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I like this girl at work and she is married and we have become really close friends and i dont know how to tell her that i am falling for her anyone got any answers have anyone been in this spot light??

2006-06-09 12:23:51 · 21 answers · asked by chrisvvj 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

HEr and her husband ar always fighting they dont get alone at all he works nights and she works days so they never see each other and she has had strange calls from other women asking for him do i still not tell her??

2006-06-09 13:00:53 · update #1

21 answers

If she's married you really shouldn't try to pursue her.

Even if she does like you back and something happens, will you be able to respect her in the long run?

She may have allowed you to get close to her because she knew that you knew she is married and assumes that therefore your interest in her is friendship. She could be less than happy that you thought otherwise.

I know we can't choose who we fall for but do yourself a favour and try to find someone who is available.

OK after reading the details you added;

If their relationship is going to come to an end, it's best that you leave them to it. If you and her have any chance of having a good relationship it would be best for there to be a clear time gap between the end of her relationship with her husband and her relationship with you. If you really care about her, realise that if her and her husband are having problems she will be incredibly vulnerable. She needs a friend now and who knows when she's ready for a new relationship, she will remember that you were there for her when she needed someone.

You need to think about your own feelings too. If you begin an affair but then she never leaves her husband, how will you feel? That's why I think it's safer to wait for the relationship to run it's course.

2006-06-09 12:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to leave this woman alone - she is married. You don't want to be the other man or the man that breaks up a marriage, or causes drama. Being friends with her is fine, but the other feelings you have for her you need to work through and let them go. Understand that she isn't on the market anymore!

2006-06-09 12:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

SHe is probibly being very nice to you and you are taking it to mean something far more.
I highly doubt that she feels the same way about you.
You need to find another woman to become interested in, otherwise your going to be fixated on her, and thats not going to help you.

Do not tell her. She will probibly become embarrased and not know how to talk to you in the future, in order to make sure you dont get the wrong idea in the future.

2006-06-09 12:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by creskin 4 · 0 0

Don't tell her and you should back off on being really close friends. Otherwise you're travelling down a road where someone is going to be seriously hurt.

2006-06-09 12:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by janinenc2002 3 · 0 0

Do NOT mess around with this unless you are prepared to accept the fact that you are a buzzard vulture circling the dying carcass of her marriage.

2006-06-21 08:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0 0

if she is married you need to keep your feelings to yourself. she has made a lifelong commitment to someone else and its not your place to try to get in the middle of that. think about her family and her husband, how would you feel if someone was trying to do that to you? just stay friends with her, youll sleep better at night.

2006-06-09 12:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Hez 5 · 0 0

Respect her and her husband, leave her alone. What if someone was doing that to your wife? You are a low life.

2006-06-09 12:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm sorry, if shes married, that means shes off limits. Continue to be her friend, but don't break up their marriage.

2006-06-09 12:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0 0

Leave her alone. Marriage is a commitment and you have no right to tempt her to break it. Your feelings are of lust, because love is good and pure and right. Do not covet thy neighbor's wife.

2006-06-09 12:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 5 · 0 0

Don't **** with married women man, it only leads to trouble and a massive lawsuit I guarantee it.

2006-06-09 12:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0 0

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