Why can't I cry?

Question

I've been going to counsiling because of of my abusive past but I can't cry about it. I've cried by myself. And not only that, but I had to say goodbye to alot of my friends today and I don't when/if I'll see them again and yet I didn't cry. But I'm going to miss them. I used to be able to cry, but now I just can't for some reason.

Answer 1

Due to your past you may have developed the habit of restraining your emotions because you had so much going on as a child.

Eventually they will start to come out. It will be intense, but it will open the doors for a lot more positive emotions. Just keep working through whatever happened to you.

Answer 2

Crying out of grief or even joy puts the person in a very vulnerable state. Maybe, from your history, you have built around you defense mechanisms that prevent you---for the time being---from making yourself that vulnerable if someone is around. I believe you, some day, will reach a point of healing where you will be more trusting that others won't hurt you and you will be able to be vulnerable enough to cry.

There is an old hymn we used to sing in church, "He washed my eyes with tears, that I might see." I'll pray for that for you.

I'm sorry you're sad, and that your friends are moving to a place that makes physical contact difficult. But email and the internet can help you stay in touch.

Answer 3

You may not ever cry about it or you might just not be ready to yet. Sometimes if you spend so long being sad and all you can do is cry eventually you get to the point where as much as you need or want to, you can't. Crying doesn't always mean that you're healing. If can't cry about it, don't worry. It doesn't mean that you aren't moving on with life.

Answer 4

You just need the right stimulus, like a movie that can make you cry (take out a video or DVD), or a song you might get very nostalgic about. I don't know how long you've been in counseling, but do you think it's important to cry there? Maybe you're a bit in shock with everything you've had to deal with, and when you're in shock you don't necessarily cry, you get clear-headed and act.

Answer 5

Maybe during your abuse, you learned not to allow your emotions to surface in front of others. Perhaps it would bring on more abuse or ridicule or you refused to give the abuser the satisfaction of seeing you become emotional. Maybe you learned that expressing your emotions made you feel weak. It takes time to get over abuse. You used hiding your emotions as protection during your abuse. It's hard to change so quickly. Your therapist will help you feel them and start crying again.

Answer 6

i havent cryed in three years, until a few days ago, a girl that i'v liked for a long time said no,and when i got home i cryed so hard blood started to come out of my eyes but i'm onley 12,i feel like a old man,ok what's the trick, your trying to make me cry again arent you? no i'm not really crying wright now, but why would you want to cry.

Answer 7

I have to agree that it's mental strength that's inhibiting your crying. Or it could also be delayed. When I found my mom.... well, let's just say when she passed away, it took about 2 or 3 hours for me to cry even though inside, I was ready to explode and totally flip out... eventually I did flip out and it felt good to finally let it out.

Answer 8

nothin wrong for no crying, it doesnt mean you dont have feelings, but if you doesnt cry maybe because you are a hardest person, beacuse all the punches in your past live, if you don t cry there are other ways to express your feelings, like talking , singing, in my person i prefer to hear music

Answer 9

You might have a tight feeling in not to cry. Like you might feel unsensitive about crying. And just sad.

Answer 10

i have that problem too, i guess im just not an emotional person. People say, you need to just let it out or one day you're gonna be overwelmed with sadness or whatever. Its not that i don't want to it just doesn't come out. You're not the only one.