What should i do?

Question

My best friend cuts herself, and everytime i tell her to stop, she'll stop for a while, but then after a while, she's back at it again. What should i do, i'm scared because she cuts herself really deep.

Answer 1

Do what Christan Girl says. The lord will help anyone that asks for help.

Answer 2

I am assuming that you are not an adult

Absolutely tell an adult you trust. Being scared is ok. Make sure you tell someone who can help her get the help she needs. Her parents need to know. Tell your parents too. You do not need to deal wih this on your own. Let people help you.

My friend cut herself at school, so I took her to the counselors and sat with her the rest of the day. She ended up going to a mental hospital for a week. I felt horrible about it, like it was my fault. When she got out she told me I had saved her life.

Answer 3

If you're under 18, the best thing you can do for your friend is tell an adult!

I don't think anyone cuts themselves for fun, she's probably depressed. She needs to get professional help and you should insist that she does. I suggest you and her learn about depression:
http://www.psychologyinfo.com/depression

Her doctor can probably recommend a therapist or psychologist for her to speak to so she can start to recover. Treatment should NOT be put off, things are going to get worse, not better.

Since you posted this question in this category, I suppose I'll tell you what you want to hear: pray for her.

Answer 4

do you think praying is really going to fix this problem???? To the ones that answer this. This is a disease. Self Injury isn't something you can pray to go away, just like you can't pray for cancer, aids, or anything. Get a life people. There are three types of self-injury. The rarest and most extreme form is Major self-mutilation. This form usually results in permanent disfigurement, i.e. castration or limb amputation. Another form is Stereo typic self-mutilation which usually consists of head banging, eyeball pressing and biting. The third and most common form is Superficial self-mutilation which usually involves cutting, burning, hair-pulling, bone breaking, hitting, interference with wound healing and basically any method used to harm oneself.

Self-injury can help someone relieve intense feelings such as anger, sadness, loneliness, shame, guilt and emotional pain. Many people who cut themselves, do this in an attempt to try and release all the emotions they are feeling internally. Others may feel so numb, that seeing their own blood when they cut themselves, helps them to feel alive because they usually feel so dead inside. Some people find that dealing with physical pain is easier than dealing with emotional pain. Self-injury is also used as a way to punish oneself. If they were abused, they may feel ashamed, guilty and blame themselves for the abuse, which in turn causes them to feel the need to punish themselves by inflicting pain to their bodies. Some people have such hatred for themselves and their bodies that they will carve demeaning names on their bodies as a way to remind themselves of how terrible they are. Whatever form of self-injury is used, the person is usually left with a peaceful and calm feeling afterwards. Since those feelings are only temporary, the person will probably continue to self-injure until they deal with the underlying issues and finds healthier ways to cope.
A professional therapist is usually needed to assist in overcoming self-injurious behavior.

Answer 5

Work with her to find replacment behaviors to do instead of harming herself. Be sure to let her know that she is very important to you and while you do not like the fact that she cuts, you still love her dispite it. If possible convince her to seek proffessional help to cope with the issues that cause her to self-injure.

Also, you should google the site "secret shame" and the message board "Bodies Under Siege" also known as "BUS" both of them have great tips for coping with self-injury, whether you are hte person doing it or love a person who does.

Answer 6

Your friend needs help that you can not provide. maybe you could talk her into going to the hospital for a psych evaluation and they can direct her for a proper road to recovery. Anything could be triggering this behavior from depression to low self-esteem to a traumatic episode anywhere in her past. They cut because it makes them feel, pain, physically, and emotionally, eventhough it adds to depression it gives them a feeling of worth for a few seconds then the self hate hits them and they become depressed and hate themselves for damaging their body and feel they would be better off dead. So anybody who cuts needs help because "cutters" usually cut themselves as a cry for help but don't know where to turn Good luck

Answer 7

Tell an adult u can trust. Ask her to go and see her doctor. I think she needs to talk to a therapist. Have u asked her why she does it? Also maybe u could suggest to her to try cutting ice cubes instead. But most importantly she must see her doctor and a therapist. She needs professional help.

Answer 8

You need to tell someone. she needs professional help. This is not normal behavior. She may be mad at you for telling on her, but you will probably have saved her life. It's the right thing to do.

Answer 9

tell someone because obviously you're attempts aren't working you need to get her help. Either tell her parents or take her to get help, because she could cut herself so deep that it can kill her, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP

Answer 10

My best friend in the world went threw that and her dad saw and she went to a pshyciatrist and everything got better. You should tell your parents and have them talk to her parents to get her help! she could die from this dont wait till its too late! :) katie

Answer 11

She's obviously quite disturbed and needs special attention by professional assistance. Seek help for her soon!