I have a 7 year old son who defies all my rules and sticky fingers help?

Question

I HAVE DONE EVERY THING FROM BOUNDRIES TO BELTS TO PRAISING HIM NOT JUST FOR A DAY ETHER HE JUST DONT CARE AND BY THE WAY HE ALSO IS SEEING A PSYCOLOGIST I DO APPRECIATE THE RESPONSES MAYBE ILL LEARN SOMETHING NEW!!! IF NOT TO HELP WITH HIM HELP MY OTHER 2 BOYS WHO ARE OLDER. (p.s. bad spelling i know :p)

dont know where your coming from miss "i dont find any love in your remarks" but if i did not love him i would not be seeking advice!!! and yes the belt his dr. suggested it so i tried. it im not looking for ridicule or judgement on my self just new ideas on this matter thanks

Answer 1

My eight year old is the same. I set rules and provide a good environment for her to obey them with lots of latitude for growth.

Notwithstanding all of that, I have resorted to time-outs and a good spanking. Time-outs meaning the eight minutes starts when she sits still and behaves herself. When things got out-of-hand, I spanked her, then the time-out started again.

At that age the power struggle also starts. They don't agree with you but lack the intellect to challenge you on an adult level.

Answer 2

7 year olds don't defy rules. You are giving him too much credit. He is just testing you and you are obviously failing. I'm assuming you are an adult. Define your rules, set the consequences for not following the rules and then follow through. It is not going to be pleasant and he will not like you. So what...Decide today what you want your son to be like as an adult. Is the way you two behave going to get him there or are you enabling someone that you will forever be apologizing for? I've heard it over and over...kids want limits and it is true. I have kids at my house who are by nature kids that "defy" their parents rules but they don't defy mine! They learn the rules, learn the consequences, break the rules. suffer the consequences and then come back ready to do things my way. Be reasonable in your rules, bend if necessary, adjust strategies if needed but be firm and finally LAUGH ALOT. Find the things they do right all the time and find that in his friends too and praise it in front of your son. Don't reward it just show you appreciate it. Build character in your son and his friends you won't believe how much they will try and seek your approval. But remember to stand firm on the rules too. Approval for everything is hollow.

Answer 3

At age seven , to say he "defies"; and you have given him the "belt"? This is cruel & unusual punishment . It sounds as if the child is treated like a criminal-thus , he'll behave as such . I'm sorry but i don't read any "love" into your remarks . Sometimes raising kids can seem like one of life's burdens. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You might also talk to his professional person and ask what you could do to help the situation. Also-has there been a new situation introduced into his life that could be upsetting him? Good luck .

Answer 4

Try logical consequences. He is old enough to start to anticipate the outcome of his actions. A child who steals is usually looking for attention. A child will settle for negative attention instead of no attention at all. Try to find him behaving good and encourage that behavior. Also, talk to him about how he feels and what he is thinking about the things he does. He may have low self esteem. Please help him to behave now. Children just want to be happy. Make sure he has a nutritious diet too.

Answer 5

Explain to him that rebellion will have consequences and then make sure that you stand by what you have said. As God has told us:

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him....Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. My son, if thine heart be wise, my heart shall rejoice, even mine. Proverbs 23:13-15

Answer 6

wip his but hard to!!!!!!