guy mayu not want to come over to your home n e more sence u cant except his friend , maybe you guys can talk to the girl and let her know hey im glade that u r with tom and he likes you but i really dont care for te way u act towards him , etc but sence he already asked her to come over i think the best thing to do is just tolerate the girl for the night seeing how its short notice
2006-06-10 00:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by dale621 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think the best thing for you to do is to politely excuse yourself.
Calmly mention "I will not be in the same room as that girl, I will see you another day."
It is simple, honest and most of all you are getting the point across as to how you feel!
2006-06-10 21:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by cashflow_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your boyfriend was invited some and then told he could not bring you with him.
You either have them both over, or tell him that plans have changed that way you will not be causing trouble between them as well as between you and your boyfriend.
Put up with it this time and next time don't invite them
2006-06-10 00:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before you asked him. They are a couple, whatever your reasons for not liking her are. Afraid there is no polite way of getting out of the double invite.
2006-06-09 23:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no substitute for the TRUTH. You have got to take a chance on him getting his feelings hurt. But you might be doing him a favor. Sometimes people's vision is blurred by being to close--seeing her through your eyes might open his.
2006-06-10 02:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋