I caught my having incestuous sex kids together. Should I tell their father?

Question

I tell them I expect the house clean by the time I get back from the store and running errands

I get to the store and I see forgot my list, and went back for it. I don't want 20 questions. So I figured I sneak in get the list and peek in on the twins to make sure they are cleaning up as I told them.

so I'm heading to my room when I see my 15 year old twin son and daughter are undressed and having intercourse! I couldn't believe it! I have a moment of brain freeze! I swear I went into shock as they climax! I come to my sense and start yelling at the top of my voice. I beat my son as he runs to his room. and slapping my daughter as she crying, "Please don't tell daddy!"
I know he'll be furious. I could kill them myself. But my husband there's no telling what he will do. The twins swear it was the 1st time. they are both begging me not to tell their father. I've never kept a secret from my husband especially about the kids. Should I tell their father?

If I don't tell their father what kind of punishment should I exact. What can I possible do that will get it acrossed that this behavior is strictly unacceptable?

I don't want you to think my husband is some hulking brute of a man. Actually he's a fairly successful doctor of Pedatric Oncology (Means he works with children cancers) he's a good father. Its just that when I saw my kids doing that. I was livid. I beat them rather hard. Hard than I ever did. I lost it for a bit. I'm just afriad that as a man my husband might do the same and hurt them. He's in great shape and he's very strong. Not to be sexist but men have a harder time controlling their emotions than us women do. its just the situation is not normal.

Maybe I'm too strict. I don't allow makeup. I don't go for todays more slutty fashions. dresses are no higher than the mid thigh. I don't care for exposing ones breast or mid riff. Do you think I was too strict?

Answer 1

I don't think there is a right answer for this one. However, I will attempt to tell you what I would do if I were in the situation.

I would not tell the father. There are some things that it is wise to keep from a spouse/loved one and I think this qualifies. Especially if you believe there will be nothing but really horrible consequences. The relationship between the twins and their father will change entirely and it will be hard enough for them losing their "good standing" status with you.

Seek counseling with them. Find out exactly why they chose each other. Why did they want to have sex? Why with their sibling? Do they realize that not only is it taboo but illegal? Do they know the consequences should your daughter become pregnant? The serious problems that could occur to the child?

For the time, it would be wise to keep them not necessarily apart, but not in close proximity either and never alone. If she should go into his room to pick something up, the door is to be wide open. Vice Versa.

This will take time. Good luck.

Answer 2

First, when you married it was for better or worse. These are the types of problems you work out together.Of course they are begging you don't tell dad. Moms are notoriously push overs. Its dad that usually lays down the law. At least that was the way it was in my family. don't get me wrong you did a great job putting a smack down on them. But Dad is where the real fear lies.

Second, I've never been one for therapist they think all problems either stem from the parents and can be cured with a drug.

Thirdly, Twins are very close. Maybe this started out as a little experimenting. Maybe it just got away from them. I'm not sure I believe this was their "1st" time. It didn't sound like you were gone long. These types of things build up and aren't spontaneous. Sounds more like they waited until they sure you were gone.

Lastly, both need to go away. Maybe camp. but one of a religious nature. yeah it sounds like you were too strict. your too old fashioned. girls need to show a little and feel pretty. and tell your husband not all men are going to go into a rage.

Answer 3

This is crazy! I'm sorry that you had to see something like this. Especially it being your twins. The first answer is YES, do tell your husband what you saw. This is something the both of you need to deal with together. Second , I just can't understand how and why they would have sex with each other? You say their both 15, right? At this age they usually have plenty of friends and or boy/girl friends to try kissing or seeing how far they can get with them instead of their own siblings. Unless they are living a very sheltered life, and are forbidden to have any outside friends?

Answer 4

You should deffinately tell their father. There is something seriously wrong. You should also go to family cunseling to figure out what would cause this behavior between siblings. This is by no means normal. I have heard that twins have a special bond that others don't understand. If you choose not to tell their father and you are still married to him, this most likely destroy your marriage. The father deserves to know and he may even have some insight that may be helpful in resolving this situation.

Answer 5

hahaha that is kind of funny. Really insane though. Well I don't know it depends, if you want them to be thrown out of th House, or face whatever consequences that dad will have set for them ,then tell him. If you learn to be OK with it, then don't tell the dad, and use what you have against them to make them do things for you, like cleaning the house or something. But I would not act quickly, give it some really hard thinking, and ask them why they chose each other out of all other people, and get all the reasonable details, and then come to a decision.

Answer 6

You know two things are to be asked here:
- they are twins which is as you may know by now, something very special. it's a strange relationship that most people can't understand!
- do you think punishing them for this, will solve the problem even for you??

I think you'd rather tell your husband about that and get in tough with a child psychologist to find out what was their purpose and if they're used to doing it.

Answer 7

Seems to me you would deal with her as a 14 12 months historical younger girl. That stated, be sincere, and inform her intercourse is a improvement of marriage, however as a rule you choose it in individual, and in some way the door wasn't locked. You will even advise she knock every time she enters anybody's bed room, that manner her little brother will be taught to do the equal.

Answer 8

This is a very serious one, you need to be wise and brave if you don't want to break up your family. You must understand you are will have to make a very difficult decision on this one. On the one hand, if you tell your husband, the kids might hate you forever, but not telling your husband would also bringup some form of barrier between you both and give room for problems later if he finds out especially since you guys don't keep secrets.

First, lets start from the twin. What could have happened? Where do you think they learnt this from? This could have been from peers and it could have been (I am not trying to blame you and your husband) you and your husband having sex. Don't just rush to tell your husband, it could breakup your home, but you are definitely going to tell him.
Sit the kids down and talk to them, where did they learn this from? If it is peer pressure, then you have to deal with those friends, possibly as far as going to see their parents so you can help those kids too. If the kids say they saw you and your husband doing it and they thought they could practise it too, then you will have to sit them down and educate them, let them know the implicaiton of what they have done and the consequences that go with it.

You will have to deal with one consequence immediately in ensuring the little girl is not pregnant, take her to go see a doctor, and have them clean her up, it could be tragic if she becomes pregnant.

You need to educated them, often kids are misled because their parents don't take time to teach them what sex is all about, they learn it from their friends and its often the wrong thing. You might need to discipline them, let them be grounded for a while. If it is possible, move one of them to go stay with one of your parents for a while, maybe the next holiday, this will help in helping them loose the emotions they have developed between themselves.

Finally, you need to bring your husband into this, as best as you can tell him and make sure he doesn't act irrationally. You could wake him up in the night and tell him you have to tell him something very important, tell him to promise you he will act wise and maturely, then tell him. Tell him what you have done to help the kids, this should be before you start taking any important decision like taking your daughter to see a doctor, because he might feel left out.

This answer is already becoming too long, please contact me so we can still talk, you could even introduce the kids to me online, i will try and help the male one especially as best as i can. Finally, you need to pray, i mean really pray, the devil is trying to make n roads into your family.

Answer 9

You have a serious problem. You need to tell your husband because if you don't, this won't be the last time this will happen. I am being deadly serious. I don't believe he will hurt them; I think they are just afraid of being in trouble.

Do you have porn in the house? This has happened with siblings before and porn would be involved. They might have gotten it and watched it; porn causes you to become so horny that you'll do it with anybody in the room with you! Its happened with my stepnephew and his brother. If this is the case, you need to throw that porn OUT immediately and discuss with your spouse.

You should talk to your husband about what happened or you'll make a mistake and regret it.

Answer 10

I caught seven and eight year old having sex, I ask they what are you both doing, they said they are trying to make a baby, I ask who is going to take of the baby, Mon will, I ask did you ask Mon if you could make a baby, oh no , I said don't you every tried to make no more babies they said OK, I never told the mother about it
and they never tried to make babies again,in you case it is kind a differing, talk to them tell them it is not right for brother and sister to have sex with each other,it is not right in the sight of men or in the sight of god , The bible say if a man shall his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter and see her nakedness,and she see his nakedness; it is a wicked thing; and they be cut off in the sight of of their people he hath uncovered his sister's nakedness he shall bear his iniquity, You can also let them read Leviticus 20:1-27 Please dont say anything to their father not all men understand these thing,be nice to them they will grow it out