I'm white and have been dating a Korean guy for three months. He's 27 and I'm 37. (he persued me.) We have fallen in love. He lives with his parents and is going to school. His mom is upset he's dating a 37 yr old white woman. His mom wants him to find a "good Korean girl." His father's upset that he's not moving fast enough with his education and wants him to work more. My boyfriend told me he needs time to think and feels stretched. His parents don't like him dating me. Are there any Koreans who can help me understand this situation?
2006-06-09 15:36:35 · 10 answers · asked by luvpink 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend has decided to stay.
2006-06-14 21:20:49 · update #1
He said he could not eat or sleep. He told his parents that hey cannot decide who he can and cannot love. He chose to continue dating me.
2006-06-14 21:22:37 · update #2
Korean parents are typically old-fashioned, very traditional. More often the Korean son or daughter will bend to the will of his or her parents.
It's a cultural aspect.
The only thing I can say is patience and time. Try embracing more of his culture. Find ways to connect with his parents. They need to realize your beauty and what you provide for their son.
It will be hard, but if you really want this relationship and love this person, mountains are simple hills. Keep strong and stay on course. Support your love. Don't disrespect his parents. If you do, you will more than likely drive him away.
2006-06-09 15:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnsie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am white and my boyfriend is Korean and the only thing his parents do not like me is because of my age. I am 15 years older than my boyfriend . His parents do not care if I am white or Korean. They just do not like me because I am 41 years old and he is 26 but he told his parents that he is sorry to disobey them but he loves me and he will never grant their wish to leave me. Because he will not leave me under their wish, they have to except me no matter what. My boyfriend loves me. So it can be age, race but for me it is because I am 15 years older than he is. A lot of Korean men these days now like to date older woman no matter if they are Korean or white or any other culture. To me with his parents not liking me because of my age, I need to work hard to get them to like me for me and not let my age bother them.
2016-02-15 19:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jolene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm it's interesting why white men don't seem to go through this kind of situation when dating/marrying korean girls. however, if you two are a match, i'm sure things will work out. you may opt to learn to speak some korean to soften the parents' resistence (if you want to, as i am sure the parents are far more fluent in korean)
2006-06-09 16:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bresec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry that you've ran into Korean parents who don't like their son dating outside of Korean community. The truth is, as is the case with most ethnicity and Koreans, males tend to enjoy more freedom than females in choosing their mate, be it from outside of one's ethnicity, even though Korean females HUGELY outnumber Korean males in getting a non-Korean mate. Plus, your Korean guy is an adult and so are you. It's you two's lives, and it's your call. I truly think, sooner or later, the Korean parents will understand that, because Koreans are not unreasonable people even if they are of the previous generation. Best of good wishes.
2006-06-09 15:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm South Korean, and it's true that Korean parents want their kids to marry only Koreans. I would say because they are old-fashioned, and S.Korea is not multi-cultural like America or other European countries. But remember that not all Korean parents want their kids to marry only Korean.
2006-06-10 00:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe one problem is th age gap. youre 37 and hes 27. koreans prefer man should be older than woman when it comes to dating.the first thing they asks is the age gap.
and maybe parents cnt communicate with you since you cant express yourself.
anyway if it is really love.... good things awaits both of you. goodluck
2006-06-13 14:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by myself 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cause the most of the Americans that are stationed in Republic of Korea, have given the rest of the American's a bad name.
Plus Koreans have strong family roots. Not all Koreans are friendly and not all of them are hostile. I think it's more their heritage. They would feel disgrace if you took their family name. You being a caucasain and him being a Korean.
2006-06-09 15:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by Skud 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think there old fashion just like many parents out there but maybe there right they just want 100% Korean grandchildren and there nothing wrong with that some ppl just don't like interracial dating they just want there race to keep going and not split it by marrying out of there race
2006-06-09 15:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by yayo_upin_disbitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-28 20:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY.. WHO TOLD YOU THAT??? I WORK FOR KOREAN AIRLINE FOR OVER 5 YRS.. TRUST ME.. I'VE SEEN LOTS OF KOREAN+WHT/BLACK/INDI... MOST OF MY FRIENDS R KOREAN... THEIR PARENTS ARE NOT THAT STRICT, THOU. MY COWORKER.. WHO WAS STATION IN KOREA .. MET A GURL WHO WAS 10 YRS OLD THAN HIM.. HIS FAM. DISOWN HIM.. BUT SO WAT?? HE LOVES HER ENOUGH TO STAY STRONG W/ HER.. ALL ASIAN PARENTS WANT A TRADITIONAL GIRL FOR THEIR SON.. THAT'S FULL OF SHIET.. MY XBF'S PARENTS HATE MY GUT.. AND I'M ASIAN TOO.. HIS MOM SAID I'M NOT GOOD FOR HIM.. AFTER 6 YRS.. SHE REALIZE I'M BETTER.. AND I DUMP HIM CUZ SHE GAVE ME 2 MUCH CRAP.. ALL I CAN SAY IS.. IF HE LOVES YOU, HE KNOWS WHAT TO DO.. GOODLUCK BABE..
2006-06-09 15:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋