As a mother of a 6 month old and a 4 year old, I have lived to see many mistakes other parents have made with their children. I see my own parents and I worry. What are some things that I can do to be sure I do the very raising my children? The least thing I want is for my children to become criminals, or hate me for not understanding them, which a lot of children feel nowadays. Every response will be truly appreciated. Thank you so much!
2006-06-09 11:25:27 · 13 answers · asked by powerdiva411 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Always listen to them, even when they do bad things let them explain why they did it. Take an interest in their lives ask them what they did at school, talk about the things they like to do, the books they read. Do lots of things with them reading, painting, playing games, going to the park. Don't leave them plonked in front of the tv. If you have to inflict rules like bedtime explain why those rules are in place. Tell them you love them, give them lots of hugs. Always be there when they need to talk, make sure they feel they can always come to you whenever they have a problem.
2006-06-09 11:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by n 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
As long as we are human, we will make mistakes. However, follow both your heart and your mind. I used to worry about the same thing as you; making the same mistakes my parents made. But now that I am older, I realize that my parents were just kids themselves when they had me.
The best thing to do is be consistent when you are trying to teach them right from wrong. Regarding your baby, just pay attention to him/her and always respond when baby cries. Some people think that holding a baby too much will spoil it, but that is so far from the truth. First of all, it is impossible for a baby to manipulate you. They cannot make the connection that every time they cry, they will be picked up. They cry because they cannot talk and this is the only way they can communicate. When you don't respond to a crying baby, they will grow up feeling insecure and not being able to fully trust people. They won't know why they feel that way when they get older, but every thing you do, no matter how small, will have an impact.
Try to remember how you felt when your parents did certain things and respond appropriately. Treat them as you would have wanted to be treated when you were growing up.
2006-06-09 11:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've prayed for a parent like you all my life, at least you care, i struggle daily with my parents, whatever you do dont pay more attention to on or another, its not fair and you child will grow to hate you if you start to give up on them, make sure when they gte into school, they are in sports and that you dont curse in front of your childern, always let them have some freedom, if u keep them in a box, they will become crimals they will want to do everything all at once when they get older, and thats not good, if ur child falls, pick them up and hold them, just dont look at them at laugh thats not cool, care about your child and love them, its the best thing you can do, its not easy to be a teen if ur parents dont seem to care, the child will have trust issues, and not have many friends becuasae they will see it is okay not to care about other people, if anymore questions email me, Igotalyfe@yahoo.com, im always here ;)
2006-06-09 11:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by igotalyfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is HUGE... if you keep those communication lines open your off to a great start.
Start talking to them now, maybe as your tucking in your little ones ask them if there is anything they would like to talk about... ask how their day went... did anything bother them??
Always be honest with them and make sure when you do something wrong (involving the child) such as over reacting on a situation or whatever it may be make sure you let them now, admit what you did was wrong and apologize.
2006-06-09 12:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take parenting classes. I did, they really help and open your eyes about society and kids today. It is totally different from when we were kids. My daughter is 12 and I'm scared to death to see where she will go and what decisions she will make. I too have made mistakes, but we learn from them and move on.
2006-06-09 11:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by she909e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for them over anyone else...like a man!
Play and talk with them, go places, travel if you can afford it, if not, go on a road trip to a small town.
Basically dont hurt them or yell too much at them.
Let them have there alone time as well.
2006-06-09 11:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by ROLLIE 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure they have well balanced meals. Help them to learn what they'll need to know in school. Teach them their manners and if you believe in it, their prayers. Keep them clean, except when playing-then let them get dirty. CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE:
If a child lives with criticism-He learns to condem.
If a child lives with hostility-He learns to fight
If a child lives with ridicule-He learns to be shy
If a child lives with shame-He learns to be guilty
If a child lives with tolerance-He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement-He learns confidence
If a child lives with praise-He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness-He learns justice.
If a child lives with security-He learns to have faith
If a child lives with approval-He learns to like himself
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,he learns to find love in the world.(This hung on my frig. while I raised my kids and is now in a picture in my kitchen for my grandkids..Words to live by)
2006-06-09 13:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them rules and stick by them and give them a lot of love.
2006-06-09 11:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show respect and deal with them as they are young.
Trust is the key word,,,,,use it.
Faith is their bed,,,,,
your love and care is your dream so, make it true!
2006-06-09 11:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by dragowolfthelegend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shood give them what they want just not EVERYTHING cuz that wood spoil them but yeah.. get them what they want thats reasonable... and when they get older dont get into all there business
2006-06-09 11:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋