We have been working on this for a year and a half. She has been through a very amblical seperation. Her father and I are both getting tired of the accidents. HELP any ideas. I need a surefire cure.....
2006-06-09 13:12:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Give this a try it worked with both mine.
Take their hand and go into where the pottie is,, say I am going to put this up until your ready to use it and show them where you put it. Put diapers back on them and say when you want to use the pottie all time like we do, then let me know and we will get it back out. Then don't have any conversations regarding pottie training in that childs presence not with hubbie not with grands and not on the phone with someone.
If they haven't asked for the pottie in a couple weeks,, then sit it back in place in the floor while they are asleep and let them find it.
It took care of it with both mine. One asked for it, the other said OH MY POTTIE, and that was that,, no more issues.
2006-06-09 13:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different, but here's my experience with my two girls ... I'm a father of 3yr old twin girls. They showed a little interest in toilets when they were 18 months old, so we were thrilled that we might have them out of diapers early. Such was not the case. They preferred to use their diapers and we decided not to make a big deal about it. Quite a while later we started to talk about 'being big girls' and how that included 'big girl panties'. We just continued to have these kinds of conversations now and then until they decided that they wanted to be big girls. It was pretty much a quick adjustment. Every time they went to their potty we would just make a HUGE deal about it .. call each other over, hugs & kisses & clapping. That was the only 'rewards' we used. I think my wife and I must have been quite a sight hopping around the bathroom! It became a fun game for my girls and they would often try to race each other to see who could 'go on the potty' first. We kept them in diapers at night for another couple of months. They both had a couple accidents during the day and night, but not too many and not for too long.
So, from my experience, Don't Worry too much about it. Don't do any of the negative stuff .. I don't see how it's really productive, and it seems just a bit on the mean side, to me. It never really made sense to me, Why make your children feel bad? or uncomfortable? or dirty?
They _will_ learn .. just let them do it on their own time with lots of encouraging words and actions from you.
2006-06-11 19:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.
Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it.
2006-06-09 19:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by turtlewoman2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tired and tired to get my daughter potty trained I bought book after book, potty chairs and more potty chair nothing would get her to go on the potty. I finally gave up and stopped trying and about a week later she started going potty on her own. I think when your child is ready they will go on there own as long as they know where the potty is and what it is used for. I started trying to train her at 2 1/2 she finally did it 5 days after her 3rd birthday. I kept pull ups on her at night for the first 3 weeks and then went to panties. she has only had 2 accidents and it is going on 7 months now. My advise is to stop trying so hard and she will do it when she is ready. Good luck
2006-06-09 14:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by ibuyfords 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone for a while. Make her sit on the potty every 30 minutes. I would give my children cup of water after cup of water so they would go more. When i saw them get antsy i picked them up and ran them to the potty. I also put them in underwear so they could really feel that they wet. I only used pullups at night. once they got the daytime down i woke them up 2 times a night until i heard them get up on their own. I also cut them off of the liquids an hour before bed tiem iuntil the could go alone.
Remember the angrier and louder you get the worse they will do. I also gave my children stickers every time they peed an i got little toys from the dollar store for when they had a bowel movement. The had a sense of accomplishment.
2006-06-09 15:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by millymoocow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be ready yet. My daughter was trained by 22 month, my son by 27 months, but it was easy, they were ready. My son would ask to go beginning at 23 months (we put off training him till we moved), my daughter, the less verbal one, would just strip her clothes off (and we used cloth diapers!) every time she needed to pee, she was fully trained in about 3 days. I would let my kids run naked when we were home, cloth training pants at night until they were dry every morning. Only praise, if there is an accident, ignore it as much as you can, take them to the potty immediately after an accident.
2006-06-09 13:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kid will potty train in their own time. My brother say "How many kids do you see on the first day of kindergarden in diapers." Do not make a big deal about it she will get it i promise. My son is potty training at school and they asked me to ask him every 30 minutes if he has to go potty I really never say anything he just goes in the bathroom by himself. When he does go and tells me I give him a lolli pop. he does get excited when my hubby and I go andhe says yea mom went potty. So I get a lolli pop too.
good Luck she will come around
2006-06-10 03:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Mac 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wasn't ready when it was started. The pressure or stress of it may have completely turned her off. I would leave her alone for a few months, and try again later. Most kids aren't really ready until they're over 2 1/2.
2006-06-09 15:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child isn't really ready to be potty trained until he/she is 2-1/2 to 3 years old..Sometimes just putting too much stress on her to go potty will made her /him rebel.....Ease up.....
2006-06-09 13:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by iluvcats58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my wife are going through the same thing our son is 2 1/2 and he was doing fine then he just didn't want to go but were still working on it
2006-06-09 13:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ronnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋