My gash, I've offended my sister by not inviting my niece who is 21 to the rehearsal dinner.... she is not in the wedding, however will be showing people their seats at the reception. My sis and I are very different, and I think that she's viewing this rehearsal dinner as a social event. Bottom line; we certainly didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but we may have. Should we have invited her, even tho there was no rehearsing for her to do at the church? My sister has been very adimate about this not being the proper etiquette....The wedding is next week; probably too late to fix this! ps... Her son (my nephew) is an usher, and he is invited (she's advised him not to come now, putting plans to attend another wedding ahead of this, so it's definitely not a good situation).... HELP!
2006-06-09 11:18:41 · 4 answers · asked by me2007 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is hosted (and paid for) by the groom's parents. The bride, groom and both sets of parents and grandparents attend, as do any siblings and their partners or spouses. The officiant and his or her spouse are invited, as are the wedding party members (the flower girl gets invited with her parents). The bottom line: Anyone who needs to be at the rehearsal should also be invited to the dinner that follows (people who'll be doing readings, etc.).
Beyond that, the guest list for the rehearsal dinner is up to the host and hostess. If you invited members of the wedding party to your wedding with a date, invite them to the rehearsal dinner as well. Some people choose to invite very close relatives and anyone who's come in from out of town to the rehearsal dinner, but this isn't mandatory.
2006-06-09 11:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
At this point why not just invite your niece? Your sister is incorrect, the rehearsal dinner is for those in the wedding party and their guests. A niece helping people be seated at the reception would not be at the rehearsal.
2006-06-09 11:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bypass your sister and go straight to your neice and tell her that you were sorry for not inviting her and explain to her why. If shes indifferent, then there is no reason to worry about what your sister thinks. Dont kick yourself too hard, you are planning your wedding and have thousands of things on your mind. If you offended anyone, they should realize that its because your stressed, not because you spite them. Personally, they should be there to support you, not create more concerns.
2006-06-09 11:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by indiantrumpet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This site gives "proper" etiquette info for weddings.
http://www.topweddingquestions.com/forum/gforum.cgi?post=6716
I don't really think it matters. It's your wedding. Do what you feel is right.
2006-06-09 11:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by happy_fairy_gurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋