how do i tell a spacific family member i don't like the way they treat thier children?

Question

they have currently asked me to care for them, they have lived with me for 5 months somehow it seems they involved me that way

the children live with me i mean

Answer 1

I will be very honest with you on this Most all parents are very, very, Very touchy when it comes to raising their children, and I will tell you this also, if you are very close to this family member it may hurt y'all relationship.
Now with that said If you are really concerned and really want to say something to them If I were you I would tread very carefully but, be very honest with them.
Let them know that you really care and you are not trying to hurt them but, you feel like they could do this or that a little differently, But If YOU do not have children of your own then I would think twice of saying anything at all because it will bother them.
If you do have kids you could say something like: "You know when my Bobbie did that I did this to fix that"Then that way it will not look like you are telling them that you don't like the way they are raising their child.

Answer 2

Honestly and without blame. State the reason that you feel it is not a good way to treat the children, and specific instances where you feel the child was hurt by the way they were being treated. State that you love and care about them and their children, and don't present it in a way you know will just make them upset or angry. Pick a time when it is just the two of you, and where you will have time to explain yourself. Be prepared for them to get angry with you; no parent likes to be told that they are not doing a good job. Offer to take the kids from time to time so that they can get a break if you think stress is what is causing the behavior.

Answer 3

Maybe try a indirect way at first, give the family member booklets on child & relationships.

Buy some childrens movies and books about families and give them as a gift for a holiday or Birthday.

Answer 4

If you absolutely have to say something... then I'd say to try not to make it sound like you're just pointing the finger at them and blaming them for something that is really none of your business. You're going to have to be very careful, because they will probably immediately get defensive. And, they will most likely be very offended. It could end up ruining your relationship with that person. Good luck!

Answer 5

well for starters if they are abusive then i would say to them that a child should not be abused by anyone . and then i would ask the kids in private if they are being abused by anyone . when they are alone of course. but if they say no then really no one can tell anyone how to raise there kids . when i was in that situation i call child protective services on them and they cooled right off .. i am not telling you to do that but i did it because the kids were being abused .

Answer 6

Well you can give them your opinion, but since they're not your children and if the parent is not being abusive, then you should just let them discipline how they want to.

Answer 7

You don't...sensitive issue with sensitive people=bad combination!!! Give slight suggestions, but you can't tell them that you don't like the way they treat their children because it's not your business!!!

Answer 8

you could try but only if you don't want to have a relationship anymore. People don't like advice on how to raise their children, TRUST me

Answer 9

I had to think a little, but, try this: Hey A@@hole, quit treating your children like *^&(!!!!!

Answer 10

well if the kids live with you then I would just bring up different issues as they arise... without appearing condescending or judgemental.