Why do some moms get jealous or snotty with more well off moms...?

Question

I am sick of being told I'm stupid or nuts because I buy my sons clothes and toys new, or I'm nuts for buying a large home or new car...its my life and I never say I think it's dumb to wear something from like a decade ago!
How do I tell them to shut up, nicely?

The thing is I'm a SAHM so it's obvious I dont "earn" any money (btw, thats bs) So what I do earn my money by staying home and taking care of the house and kid and hubby!

Also why do they think its okay to tell me they bought the sons clothes at some thrift store, but if I say I got my kids stuff at Gap or something its taken as bragging???

SUMMER WILL WIN FOR BEST ANSWER.
I'm not a braggart but I guess it doesnt matter because poor moms will always see rich moms as materialistic snobs that like to brag...whatever, I'm going shopping.

Iam 25 and wasnt a slut n my early days. I waited for the right man and didnt have a kid by some jobless loser with high hopes.
I planned my life and got the one I wanted.
Most of the mothers who ***** earned their way to the poorhouse by dating anyone who paid interest in them and no look at them, on welfare and living in a rundown townhouse. Its not my fault they didnt plan their life better and accepted what they got...a shitty poor life.
My kid is the best, he has manners doesnt swear has lots of friends and is nice, unlike their kids that swear and dont listen to their mothers.
To anyone who envies me...you CHOSE to live the life you have, so quit being a snob to me.

Answer 1

You don't.
You ignore them.
It's their problem.
The way you spend the money YOU earn is your business only.
Just be sure you do not exacerbate the problem by acting, you know, like they aren't on your level because your child has advantages theirs do not. (not saying you do this, but I know women who do).
Just smile and be kind.
You will always win if your the bigger man, so to speak.

Answer 2

Many moms are more well off than others. Many moms don't care. We don't make a great living and I have a baby on the way but my child doesn't need for anything and is somewhat still spoiled. Maybe it is something your kids are doing that you are not aware of that the other kids are making thier mom feel bad. Like bragging to other kids about thier new toys and such and than the kids go home and say "mommy why does *insert kids name here* have new toys all the time but I don't?" Kids have a way of making parents feel guilty because we all want to give our children the best of the best even though not all of us can afford to. Just the way you phrased your guestion and details makes me believe you are snobby. You have no right to say that just because you are better off someone f*cked thier way to the poorhouse. My mom raised two kids without help from my father worked 2 jobs and graduated college she was never once on welfare or food stamps.
I don't think anybody envies you.
In fact I am pretty sure more women are thankful that they are not you.
It would hurt to have a stick so far up my own a*s..

Answer 3

It's your money but I am very happy with what I have and my kids get what they want but now new. If they get it new then they must work for it. It's called responsablity. The world won't be as nice as a mom that gives everything. I think you should just be happy and buy only what you need to show your kids how to survive in need in case they get that way and you can help them at some point! I would check out places like freecycle in your area and thift shops. You can put your money into more bigger items. Having a good car thats new is great and owning a house. If your making payment by some chance put the money you save into the payments or bank.I am not jealous and i am happy no having much! I dont want anything other than happiness for my friends and family. And them to be safe. try donating some old items rather then saling them maybe that will help.

Answer 4

YOU are so full of BS... Quite asking the same questions under new names! And get a life.. You contradict yourself.. with the first ID that you had you said you had a house worth 300,000. Next ID you said you had a house worth 700,000... Last time I noticed, you said you live in an older home? So what is you deal? You are one insecure person having to get on the internet and liying about your life.... WE don't want to hear your crappy, full of bull questions! You also need an attitude adjustment! How dare you talk about people you don't even know! Just because some women are what you call 'poor' doesn't mean they where sluts in high school like you have stated before. If anyone is jealous of a b*t*h like you, them I feel sorry for them!

Answer 5

There are two types of people who give this advice, generally. The first kind ARE jealous, but do your best to understand that they see you able to give your kids things they can't- and when you aren't able to provide for your child, it hurts. The second kind are used to budgeting and don't know what it's like to be in the same financial situation. They probably see you as thoughtless with your money and mentally tally up what they see you spending vs their budgets (For instance "She spent 100$ on her kids outfits- I could have bought a weeks groceries AND an outfit from walmart for that!").
My advice is not to flaunt what you've got around these kinds of folks. There is no polite way to say "I make more money than you do and you don't know what you're talking about." Bluntly change the conversation to something unrelated; hopefully, they'll get the hint it's not something you care to discuss.

Answer 6

OHMIGOD!!!, what are most these people thinking, " what if your doing this and that"

Look you have a family you are proud of, by the sounds of it you have an adorable child. If I had the money I would be doing exactly as you are, I would have the big house and big car!!

Dont react to them, you dont have anything to justify! You carry on shopping girl. The only reason they make these remarks is because they all wish it was them.

It is not your problem if they are jealous, if they want some thing they should work for it.

And dont worry about being nice to them!!

Answer 7

You should come to parent meetings with me lol, just tell them nicely that it's your money, they think like that because they think that you overindulge or they think that your kids are spoiled, I use to get told by parents that I dress my kids tacky because I didn't go out and spend $120.00 on brand name sneakers which whould have probably lasted a month anyway- and I use to tell those parents that it's none of their business my kids go to school well behaved and neatly dress. They were the same ones that use to cry about bills all the time. Now I make more money and can afford certain things but i never spoil my kids or myself- so when the next parent tells you about your spending habits, and I'm assuming you have good spending habits, tell them it's your money and that you want the best for your kids.

Answer 8

There isn't a nice way to say it. Best bet is to keep money oriented issues down to a minimum. Money is a touchy subject and when you are talking to people about the things you have purchased or obtained, those with lesser funds/income may take it more as bragging or your being materialistic. When talking to other moms, keep the conversation to pretty much kids and of course husbands, lol

Answer 9

Did you ever consider that you may be coming across as materialistic? Do you brag about how much the things you've purchased cost? Do you rub it in their face that you can afford things that they can't? Try examining yourself and make sure you aren't being a braggart. If you aren't than just brush what ever they say off and live your life!

Answer 10

Perhaps you are showing off to them, with out knowing it. I know being a mom its hard to compete with other moms. I to want the best for my little girl and its hard to do so when I see others with bigger and better things, the things I can not get for her. I am not jealous nor do I talk bad about the people who have more. The way you spend your money is your business and no one else's, its your lifestyle. Just dont show off.