So, just a curiousity question.......if you met someone who you thought had to be the most perfect match for you in every possible way.........soulmates.........then you had sex and it sucked.........what would you do?
2006-06-09 15:39:36 · 18 answers · asked by yellowsunfire1971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm....I think she meant what would YOU do, not what should SHE do. **Hoping the "tell HIM" was meant for her**
Anywhoooooo...as for Me...Not to seem shallow...but...the sex/chemistry in the bedroom...has to be there ! I'm sure you could work on it some, but if there is magic...you know right away.
Some things...such as variety...toys...other people...if needed, can enhance things. However, if there is no real chemistry between you and that person...it will usually end up with issues outside the bedroom. Maybe not with everyone, but I know it will with Me. I can handle boredon and other outside issues...but if the sexual area isn't satisfying...the rest of it won't make up for that.
Just My opinion, no matter how shallow it seems....you asked.
2006-06-09 16:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sex isnt everything in a relationship. Actually it is quite a small part. But it seems that we elevate it over all the caring wonderful things that we get out of a relationship. If everything else was perfect. I would try to improve the one little problem not give up the relationship.
It is a great day to be alive!!
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-09 15:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hve entered the area of madness. till you're taking your existence back you would be completely lost. purely start up doing the failings you opt to do and in the adventure that your so stated as bf doesnt like it tell him to get a existence.. you have become too based on him for some reason and that may no longer a competent element. be your self and end being so insane over him.. you pick a existence which you would be able to stay, no longer by potential of a few others jealous unreasonable standards.. what did he do to suggestions wash you anyhow..
2016-12-13 15:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by broscious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahem....I used to believe that it wasn't that important but I have changed my tune a bit. I have found out that you can have incredible chemistry in the bedroom and the rest of of it isn't so good...and it won't work. I have also found that everything else can be good and the chemistry sucks..and it won't work. I won't say its the MOST important aspect of a relationship, but I will say that it is pretty important if you are talking a long term commitment. Chemistry isn't something you can "fix" It's either there or it isn't. :-)
2006-06-09 17:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by smilesfromred 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your heart......how many times have u had sex with this person? was it just 1 time? if it was just once and it wasn't good.....maybe they was nervous.give it another try,,,,,,,,if it was more than once and it still was bad,maybe this person wasn't meant to be the soul mate u thought....if u love this person a lot and u think that sex wont matter it will maybe not today or not tomorrow but later down the road.So just take one day at a time and see what happens.if it was true love then the sex would have felt ....ohhhh... soooo..... gooood....
2006-06-09 15:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Starbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd run...and fast! there's no way a relationship will work if you don't jive in the bedroom. Some people don't think sex is that important, but seriously, do you want bad sex for the rest of your life?
2006-06-09 15:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your so called soul-mate, then I think just because you had a bad sexual experience should not be relevant. Maybe you both were just a bit nervous or something... ! Keep on trying I am sure it will work out.
2006-06-09 15:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try again. If you seriously are soulmates then you will have plenty of time to perfect it.
2006-06-09 15:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Volleyball Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him excactly what you like and give him a great deal of enthusiasm when he starts to hit the right buttons, its called positive reinforcement, works on dogs and men.
2006-06-09 16:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a few years ago, I would have said that I would regretfully not pursue her. Now, I think I would. Strange how things change as we get older.
2006-06-09 15:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋