I have been dating a wondeful man for about 3-4 years now, we were friends before we dated, he has been really helpful espically when I didn't have a full-time job and I know he loves me and I really do love him. Problem is I believe he wants to be much closer(intimate) you see were different races, he weighs 300 lbs and I weigh in at 118 and I think were both just scared. I'm no beginner and neither is he,if you what I mean. Matter of fact we've both been married. I feel really weird about the whole situation if there is anybody out there who may have had a similar situation let me know your thoughts? By the way his color or weight dosen't matter it's always scary trying something new.
I don't need no silliness here, only true and straight answers, you don't have anything good to say keep it to yourself.
2006-06-09 10:42:42 · 9 answers · asked by Barbie doll lover 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm simply in awe that you were able to wait that long before you decided to take your relationship to the bedroom...
If you are scared about the weight, woman on top and spooning are good choices. Same with doggy style.
Talk with him and find out what he thinks. Does he have the same concerns as you?
Also, I see no reason to post that he is of a different race. If it doesn't bother you any other time, why should it be a factor now?
2006-06-09 10:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Zoer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in that exact situation, (but clumsier because I was friends with the other person's ex as well... )
We both wanted to, but were afraid it would mess up our friendship, so we just made a pact that no matter WHAT happened between us romantically, we would still be friends like we are now, at the end. Even if we were the worst gf/bf combo ever, or hate each other in bed or cheat or forget to take out the garbage one week, to remember all the years that we've been friends, and if things go wrong, then the "experiment" would be over and we'd go back to being the friends that we were.
It worked. We were living together happily for a few years, then later she wanted something different from a mate (more of a family type than i am willing to be) so we split, she married someone else, and the two of us are still friends today and I couldn't be happier for her and her hub and she for me.
Without question the most painless breakup of my entire life and if I had to do it again, I'd do it the exact same way. And if anyone asks me if they should diddle their friends, I'd tell them my story and say to do it just like that.
2006-06-09 17:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Besmirched Tea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you're afraid he's crush you?
Try the "girl on top" position, or "guy behind" (aka doggie style)
Or you mean different skin color is the "new" thing that scares you?
Then dim the light, and start slow - with backrubs and stuff.
2006-06-09 17:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I don't understand. You and your partner are both scared of making a bigger committment? So...take it slow? There is no set time limit on relationships and you don't HAVE to even get married. Just relax.
2006-06-09 17:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his race and weight don't matter, why'd you mention them? If you love him as much as you say, it shouldn't be a problem at all.
2006-06-09 17:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to think this hard about it, your not ready to take it to another level. It will just happen.
2006-06-09 17:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Los 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a wonderful guy..and you sound like a wonderful girl...Love him for him..he has loved you for you..I think you have found your soulmate...
2006-06-09 17:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he'll just have to be gentle and not crush you :)
it should be fine, though. are you guys going to get married?
2006-06-09 17:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spooning
2006-06-09 17:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by downtownjoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋