ok if you spank your child what do you use? and how long do you spank for?

Question

a smack is a single swot.spanking is more than 1

Answer 1

Spare the rod and spoil the child.
It is ok, and more so, it is Biblical, to "spank" children when they deserve it. It is imperative though, to always bring across the point that it is out of love, and not because you hate them. Don't spank them lightly. Make them cry and regret what they have done. Just don't damage them permanently. I know it may sound harsh but it is an integral part of discipline. After spanking, embrace the child and express your love for the child, making it clear that they were wrong and they deserved their punishment.

Answer 2

To other answerers: Since when did giving a child a tap to shock them become child abuse? The laws, I am afraid to say, are wrong. Why in the h*ll should a 3-year-old run (for example) run around like an idiot and possibly even break things or depress the parents and then accuse the parents of child abuse if they discourage them? Beating the sh*t out of a child is child abuse, not a hit on the back of the hand or the bottom area.

All I'm saying is one or two short, sharp (but not particularly painful) "spanks" on the bottom or even the back of the hand (if their "crime" was not too serious) is exactly what a child needs to make them behave, otherwise they grow up to be inconsiderate arseh*les. This is different from child abuse because it does not hurt at all, it just scares them a LITTLE bit into behaving, then they behave and the spanking ends. Simple.

Answer 3

If you even care about your children and want them to grow up confident and happy, you wouldn't spank. This is what spanking and hitting a child will do:
It leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. Buy some discipline books. No expert recommends that spanking is effective. If you make spankings really hurt, then you are crossing the line leading to abuse.

Answer 4

When I think I have to, I will spank. A single spank as a warning they are getting close to a few spanks over my lap for something serious. It really depends on the situation.

For parents that choose to use it, it is permitted as long as it is reasonable and nothing like what we used to get back years ago.

Answer 5

What do they do wrong so bad that physical violence has to be used to make your kids understand their wrong-doings?
Do you remember your childhood? If you do - then were you ever hit? Maybe so, but if so, that is no reason to do it.
I have two boys (they are bigger than me now at 28 & 30 yrs old) and I smacked the butts each once only at the age of 5 & 7 when they really gave my mother a hard time. Her own fault I guess as she was too soft with them. But I have never used any form of violence since that day...and guess what?
When I and their mother split about the same era - they were brutally treated by HER!
Nine yrs later when I lived 400 miles from them - they both left the mum and came to stay at my house.
Now...at 28 & 30 yrs old - they both work at the same company as dad!
Nice one, eh...don't hit - simply deprive of kiddy-type goodies and that is real bad punishment to them.
They will still love you after that, but violence will not only turn your children against you - but may also lead them into a similar lifestyle.

Answer 6

Whatever I call it - a spanking, a smack, a whoopin - it never amounts to more than one swat on a pant covered bottom.

It is the thought that counts. And anything more than a threat or an attention grabbing swat, gives the child an excuse later to instill abuse on whoever or whatever they are upset with.

Answer 7

i really dot know how to answer this! my boyfiend has brought his 3 children up for the past 6 years, since there mum walked out! in march, after my boyfriends mother had died suddenly, my boyfriend was obviously upset-but his 13year old son who had been stealing from him pushed it 2 far and stole the money for the funeral flowers...the stealing had been going on for a while and this time my boyfriend had had enough! he smacked his son, slapped him...how ever you want to say it, but because his son moved out of the way, he ended up with a slap or hand mark on him! it was 2 smacks...not punches, not as in hitting him but as in discipline....the ex wife went completely over the top andgot social services invovled! the next day, the 3 kids were taken from my boyfriend and placed with there mum (who has had very little to do with them in 6years) my boyfriend is now on bail! He has been bailed each time he has gone back to the police to see whats happening-he hasnt seen his kids, until he passed the son on wednesday morning and even then his son was going to cross the road to avoid him-thursday the police said he intimadated the witness! its his son! the ex wife is loving it...poisoning the kids against there dad-my boyfriend is heartbroken! so i dont think i would smack my kids anymore....to many interfer while ur trying to teach ur kids rigght from wrong! thats obviously why the world today (or at least the uk) is in such a mess!

Answer 8

if you insist on spanking your child 1 no-more than 2 to the butt or thigh.
but spanking only causes them 2 get violent tendencies when older.
try and take away treats and have a naughty step / room and put them in it until they apologise or calm down.
this will also give the child time to contemplate about what they done wrong but remember 2 make it clear to the child that they are on the naughty step because.........

Answer 9

I think spanking is barbaric! Your word is more powerful if it is delivered with love. Spanking? Come on? That is a person who cannot control his/her emotions and is inflicting anger on someone who cannot defend themselves. Barbaric and selfish at the least! And you want to use a weapon! What do you use...you are going in the wrong direction. How log do you spank for? I am feeling ill....

Answer 10

a single spank is ok as long as you dont cause any brusing, a spank on the leg or hand is fine just use you hand or a ruler but watch how hard you do it. it is the shock value that does it not pain.