Im 13 and for some reason I can't accept my step father and my bilogical dad died when I was only 1 so I never had one before and dont feel like I need one at this point in life. I know my mother deserves to be happy but I jsut don't like it he is doing everything he can to make me like him but he has a wierd way of showing it. I mean for about 12years of my life I lived without one and I am suppose to accept one out of the blue. Help me because I am a young christan girl but cant find terms with my stepfather.
2006-06-09 11:17:24 · 8 answers · asked by Lady T 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So, you were like an orphan, and he is trying to be your Dad.
So were we all like orphans, and God wants to be our father.
Maybe that will help your perspective. I have a Christian step dad, and he is a wonderful person!
2006-06-09 11:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Hippie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just accept him as the person in your mothers life and be polite and civil ,if he treats you with respect ,you must do the same ..
in time you may come to apreciate each others existance,
but this must come naturally and cannot be forced ,
do not be in such a hurry to have everything solved instantly .
but the fact remains that a child or a young person needs adults of both sexes ,for advice and be of help with coming to terms of growing up and learning about life.
you may need him sometime ..so try to be friendly at least .
and he will also need your aproval, if he lives in the same house .,for being around and being an asset..
make the best of it ,you can only gain
2006-06-09 18:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People come into our life that we don't want there. You must be grateful for all that you recieve in your life - good and bad. It is all here to complete your life.
We should embrace even the things we detest. You cannot change things that you hate, you can only change things that you first accept and realize that they are a part of the same love that makes your spirit.
2006-06-09 18:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by ridethestar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. When my dad first got married, I felt weird because it seemed like my stepmother was trying to get me to like her; buying me a whole bunch of things. You should realize is that your stepdad wants very badly for you to accept him as your mom's husband. He's not trying to MAKE YOU HIS DAUGHTER. He just wants you to like him as your mom's husband and then later you can work on your relationship with him being your stepdad. Your mom loves him and is happy being with him. You may feel like you don't need a father and that's okay but your mom wants to be happy too. Your mom's husband just wants you to like and accept him that's all.
Another thing, sweetie instead of looking for answers here on the computer; you should spend more time with God and He'll give you the answers that you need. Just trust Him and He'll lead you in the right directions.
2006-06-09 18:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to adjust. It is a major life change. Hopefully your mom and stepfather will realize that you cannot instantly accept him as a father figure.
2006-06-09 18:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know some people can't think of a stepfather as their dad, but you don't have to take it that far at first. go from aquaintence to friend; and i imagine that's all you can be expected to do. you won't make the situation any better by staying resentful.
2006-06-09 19:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Stuie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be weird but talk to your mom about him and maybe u guys can hang out or have him take u places and spend time together. i think e veryone goes thro that if its not there real dad..
2006-06-09 18:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by nooooooooooooooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, pray about it and ask God's guidence. If he is good to your mom, and most important YOU, try to accept him.
2006-06-09 18:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by kycejo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋